Page 8, The Heraid, Wednesday, October 4, 1978

DearAbby

Won’t Spend Time With Grieving Dad

By Abigail Van Buren

© 1978 by Gnicega Tribune N.Y. News Synd. Ine

DEAR ABBY: Lam a married woman who was never very close to my parents after my marriage, ] was comfortable with the way things were, and so were they.

My mother died recently, and J would feel very hypocritical were J to suddenly smother my father with a lot of attention. I sat with him and the rest of the family every day and evening for the duration of the official mourning

riod (one week), and now that it’s over I have resumed my

ife as before. My father is not helpless. He has always been very independent and he knows my phone number if he wants me. . . _ My problem is my sister. She is making me feet very guilty because she is constantly with Dad. I don't feel that I have to compete with my sister by putting in equal time with Dad.

Please help me with some answers.

FEELING GUILTY

DEAR GUILTY: Guilt fo a judgment we feel ageluat ourselves, No one can make you feel guilty. If you feel guilty, you probably earned it.

It’s just as well that you don't feel compelled to spend time with your grieving tather in order to compete with your sister because he'd surely sense your ineceurity, and your presence would affer him Little comfort,

DEAR ABHY: You recently published a letter from an Oklahoma reader who suggested sprinkling mothballs on the lawn to keep dogs away.

The writer must not have had small children, because that is a very dangerous practice. My small son ate half a mothball at my mother-indaw’s home and we had to rush him to the hospital to have his stomach pumped!

Although mothballs have a very unpleasant order, they LOOK like candy, and most children will eat anything that jooks like it might laste good,

Abby, please tell your reader's that children can die if they ingest mothballs. There must be a better way lo keep dogs off one's lawn.

ALICE IN SAN BRUNO

DEAR ALICE: Thank you and all the ethers who wrote to urge me ta retract that suggestion.

DEAR ABBY: 1 married a divorced Catholic in Mexico back in 1959. He said his church would not let him marry again, and this was the anly way he could make our marriage egal.

In Mexico we found an office where a man was selling marriage applications for $25. We bought one and filled it out and signed it. The man who sold it to us alse signed it, and that was that.

We split up after one year. What ] want to know is this: Is that marriage still legal? Was it ever filed anywhere in the United States? Or are we married only in Mexico?

Thaven’t seen this man in 18 yearsand now want to marry a guy ina legitimate way. Hf marry him without mentioning the Mexican marriage am I comitting bigamy?

I can’t find any information about this in the library, and my wedding date is drawing near. Sign me...

“WAS DUMB AT 23”

DEAR WAS DUMB: Some Mexican marriages (and divorces) are valid and some are not. Play it eafe and consult a lawyer, He {or she} will tell you—rapidamente!

CONFIDENTIAL TO ML. IN KETTERING, OHIO: If you want your children to keep their feet on the ground, put some responsibility on their shoulders.

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