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By Abigail Van Buren

«* 1979 by Chicago Tritune-N.¥. News Synd. Inc.

DEAR ABBY: I am a young man who will be married soon. A problem has come up. I have an aunt and uncle {I'll call Aunt Sue and Uncle Joe) who were my favorite relatives while I was growing up and they always treated me as if i were their own son. They are my god parents.

Well, some time ago, something happened between my parents and Aunt Sue and Uncle Joe. They haven't spoken since. J still don’t know what was behind the quarrel.

I would like to send Aunt Sue and Uncle Joe an invitation to my wedding.

My parents may be hurt if I do, but I feel that if my parents want to hold a grudge, it is THEIR grudge, not mine. ] am not sure my aunt and uncle would accept even if they were invited, but I think they'll appreciate being asked.

What do you think? C. IN NEW ORLEANS

DEAR C.; Your attitude shows great understanding and raaturity. Children should not be expected ta “inherit” and

perpetuate the grudges of their parents. (P.S. If you decide |

to invite them, advise your parents in advance.|

DEAR ABBY: When I am looking at merchandise in a store and a salesperson inquires in an almost-menacing, authoritative manner, “May I help you?" I always say, “No, thanks, I'm just looking.” Then [ invariably move on.

Perhaps if I had been left alone te look a littie longer, I'd have decided to buy something. But when help is offered while I am trying to make a decision, Iam forced Lo make an instant detision which is almost always negative.

Please tell salespeople that, if they want to make-a sale, _

they should let the customer took around unti] he makes up

his mind to buy. . ; ; INTIMIDATED BY SALESPEOPLE DEAR INTIMIDATED: Where do you shop? In most

"places these daya you have to beg a salesperson to write up

your sale. I agree that = salesperson who intimidates the customer loses the sale, but an offer to help need not be “gjenaeliig add authoritative.” How about a friendly, cdeual, fon-intimidating, ‘If you need any help, please let me

_keow.”. .

DEAR ABBY: Over the weekend I attended a friend's

- wedding. When] got home, I told my mother that the best

man collected money for those who wanted lo dance with the bride or groom for a two-minute period. Mother thought this was cheap. She said she attended one wedding where

this was done and everyone at her table thought it was.

disgusting. Others say this is a tradition and can benefil the couple by paying ior their honeymoon hotel room, for exam- ple. 1 am getting married soon and would like your opinion.

‘ DEE

DEAR DEE: Unless this is an accepted custom in your’

social group, don't dance for dollars.

DEAR ABBY: I was amused to read about the man who wanted his ashes scattered over the grounds of the country elub that wouldn't have him as a member,

Perhaps his motives are the same as my sister's. An ar- dent fan of the Chicago Cubs, she wants her ashes scattered over Comiskey Park, hoping the ashes will be blown into the eyes of a White Sox player during a crucial play!

; C.E.L. FORT WAYNE. IND,

Your Individual. |

Horoscope

: === Frances Drake

FOR TUESDAY, JULY 10, 1979

ARIES (Mar, 21 to Apr. 19) Vuk

You may feel frustrated. in

‘your work or concerned about

a problem. Downplay ego — not the time to force Fests or. to insist on own: way. TAURUS (Apr. 20 to May 2) Oa” The accent is on patience. It may be too soon to act on advice rea child er dependent.

Postpone decisions © or business ventures. GEMINI

(May 21 to June 20) a Parental opposition or the caution of a superior may th- wart plans. Be considerate of others with whom you share the same roof. ; CANCER (June 21 to July: 22) Sty Your caution..makes you hesitant to go along with a partner’s plan. Your wun- certainty spills ‘over. into the area of joint finances.

LEO (July 23 to Aug. 20) ER

Make sure your financlal situation measures up to

Social plans, You could be .

going in over your head. Avaid friction with friends. mp

VIRGO (Aug. 23:to Sept, 22

Your reluctance to go along with a superior’s thinking could be misinterpreted as insubordination.. Forego a tendency to criticize,

RA

(Sept. 23 to Oct. 22) ars:

The opposition of others may require that you consider their . viewpoints ‘before planning a trip. Mixing social life and business dulls per-

ceptivity.

SCORPIO , (Oct. 23 to Nov. 21) Me

Not a time to ask Eriends for

favors, especially financial

ones. Unrealistic thinking mars :travel plans. Be skep- tical of bargains,

‘ SAGITTARIUS —

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Business . affairs requiring cooperation at a standstill, Avoid signing papers — the picture is tov muddled for clear decisions. :

‘CAPRICORN

(Dec. 22 ta Jan. 19) Wag

Attend to duty; superiors

are liable to be in a critical .

mood. Avoid carelessness with either possessions ar cash. Don’t misplace things. AQUARIUS a (Jan. 20 to Feb. 18) *™

4 secret plan may have ta .

_ be scratched. Toe much

aggressiveness in a romantic situation could lead to a rebuff. Cool it,

PASCES

' (Feb. 19 to Mar. 20) KEY

Others may not go along with your ideas for having fun. On your own, you could easily lapse — into Protect reputation.

indiscretion.

ACRAAN

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