Page 10, The Herald, Monday, October 16, 1978

A Rift Over Gifts

By Abigail Van Buren

© 1078 by Chicago Tribune-N.¥. News Synd. ine,

DEAR ABBY; Our daughter, 24, is being married to a 2-year-old man who was married before. (No children.) His marriage lasted less than two years. This is our daughter’s first marriage.

The problem: we're giving our daughter a lovely church wedding. The groom's parents (who are socially very prominent) say they will attend, but they prefer not to send any of their friends or relatives in- vitations to the wedding. Their reason: “All of our friends and relatives gave wedding presents to our son just two years ago—and once is enough.”

Abby, what has our daughter to do with the wedding gifts his first wife received? Do you think the groom's parents have a right to cut down on the number of lovely gifts our daughter will receive just because her fiance was married before?

ANAHEIM

DEAR ANAHEIM: A wedding invitation is a bid for one's presence—not presents. But if the parents of the groom cheose not to send invitations for that—or any

IDearAbby,

DEAR ABBY: A girl signed “Under Age and Over Developed” wrote, “Whoever said, ‘boys like good girls,’ is crazy!” .

Well, she is dead wrong, I’m a 19-year-old male college student, and when I go out with a girl, all I éxpect is good company and nothing more. My problem is getting girls to believe that there are a lot of @uys like myself who are saving themselves for marriage, They think I'm weird or gay or living in the stone age.

If I thought that women were goed for sex only I could save myself a lot of time and money by just picking up a prostitute. Don’t get me wrong, Abby, I’m not one of those holier-than-thou characters. I just don't want all the guilt that goes with pre-marital sex. And Ecertainly don't need torisk getting VD or causing an accidenta) pregnancy. ;

Please keep telling girls (and boys) to keep their standards high. I’m still old fashioned enough to want the girl I marry to be a virgin, and I hope there are some girls out there who appreciate the same kind of

guy. Sign me... STILL CLEAN AT NINETEEN

DEAR STILL: There ore. And thanks for a refreshing letter.

DEAR ABBY: I am a grown woman and I’m so

- ashamed of my problem I don't want to ask anybody

else, so I'm turning to you. Tam never sure which fork or spoon touse when I am

ata fancy dinner. I usually wait tosee which utensil the.

others are using, then I follow suit, but I would like t be sure myself. :

Can you help me? DUMBATTHIRTY

DEAR THIRTY: Please don't call yourself ‘dumb.’ You are smart enough to ask.

Follow this simple rute: When silverware is lined up on elther side of the plate, use the spoon (or fork) that is on the outelde (farthest from the plate) first, and

-other reason—it’s their privilege.

work toward the plate.

What kind of day will today be? To find out what the stars say, read the forecast given for 4 your birth sign.

ARIES . (Mar. 21 to Apr. 20) Ng noe Daydreaming could steal eu time and cause the day to pass without achievement. Apply yourself and a project could be a successfully concluded. . — (Apr. 21 to May 1 O&g™ The odds are against suc

cess right now, so bide your time effectively. Study arguments, go over plans, get ready to act when things look

right. GEMINI L a (May 22 to June 21)

Don’t let haste cause you to - hurt the feelings of others. Be ie especially sensitive to co a worker. Avoid giving too mary orders,

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If you're alert and flexible, you may discover a solution to a problem that’s been nagging you. Careful thoughts In- dicated.

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wise to consider carefully. You could be making a serious mistake.

VIRGO

(Aug, 24 to Sept. 23) "P ‘Eh, ‘Wait for the proper moment

before you uncover a new and

revolutionary plan. More

research may be needed to

launch your idea.

LIBRA

(Sept. 24 to Oct, 23) £5 The odds are against you in

making a major decision just now. If yue postpone action for a few days, things will go better.

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Be sure that you'll be pleased

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for them midweek, Wind up all

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Good feelings reign today. Plan a gathering of close friends and relatives. You should have something im- portant to celebrate soon.

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Marrieds will enjoy a period of contentment; singles will move toward a more per- manent and lasting relationship.

PISCES 5 4 (Feb. 20 to Mar. 20)

Let competitors know that you are in charge. Stick up for your athievements and don't hesitate to take credit where deserved

YOU BORN TODAY have a deep respect for the past and cherish the heritage your family has down to you. Your love of beauty has a strong influence on all you do. Muasile, art and the theater are

posalble careera, although you —

would do well in business, politics,or diplomacy. An audience brings out the best in you a and you area excellent public apeaker. Writing might provide an outlet for your many creative talents, as could acting. Despite your outward assurance, you are a basically shy per- son, and you treasure your privacy. Birthdate of: Angela Lansbury, actress.

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