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That tattoo and imp

-" By Lawrence E. Lamb, M.D,

. Ing tattoos and, of all things,

*. seldom capable of ejacula- ‘except for a brief time.

- ‘prohlem? Upon first learning

‘WEDNESDAY, MARCH 6, 1974

‘DR. LAWRENCE E, LAMB.

chances.of Overcoming these »., prablems? What steps should we take jn that direction?’ DEAR READER — Your. real problem is nat the tattoo but your sexual relations with |

~The Private — Life

your husband: There is no _way ‘the tattoo itself‘ can cause impotence. |. “For a complete

7 DEAR DR. LAMB = Thave an'unusual question concern:

impotence, My problem seems so weird that I hesitate to'bother you with il, but itis - . , very. impor: . tant to me. My hus- band has a tattoo on his penis. I can- not unders- , tand how any : man could do . such a thing, or do | know” when it was. : . , doit. He says when he was a kid, and dis- missed-it quite casually. Suffice it to say that I did not know about this tattoo. prior to our recent marriage. He is -in his early 40s and has prob- lems of impeLency. He is very

Dr. Li lete discussion

on that subject, write tome in care of this newspaper, P.O. Box 1551, Radia City Station, .

‘ New York, N.Y. 'and ask for the booklel an “Impotence.” Send'50 cents to cover casts, Getting a tattoo does have psychological significance, and it is more often an adven- ture’‘of a ‘young man. You might be surprised to learn that, although the location of your: husband's: tattoo -is unusual; It'is certainly not a first. It often. is associated °

tion and’ frequently cannot - ‘get an erection or maintain it

_~ Could this tattoo haye any- thing todo vith my husband's

“about ‘this tatloo, it did dis- turb me, but | put it from my”

_ often adequate. When a deep:

mind — never expressing cri- ticism.in any wa

"a our. jovemaking { have - ' hazard. It is one way‘of get-.-

always .been ‘careful not to ; put my husband ‘down, ‘and : have shown Jove, encourape- ment,’ and understanding. - But, his pessimistic, attitude, demanding, hostile, and er-

- yatie’ behavior -.-~. in < other -

areas as well - has become

almost unbearable.’ I do care: him and-would like lo - of -responses may be a result of |

, for ‘help him, but uniess he can - and will get help,. 1 cannot

continue with, our marriage

much longer.

:* Would: you please give'me. ‘your honest opinion as to the

‘bearing-‘that “his ‘tattoo: -—

_possib iy psychological fac-.”

‘ars responsible for such a

: . :"daring ‘venture” may have : Lan his problems of impotence:

‘and other emotional prtab- ‘lems?’ And, what are the

~prafessional help. tf your let-:

“if there is already a problem

with a night an the town and top much. to drink. Getting.-a tattoo anywhere’ is a health,

ting viral hepatitis from in-.- fected needles. 5. So

The tattoo may make your. husband: veluctant-;io seek

ter-js ‘an accurate presenta--

‘tion; ‘then he’ -could - benefit ‘from ils: ; ‘

Much of his attitude and.

his Jess than optimal. sexual erformance. Difficulty in

. that-area. is a sizeable prob-

lem to.cope with, particularly

in confidence. As Lhave men: - tioned ‘before, in many ins- tances of . impotence . prob- lems, particularly. in. mea below the age of 50, (he most

common problem is a psy-..

chological one. This is true

with :or- without: a: tattoo. Sometimes the p: chological roblem -is iiterally.fear. “of failure, or itcan be related to | severe guilt reactions, - usually. about early *séxua praciices. © cena The: best

Unless something significant

- js discovered there, the next: to see’ a psy-.-

step should be chiatrist ‘for counseling. : If reassurance is needed, a. short period of counseling is

seated guilt complex is the real ‘cause, it. may require . more time. In. any case, a” mat in his early 40s -is too young to have -this type of problem as'a ‘normal variant of sexual responses, and ‘it deserves evaluation and treatment. ~ : ve

Meanwhile ‘you are wise not to complain or. become too demanding.. [t ‘will “be

imecessary, ‘though, for. the

two of you to'talk about it As

_a loving wife. your altitude .

should be’ one: of: concern about his welfare. With that. attilude and. your -concern that-he get. the -most out. of life, you might, be able to.give . him the support that he needs .

-to.seek professional help... DEAR DR. LAMBS > Lama »

irl of 20, and I just had sex ior the first time. It was two ‘days before my: periad. My’. ‘boyfriend withdrew -before

he reached a climax. Is there - ~a chance of my getting preg--

nant? I don’t know if Fhad an orgasm or nat. It only lasted -

-about five’ or 10 minutes, so

_am -Latill a virgin? ©. .:

" DEAR READER — In it's broadest sense the term virgin can even be used for any unmarried woman engaged in religious activity.

‘Ina narrower sense it refers to being “pure” and “chaste.” :

Coramonly ‘it means not hav:

_ ing had sexual relations. So,_

it depends upon which defini- tion you might choose. to use.

be reassured that they were

“LETTER FROM ASSET, > QUEEN CHARLOTTES

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seg elvira C. Bryant ©.

people seem

week, and

Despile the smallness of any: botlle or. twa smashed on the. area, theré usually are, a lot ‘of “walkway every morning of things going on in any active weekend. rea Mei community, that: keep the bowling alley is literally liltered majority of people “on the go.” . with an accumulation of broke ; Messet is no exception to this glass and debris onsidewalk, at slatement. . . - the edge of the road, and ex- -- Last week the School District

- held--a. special banquet. and gathering to honour Alex Taylor’ and his wife, Alex had served the district for more . than twenty-five years as @ schoal iuslee, An engraved marble pen stand was presented tohim at this time, and Alex had also” received a. Long Service Cer-_ tificate fromthe B.C, Scheol Trustees Association, =." : > ~ At the time Alex firs! joined the School “Board -there were. eight. teachers and seven, trustees. At the time he decided 1o"give up this position, there |

owns the home next door, “It must be thal .peopte are oblivious to their surroundings or home to each must be “ever Wke this”, . - One day {he post office when & car drove up and. parked culside, The woman who was-driving had a carful of young males, As I . walked outside, down wenl & window and one boy smashed a bottle-out on the sidewalk, : Of

woman: if she owned the car outside and why Lasked, go that she did go out and admonish the youth lo pick’up-the i wondered afterwards -would

were seventy leachers and” seven trustees. There were many boat journeys made 10 huard meetings and a write-up . she have noticed, this broken of some of the experiences then, * glass if 1 hadn't :noticed : the aa contrasted with now, would ‘happening? 9

make an Interesting story:- 6° |

Interspersed with Alex's. _humeur: this would well be worth the reading. 7 : Tuesday evening of this week, many of the students enjoyed - ihe music of the Bitter Wind group ata school dance held'in:, the Magic’ Mushroorfi . at ihe Seegay Hotel: 1 was ins” teresting (0 observe that-about, . the'same length of time elapsett -pefore these people got up to, ee dance alter their sprite orcoke~ ff. - drink, as. occurs ata dance fe. _ slrielly for adults. , There must -—i- be,.a: similar., psychological ” stimulus obtained . from”.a ! beverage, whether it is non. -aleoholic ‘or alcoholic! Once this magic time passed by there ‘ seemed Lobe just standing room | * only for the dancers, On that . particular evening a. severe storm. reached . Masset, 80 thal Gn braving Lhe elements for the . homeward trip'one was pleased to have the protection ‘of the long gowt:- Fe . ct ds noteworthy that. the majorily. of, the maids and maidens who attend these festivities do. wear events “wns, The-patterns are also in Shei best auilre and this really . adds lo the scerie,-. Those who just git around to watch and - @njoy the music are also treated | 10 the fighting effects from the whirling Jamp which forms a _ part.of the dance floor canopy. “Tf this neatness of appearance , ~ and pride in self ‘presentation ° could only be extended’ (o the environment in, which all these J .. “ people live we would ellrninate the problem of pollution, Butas. g- It Is there seems to he a new -

«knowledge “The area: near the’ .: musk b

tending into the yard of whoever »

| happened to be in ° course back I-went to ask. the -

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onzpation. '*

young’; women “assured. that they.

nlace to’ start. is: with a medical. evaluation. -

‘woman capable o

Young giris used to wish to-.

Itis quite amazing ‘how many _- thinking. ‘to have. an’ ,progress erroneous impression. of the photographing of the etheric — beliefs of another, “A large: envelope reached me this past this time at least, the - - | donor did have a- name and

[address on the :front caver.

Another “friend. sent ..boaklets many wecks ago thal are as yet: - -unread,- » :All--one's,,.reading: . ' gannol’ be” given ‘to “one’ par’. :-F ticular area.. of. interest, ; able ta sense : especially when-one is involved in: another. prafezsionally : in’ a epecific - thoughts

ation,’ : The ‘search for-.

Is’ ’-ualimited --but- =" must ‘be contined - lo ‘what is & considered,.to ‘be’ of an” ith: “mediate value tp the reader, So . one'says thanks to’the donors

- THE HERALD,

ti:

fo want”. tobe. : are no’: longer “virgin. It's: some--

times hard to tell if the girl . -

* wants “reassurance -or “con - gratulations.; °° -,- LE don't know of any single -

absolute rule to give an un- qualified statement: that-a repnancy

i isn’t. pregnant. The. odds,

however, are heavily in your . «

favor. agdinst your. being. pregnant. If you have a

» period after sexual relations,

it usually-means that no fer- tilized egg has been im- janted in the. uterus, fowever, a few women con: tinue to have menstrual pericds at the onset of their « pregnancy, Or; what is ~

- assumed to be menstruating |

may be “spotting.” But again, _ an episode of bleeding that ° clearly resembles previous -

. periods, that oceurs on time, -

‘Increases the fikelihood many. fold: that you.are not pregnant. oe : ow, ifyau plan to continue” -sexual relations you should at_, least: learn enough about sex to protect .yourself. That in- cludes protecting -yoursel£ -from both an unwanted preg- ‘nancy and venereal disease. . The withdrawal technique is one of-the poorest forms of birth control. A few couples . have -had surprisingly good - luck. with “it, but statistics , show that it is far less effec- tive than the pill, IUD or the condom.'Of these three’ men- | tioned methods of birth con-

trol, only the condom, pro- - _perly used, offers any -

reasonable protection

~“ against venereal disease,

_ Dr..Lamb welcomes your .° letters, bul" because of the large volume of mail,-he can

: answer individually only let- ters used Inhis column. Write -..

to Dr, Lamb in care of: this: newspaper, P.O. Box 1551, Radio ‘City Station, : New York, N.Y. 10019. ote, “(NEWSPAPER ENTERPRISE ASSN

has enabled the

and -shown. how changes in discharged from. the body: Experiments

with others are. no doubt’ broughtabout ina similar way. i This: is why some people are dislike orsistrust It. is likely ‘our

ee

“directing “positive - loving ‘thought. ii, the direction, of, ariother, the possibility exists

bul continues to peruse firelly that such thoughts would easily the books personallyfor reading — penetrate the outer aufa ‘and : purposes. 2. 0-2). 1) dispel much of the animosity ae oy * "Weld ty theother, In so doing ’ | §ince- many religions appear we would probably be fcllowing

to me to be a. type of “glosed shop”, I would rather concern myself with the formulating af : the “one big union’? policy, One _ cannol. eliminate Buddha, ‘Allah; or even Joseph Smith, ' one’s. time © ¢x- clusively to Jesus Christ. Jt ibe. _ as simple to state as thal. al a ad: ould . be.

and ~devote.

- the. inspired anes. have

yoraied Do as you W

~ done by" in various lerma, The ue worldwide . problem is “man’s |,

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In 1965, two years after we were married, Harvey suffered a sinking spell and had severe chest pains. We called my father in the middle of the night. * Dad is a physician. He told him he had a-heart problem, He instructed Harvey Lo “take it. easy” and cut out all strenuous activity. ‘

‘Shia meant

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serlous dent In our sex life. Harvey was so afraid of dying. while having sex that he was impotent most of the time,

Two weeks ago Harvey caught the flu. My father, was

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in the hospital. in a few days he

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When he asked specifically about his heart problem he was told that his heart is perfect.

‘This so. baffled us that the:

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report was problem, and there everwasone.” —: When my husbdnd thinks of the years he has wasted “being careful” he could wring my father's ‘neck, Tm plenty

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