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I got these cards to use as a thank-you to those people who were kind enough to send my son money for his high-school graduation. I know my son, and I was aware that if I relied on him to hand-write his thank-you notes, they would never get done. What would be better, this or no thank-you note at all? I typed the labels for each of the kind people who sent presents, and he signed the cards and sent them off. I received back in the mail one of the cards with the label torn off and a message typed on it: “This is really shab- by...Keep your thanks!!!” The envelope was also typed, so the sender is unknown to me, or I would call and apologize for their finding the note of- fensive. Now I am concerned that others might have been of- fended, and I wonder if I should send a message of apology to everyone. My hus- band and I feel embarrassed and wish to rectify the situa- tion, if you think it would be the right thing to do. GENTLE READER — Miss Manners appreciates your de- sire to do the right thing, even in response to a rude reaction to your well-meant blunder, but she is not sure you are prepared to hear what the right thing really is. The right thing is to make your son write the letters. He need not apologize directly, but can start each letter by saying, “I wanted to thank you personally...” Never mind that you know your son, and he’ll never do it. You are the parents, and moralizing, nagging and supervising are your tasks. By taking his tasks upon yourself, as you did by relieving him of the letter-writing chore, you are depriving him of growing into responsible adulthood as surely as if you had taken his school examinations for him or eaten his vegetables. Miss Manners knows this will be hard for you at this stage, even harder than the considerable task of writing humbling letters yourself. But you must do it. DEAR MISS MANNERS — My husband and I recently had a pool installed in our back yard. We worked hard to afford this luxury, but the neighbours talk as if we'll be running a community swim club this summer. They are dropping hints, such as “My children are so anxious to try out your new pool.” I may barely know the mother’s name, let alone the children’s, but now we're the closest of friends. These same neighbours have rudely ignored my attempts to be friendly since we moved in three years ago, when I attempted to strike up conversations. Instead they have made references to my youth and the fact that I work rather than stay home. Maybe I have some resent- ment because I feel this sud- den friendliness is phony. How do I politely let them know that the pool was in- stalled for my family’s use and we don’t intend to be life- guards for their children all summer? GENTLE READER — _ It is true that a swimming pool is a classic example of what Miss Manners believes is known as an attractive nui- sance, which in this case means that it has attracted Miss-Manners By JUDITH MARTIN the local nuisances. And Miss Manners defends your right not to have to entertain the neighbourhood; you need only say “I’m afraid we really can’t have people using it when we're not there — insurance problems, you know — and usually when we are there, it’s because my husband and IJ have found just a little time to relax alone.” But let’s be slightly more charitable, shall we? (Easy for Miss Manners to say, consider- ing it’s your pool.) You did, after all, once think it desirable to be on friendly terms with your neighbours. What about throwing a neighbourhood pool party in, say, midsummer? Don’t do it at the beginning, or it will look as if you are opening the pool season. 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