Mother Shocked - By Teen's Letter . By Abigail Van Buren © 1078 by Chicago Tripune-N.¥. News dynd, Inc. DEAR ABBY: I am so upset I hardly know how to start this letter. While straightening up my teen-age daughter's room, i came across a letter from a friend of here in another state. [read it, partly out of curiousity, and partt to determine if it was samathing that could be discarded, 1 was horrified at the filthy language, and also at the girl’s delight in having found a theater that shows only dry This letter also described family possessiona and “yacations,” but Abby, I know the girl’s parents and correspond with them, and this girl wae writing lies, What should I do? Now I suspect that my daughter must be responding to these lettera in equally filthy languago, and since this girl is my daughter's best friend, I must assume that my daughter's tastes run toward dirty rant these kids know th filling ' m’t these kids know that their minds and mouths with garbage will do them no ? Should I write to this girl's mother and tell her to talk with her daughter? Should I talk with my daughter and tell her what I’ve leartied? Or are we too late to shape our children's morals once they've reached their teens? CONCERNED MOTHER DEAR CONCERNED: If you have done your best to shape your daughter’s morals, you need not conalder yourself a “failure.” Some teenagers feet “big” and grown-up using gutter language, exaggerating and even alittle for effect, but that doean't mean they are “no ,” If they have been properly brought up {and even the beat-reared children sometimes go through this stage), they will outgrow It. At the appropriate time, aubtly warn your daughter that mucking sround in the lower registers of apeech and entertalnment can be habit forming. In the meantime, keep the avenues of communication open between you and your daughter, and don’t shake her confidence In you by letting her know that you were snooping. You were, you ow. DEAR ABLY: How does a father who has excelled in sports all his life adjust to a 14-year-old eon who has never shown even a normal interest in sports? * Trealize that not all boys can be great athletes, but my son has the build for it, and the coordination, too. He could be really good if ha wanted to, but he’s lazy, and he isn't, competitive in anythin Thave done my best to get hie interested in sports ever | airiée he was old enough to hold a ball, Abby, but it never caught coddeHeve.ma;it’s not.easy.to bea good father toa — boy like this. Any suggestions? Me SAD DAD . Your Individual. Horoscope FOR WEDNESDAY, JUNE 7, 1978 What kind of day will tomorrow be? ‘To find out what the stars say, read the forecast git:.. aoc your birth Sign. ARIES (Mar. 21 to Apr. 20) WEA This is no time for pee *? — especially if a or - task Is really worth P eeceod, evena third try. Your ability to peralst ls the answer. TAURUS (Apr. 21 to May 21) OMe” An analytical look GEMINI (May 22 to June 23) Emphasize your resour- cefulness and sense responalbility. It will pay off in the days ahead. Do not let down in effort until projects are satistactorily completed. CANCER (tune 22 to July 23) ED you look closely, you will find it has many advantages. will be largely up to YOU, SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 23 to Dec. 21) x Without much planetary assistance, you can still net top returns but, before acting, plan well, be sure of facts and details, and DON'T CAPRICORN (Dec. 22 to Jan. 20) wit ’ Smportant now: coniumon sense, all situations, ease of action. Domestic and social interests by of wonderful chance for ac- compllshment but day needs the right push, ateadiness, PISCES Ye (Feb, 20 to Mar. 20) Counting one's blessings picture but Stara not too auspictous. This cone means aneed for more ‘ort, perhaps a LEO (July 24 to Aug. afte A day when your inna desired objective. VIRGO (Aug. 24 ta Sept. 23) why Some information you have needed ina financial matter can now be obtained — possi through a social contact. It make your day! LIBRA ' Ca 249 Ot, 2) aD al t ‘ This fs a period in which to give YOU BORN TODAY are endowed with unusual in- dividuality, originality and Your governing planet, Mercury, Indicates alertness and versatility, but you are often dissatletled with accomplishments. 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DEAR ABBY: I am new in this community and have. -made many lovely new frlends. I mot a lady at church and invited her to my home for coffee and cake. It was then that 1 discovered’ that she is either a thief or a . kleptomaniec, for when I went into the kitchen for a moment, and suddenly returned, I saw her open her large purse and drop my silver spoon and fork into it. : You can't imagine how shocked I was! Now Ido not want to make a big issue of it by preferring charges against her, but 1 do want my silverware back as those pleces are sterling silver and are part of my set. Do I dare ask her to return them? And if so, how? I have told no one and do not TIGOIRREEIOLE Re AISIETA) intend to. NEW IN TOWN al DEAR NEW: You are considerate, compassionate and ! raat N wise. Telephone the lady and tell her you saw her take ia et your silverware and would appreciate her returning it. Then tell her that you know there are people who have a compulsion to take things,.which is an illness, ae you “underatand,” will tell no one, and hope that she will seek professional help. IF THERES ONE | THING T HATE... ~~ . TOPE Al AAAI . His. Me ot Dede TREE, 1008 DOONESBURY ————— _| LET ME SET IT OP FOR you, CAMPERS, AS YOU ROU, Jf FOREGOING THE BOOKS Pichia dresle CETHER, é (5 THE LAE FORME! ws , . I = 3] Am isis > Smo NIEISIT! Answer to yesterday's puzzle. , DEAR ABBY: My daughter, who iain a home for unwed : mothers, has decided to put her baby up for adoption. She's 1e not even aure who the baby’s father is, so 1 think she’s doing the right thing, (She's only 14.) She doesn't even want to see the baby after it’s born. She says it will be easier to forget if she doesn't. ; Abby, even though it would be a lie, what harm would there be in telling her that her baby died at birth? I wouldn't-ask the doctor to tell the lie—I will take all the responsibility myself, Ijust want the doctor and the people at the hospital where she will have the baby to back me up on my story. . 8 My daughter has suffered enough already, and it will be much easier for her if she thinks that her baby died. Then she won't have to go. through life wondering where her child.is, [can see only good in this lie, but if you think I'm wrong, please tell me why and Til do as you say. Thank you! HEARTSICK INSBATTLE | DEAR HEARTSICK: Although your intentions are good, you can't accomplish good through svil acts. Please, dear, abandon this dishonest scheme. Regardless of how well-intentioned it is, it's wrong. Log , ; DEAR ABBY: Please don't think I am bragging, but my - problem is that I am too attractive. When I was in high school I never had any girlfriends because they were all afraid I'd take their boyfriends away from them. When I went to work I had to quit one job after another because my bosses were forever malting passes at me. Now that I am married, [ have the same problem. All of my husband's frienda proposition me, ond Ihave to tell them off. And we don’t have any married couples to go around with because the wives are afraid of ' the competition. Sometimes I wish I were born ugly. What's the solution? “RED” IN REDWOOD CITY _ ‘DEAR “RED": Face it, dear, if you aren't consciously inviting the attentions a the opposite soe on aust be loing co unconsciously. No man in his rig make te wars, pase .at astatue. He needs come encouragement. A woman wit aay eo aposte Ce ee el cices short words, who has to beat off every man she meets should find out "vowels, Solution Is accomplished by trial and error. ‘ Mints . rr ay . Nh if nT / FAR aa i eeeetzy MRTTRSAL PRISE SraecaT? | CNSTS OB Trakeon BD + thd tner ed se. 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