uk yy a Yr ps t3 Terrace Review — Wednesday, January 16, 1991 -~years is raging ~ drifted up to the — eaves. The water ~ pipes all froze happy . Yeah, sure. The worst storm in fifty ‘outside; snow has during the night. ‘The furnace belched at breakfast and hasn’t puffed a breath of warm air since..And the battery is dead in the pick-up... Emotions — They pervade us, overwhelm us, manipulate us, sometimes control us, even destroy us. What can we do about it? The Importance of Being Happy Medical research has suggested that negative emotions, such as worry, anger, frustration, bitterness, hopelessness, and despair, can have negative affects on our health. It is reasonable to sup- pose, then, that positive emotions should provide positive health benefits. How can we defend ourselves from the bombardment, attack, and invasion of negativism in our daily lives? We can use the negative to create something positive: ‘ Leo Buscaglia says that ‘‘sometimes it takes death to teach us about life;...misery to teach us about joy.” “‘There is a world to be appreciated,’’ says that famous lover of life. “‘There are fantastic things to be seen and to be felt and, to be desired and to be aimed toward and to be achieved.”" That doesn’t leave us with much excuse, does it? Live, Love, Laugh and Be Happy - “We can turn despare into hope...We can wipe away any tears -and substitute smiles. ‘‘There are two big forces at work, externel, and internel. We have very little control over external forces...”’ The weather, the furnace, the car battery. _ **What really matters is the internal force. How do I respond to those disasters. Over that I have complete control,’’ en- _ courages Dr. Buscaglia, Live Part of living is having to endure disappointments, failures, even traumas. But all of those experiences will be easier to bear if we can maintain a positive attitude. We can’t be afraid to ex- perience life, both the pain and the joy. -Norman Cousins, in his book: Head First, the Biology of Hope, writes,- ‘Life is the ultimate prize and it takes on ultimate value when suddenly we discover how tentative and fragile it can be. The essential art of living is to recognize and savor its preciousness when it is free of imminent threat or jeopardy...An appreciation of life can be a prime tonic for mind and body.” We need to develop a sensitively to the positive things that hap- pen in our lives. Take the time to enjoy them, savour them. | Love “‘T ife,’? says Dr. Buscaglia, ‘‘and love is all available to you! And all you have to do is take the responsibility and grasp it.”’ _ Love. It’s right up there at the top of all those positive emo- tions like hope, faith, happiness, and joy, purpose, determina- tion, the will to overcome... One of the most positive experiences in life is that of giving to another. Giving of ourselves. We need to cultivate a sensitivity to the needs of others: We need to express love. It’s the biggest little sentence in the whole world — ‘I love you.” Laugh What lights up our face with a smile? That’s what we need to dwell on. We need to look for the humour in living. If laughter can improve our perspective on life and help us to gain a more healthy outlook, then when we are combating severe or unusual stress laughter may indeed be a valuable aid. There is an additional benefit to laughter. As a physical workout, laughter is a form of internal jogging, claims Norman Cousins: ‘It causes huffing and puffing, speeds up the heart rate, raises blood pressure, accelerates breathing, increases ox- ygen consumption, gives the muscles of the face and stomach a workout, and relaxes muscles not involved in laughing...It is an igniter of great expectations. Your body will experience a power- ful gravitational pull in the direction of those expectations.’’ Be Happy . 7 Happiiiess is an individual responsibility. If we wait for hap- piness to come to us, we may end up missing it. Often it is the simple things we have or do in life that bring us the most Joy. Happiness comes through giving of ourselves, sharing ourselves, and appreciating what we have — now. To gain happiness, sometimes it means having to let go; sometimes it means leaving behind what’s in the past. To gain happiness sometimes means having to move forward, to risk change. The following quotes and comments come from Dr, Buscaglia’s book: Living, Loving & Learning: “°To laugh is to risk appearing the fool.’ So what?... “* *To weep is to risk appearing sentimental.’ That's tough. I like it. It cleans my eyeballs. ; “ ‘To reach out to others is to risk getting involved.’ What else in life is more important than becoming involved? “ *To show your feeling is-to risk exposing your humanity.’ There would be a lot worse things to expose than my humanity. “< ‘To place your ideas and dreams before the crowd is to risk their loss.’ That’s all right. You can’t win ’em all. And you can- not be loved by everybody. “« ‘To love is to risk not being loved in return.’ And that’s all right too.”? Love is something that is given. You give love, not so that you can get something back. “ “To hope is to risk pain.’ And, ‘To try is to risk failure. But risk must be taken, because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing. The person who risks nothing does nothing, has nothing, and is nothing. He may avoid suffering and sorrow, but he simply cannot learn, feel, change, grow, live, or love.’ ~NEW IN TOWN? LET US PUT OUT THE MAT FOR YOU! be sure to call Re) Wace yon SINCE 1930 To. Karen: 638-0707 - Katharin: 635-7504 S| Life really is what we make it. Let’s risk it — dare to be hap- Py. Your chance to get involved — The Royal Purple Lodge #216, Terrace hoids meetings the 2nd and 4th Mondays of every month. For information and membership, please phone 635-6643 or 635-2415, If you have experienced the loss of a family member through suicide and would like to meet with others who have experienced the same, please call 838-0942 or 635-3178 for more Information. The All-Seasons Steelers ladies’ soccer team meets every Monday and Thursday at 7 p.m. at Caledonia Senior Secondary School. Anyone interested In jolning Is more than welcome to attend. The Terrace Tennis Club has club nights at the Kalum Streat courts on Tuesdays, Thursdays and Sundays. For information, call 635-2347 or 638-1514 (April te October). The Happy Gang Centre for Seniors offers the following activitles: Tuesdays: 10 a.m., sewing and quilting; 7:30 p.m., cripbbage and bridge. Wednesdays: 1 p.m., carpet bowling; Fridays: 2 p.m., bingo. First Saturday of every month: 8 a.m. to 1t a.m., pancake breakfast. Monday through Friday avery week: 11:45 a.m. to 1 p.m., lunch. Second Thursday of every month: 2 p.m., general meeting of the 8.0.0.A,P.0 Branch 73. For further info., contact the Happy Gang Centre, 3226 Kalum St. at 635-9090. The Terrace Single Parents Association welcomes all Interested to attend their month- ly meetings on the second Wednesday of each month at 7:30 p.m. at 4542 Park Ave. Learning to ralse the kids alone; learning to Hve without the kids In the house; widowed or divorced; we are all building new tives. Sometimes it helps to talk about it. Phone Debbie at 635-4383 after _ 4p.m. or Richard at 635-7762 for more informa: tlon or to arrange transportation. HOWDOYOUDOIT HOTLINE — Your Travel In- focentre Counsellor is just a telephone call away. When you need some answers on plan- ning your holiday trip or what to do with visitors, call the HOWDOYOUDOIT HOTLINE ‘ for some HOWTODOIT HELP — 635-2063. Terrace Pipes & Drums practises Mondays at 7:30 p.m. at the “Kin Hut" behind Heritage Park. Come join us, learn, or just listen. For more information, call Barry at 635-5905 or Chris at 635-2009. Alcohol and Drug Education Video Night at Milis Memorial Hospital in the Psychiatric Unit every Thursday at 7:30 p.m. Adult Femate Survivors of Sexual Assault Sup- port Group meets every Wednesday from 7 to9 p.m, Phone 635-4042 for further information. Battered Women's Support Group meets every Tuesday from 7 to 9 p.m. Phone 635-7447 or 635-4042 for further information. The Terrace Breastfeeding Support Group holds thelr meetings In the hospital education © room on the first Tuesday of every month. For further Information, call Terry Walker at 635-3287. Do you want to support your community? ’ Here's your chance! Big Brothers and Big Sisters Affitlated is recruiting new members. Regular meetings are the third Tuesday of every month at the Inn of the West in Terrace from 7 to 9 p.m. For more Information, phone 638-0161. Anyone Interested In Joining a support group for step and blended families, call Les at 635-8055. Losses, elther through separation, divorce or death can be a time when you may need addi- tional support. If you wish to be in a supportive group, please join us the first and third Wednesday of each month from 1:15 to 3 p.m. in the conference room at the Mental Health \Centre. Call 638-3325 for more information. Overeaters Anonymous support group meets every Wednesday at 7:30 p.m. at the Terrace Women's Resource Centre, 4542 Park Ave. Phone 635-4084 or 638-0664 for further Informa- tion. All newcomers area welcome. The Skeena Valley Model Train Club meets every Monday at 7:30 p.m. at 5010 Agar Ave. in Terrace. Large jayout under construction. Everyone welcome! OSTOMY SUPPORT GROUP for any persons having an ostomy or needing one In the future. A chance to share problems, concerns, Infor- mation and receive support from others In the same situation. Call 635-5905 In Terrace or 632-5951 In Kitimat. CCB/Terrace & District White Cane Club — We meet every Thursday at the Women’s Resource Centre, 4542 Park Ave., Terrace at 1:30 p.m. Come and have coffee with us. Transportation will be provided. Everyine welcome. For fur- ther Information, contact Phylila at 638-0412 or Felix at 638-1285. Kitimat blind and visually im- paired persons are welcome. interested In beadwork? Ladies’ Auxillary gathering downstairs at the Kermode Friend- ship Centre on Tuesdays and Thursdays from 1 to 3 p.m. Class size Is limited to 10 people. In- terested persons come In and pre-register. There is no cost, so come out and join in. We may have something for you. Feel free to bring a friend with you. We also have free coffee and donuts. For more Information, please call us at 635-4006 or 635-4907. Terrace Codependents Anonymous meets Tuesdays from 8 to 8 p.m. at the Skeena Health Unit. Newcomers welcome! Group contacts ate Mary at 635-5518 and Valerie at 639-8714, Paseo Bo AES ee on ee oe ame ame e Pepe arong age TL