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By Abigail Van Buren

4° 1979 by Chicago Tribune-N.Y. News Synd. Inc. ~

DEAR ABBY: I am an old fogy (50), but with the changing
times I think we should change some of our customs.

When I was young, lovers had a courtship, then were mar-
tied, after which they went on a honeymoon. Then they
returned to set up housekeeping. .

Now the order is backwards. They go off on a honeymoon
first. If they still like each other, they decide to live
together. If that works, they get married, and friends and
relatives are expected to provide them with wedding gifts. —
In my day, wedding gifts were for the purpose of getting the
newly-joined couple started in their new home. Couples who
have lived together for two or three years are not entering
into a new union. The don't need a toaster, dishes, pots, pans
and. coffee-makers.

So, 1 suggest skipping wedding presents for those who
have already lived together. : ;

Please give me your opinion.
. _, ASKING IN ALASKA

BEAR ASKING: It won't work. Most friends and
relatives are co glad when the kids decide to make it legal
that they send gifts anyway.

DEAR ABBY: My husband and I and our 4-year-vld son
live above a retired couple who sit home 24 hours a day. We
are not the kind of people who have wild parties. In fact, the
last party I had was two years ago, and they were all older

’ relatives.

Well, the man below started to complain about our

}._ “noisiness” a week after we moved in. He would bang on his

ceiling with a broom handle when I'd shut my cupboard
door, walk in my kitchen with shoes on, or slam the
refrigerator door.

To top it off, my husband and ] were walking out to our
car and this man came at my husband with a pocketknife
saying we had kept him up until 2 a.m. (We never stay up
past midnight.)

I think this man must be off balance. Our landlord agrees
with us. Any suggestions? :

M.C.IN N.Y.

DEAR M.C.: Your neighbor has already broken the law
by threatening your husband with a dangerous weapon. Hf
you and your landlord have reason to believe that the man is
“olf balance,” don't wait for a more convincing incident to
occur. '

DEAR ABBY: I never thought I'd be writing a Dear
Abby letter, but here I go: Iam 64 and have been widowed
for ‘two years: A ‘widower in town has been showering me
with expensive presents ever since he lost his wife a year

_ ABO.

His sister is a good friend of mine and ] have asked her to
please tell her brother to quit sending me presents, but
either she hasn't done it or her brother doesn't pay her any
mind. The presents continue to come.

1am not considering remarriage —at least not to HIM.

What should I do? .
. . NOT INTERESTE!>

DEAR NOT: Communicate directly with the generous
gentleman, Don't rely on his sister to be your carrier
pigeon. Tell him ¢hat if it's marriage he's after, he has the
right technique—but the wrong woman.

CONFIDENTIAL TO “BORN TO LOSE” Don't he
discouraged by a failure. It can be a positive experience,
“Failure is, in a sense, the highway to success, inaxmueh

" as every discovery of what is false leads ua to seck earnestly

alter what is true, and every fresh experience points out
some form of error which we shall afterwards carefully
avoid,”

The above is as true today agit was when John Keats, the
famed English poet (1795-1521), wrote it.

Your Individual

Horoscope

= Frances Drake

FOR THURSDAY, JULY 12, 1979

ARIES :
(Mar, 21 to Apr. eR

A day of minor happenings.
Still, inwardly you may ‘be
feeling a slight resentment.
Domestic concerns too prey on
consciousness,

TAURUS

(Apr. 20 to May 20) Ogg”
Social activity can interfere

with work concerns. In the

p-m. a Slight difference of

opinion or misunderstanding

with a friend.

GEMINI

(May 21 to June » ee”

‘Mixing . business — with
pleasure could haye some
unpleasant repercussions.
Perhaps, you feel someone
else is unfairly grabbing at-
tention. .
CANCER
(June 21 to July 22) BED
You may find fault with
advice you receive and
grumble a bit in private. In
your eyes advisers may not be
giving you proper con-
sideration, .
LEO :
(July 23 to Aug, 22) SQ4ae
Don’t be pressured into
signing papers about a
business venture. Hidden
factors affect current
negotiations and require in-
vestigation. :
VIRGO
(Aug. 23 to Sept. 22) my
Money a possible. issue:
between you and others. A

. social gathering may not

match your mood. Be con-

siderate of close one’s

feelings.
LIBRA

(Sept. 23 to Oct. 2) SB

_ Insisting on your own way,
only adds to work com-
plications. Don’t tet minor

- agitation sway you from

seeing the larger picture.
SCORPIO ,
(Oct. 23 to Nov. 21) MAKE”

Unconscious resentment
affects romantic relation-
ships. Don’t be suspicious of
advice you receive. You may
be making too much of a smal!
thing.
SAGITTARIUS of,
(Nov. 22 ta Dec. 21)

The attitude of friends that
drop by could in some way
upset you. . Minor

- disagreements about

domestic -matters needn't
spoil the evening.
CAPRICORN toy
(Dec, 22 to Jan. 19) VJ
A deaf ear to your proposals
by a higher-up could get under
your skin. Communications
with others in general are less
than perfect,
AQUARIUS
(Jan. 20 to Feb. 18) az Gi
A slightly aggravated mood

* could mar much of the day’s

activities. Matters pertaining
to work, travel or finances
could irk you.
PISCES - , vag
(Feb, 19 to Mar, 20; MEX
A date or romantic interest
could seem preoccupied or in
some way not responsive. A
close ally seems set in his
ways and not ready to change,

HERMAN

“Have you got a smoke alarm I can switch off
while I'm cooking?”

CROSSWORD

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COPYRIGHT 1979

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vowels. Solution is accomplished by trial and error.

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