Page 10, The Herald, Wednesday, October 18, 1978 DearAbby DEAR ABBY: Fred and I have been married 14 years—if you can call this a marriage. Fred says that marriage is a job, like any olher job, and since everybody gets atleast one day a week off from his job, a man should get a day a week off from his marriage. So, Fred works at our marriage six days a week, but takes Sundays off. He leaves the house Saturday night, and I don't see him again until early Monday morning. He puls about 350 miles on his car and I don’t have the slightest idea where he’s been. 1 never heard of any other couple with this kind of arrangement. Have you? By the way Fred explains it, it makes Sense. Is he crazy, or am I? FRED'S WIFE DEAR WIFE: Marriage is a seven-day-a-week job, and there’s no time off far good (or bad) behavior. Fred Istar from crazy, butI'm not so sure about you, if you're buying It. DEAR ABBY: After being a widow for three years, I - matried a man I met in Miami last winter. (I'm 51 and Nate is59.) You might call it a whirlwind romance, as we had known each other only three weeks. Nate had been divorced for five years. I had never met any of his family and was looking forward to it. Well, vesterday Nate told me that he had received an invitation to his daughter’s wedding, and hoped I wouldn't mind if HE went to Chicago for a few days without me. (We live in New York.) Abby, I was flabbergasted( lama lady, and refuse to be hidden away.) Nate’s family knows he has remarried, so why should they expect him to leave his wife home? When ] told him to tell his daughter that he wanted to bring his wife, he said that his daughter had asked him to please leave me home! Are second wives supposed to just disappear on such occasions? 1 know lots of second wives who have at- tended the weddings of their husband’s children by a previous marriage. Should I insist that if he goes, 1 go? Or should [ tell him that, if he goes, he doesn't have lo come back? Or should I swallow my pride and let him go without me? BURNING IN BINGHAMTON DEAR BURNING: Let him go—alone, A lady goes only where she fs invited. DEAR ABBY: Just last month I met a very at- tractive man my own age (60). We met under sad circumstances—his wife was being buried that day. (His wife had been a friend of my sister's.) [have been - a widow for several years, but this is the first man who nas mademe feel “alive and I can’t get him out of my mind. . I don't want him to think I am chasing him, but how can I see him again? Ihave a feeling he noticed me. All Thave to go on is the Jook in his eyes when we met. He looked into my eyes as if he were reading my mind! And when we said good-bye, he touched my hand quite tenderly. When I walked away, something made me turn back and look at him once more, and there he was-—still looking at me. Am I foolish to think he felt something special for me? - I don’t want to wait too long before making a move because heis sovery attractive I fear he won't be alone long. What do you advise? THINKING OF HIM DEAR THINKING: You say that his wile had been a good friend of your sister. Ask yuur sister toinvile this poor, grieving widower to her home for dinner. And you be there, How else? What kind of day will today be? To find out imm fact, the prospects for the ediate future are better Horoscope Frances Drake that's bothering you is on its way to a happy. solution. what the stars say, read the forecast given for your birth sign. ARIES (Mar. 21 to Apr. 20) w-% Use your irrepresgible good spirits to cheer up a depressed friend. You can see that the problem causing this isn’t TAURUS (Apr. 21 to May 21) Sig Don't let co-workers get away, with passing the buck. Stand up for your rights, and tell it like it is. Be assertive. GEMINI if (May 22 to June 21) You are very attractive to the opposite sex today — butdon't get carried away. It could jead to long-range complications. Cc. ER (June 22 to July 23) ES Don't waste time crying over past problems. Face today withoptimism, A bright outlook can change the complexion of things and bring you good luck. LEO (July 24 to Aug. weer Stop worrying. Your fears are groundless, As a matter of than they’ve been in weeks, VIRGO (Aug. 24 to Sept. 23) my Don't let passion run away with you, ‘This can only lead to trouble as you know from past performance, Let your mind,not your emotions, rule. LIBRA (Sept, 24 to Oct. oy SS An imaginative idea will pay off if you present it for- cefully. Your ingenuity is at its peak today, sv give it full sway, SCORPIO (Oct, 24 to Nov. 22) Meme Harness your energy to get vecessary tasks done, then relax enjoyably in th p.m. hours. A new friend could brighten your life con- siderably. ws SAGITTAR . (Nov, 23 t9 Dec. 21) aga? Expect to hear from a distant relative, Good news is on theway, and there’s a chance that a little sum of money bi be involved. CAPRICORN (Dec, 22 to Jan, 20) Whar! You may feel down, but put upa good front and no one will be the wiser. The problem AQUARIUS (Jan. 21 to Feb. 19) Someone you love neet!: your help and sympath; . ftesist the impulse to dismis.. - his or her problems lightly. They. auld beserious. e (Feb. 20 to Mar. 20) KE Don't let a business asgignment throw you. It’s a little out of your range of experience, but you are capable of handling It. YOU BORN TODAY have a conservative streak that's counteredby your brilliant imagination. You tend to be sensitive, even self-conscious at times, and yet you can inspire others with your flair for words and for deeds. Your imagination is ivelyand could lead you to a career in writing or the theater. You are meticulous about details and enjoy research, qualities that might make you a brillant attorney. 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