Page 16, The Herald, Friday, June 8, 1970. DEAR ABBY ll By Abigail Van Buren 1979 by Chicago Pribune-N.Y. News Synd. tne. _ DEAR ABBY: A mother asked you to please write something to persuade her pretty, intelligent, 23-year- _ old daughter to endher love affair with a married man. You wisely told her that any advice from you would probably be useless, but perhaps a word from someone who had been down that road might help. Well, I've been there. May I try? Dear Pretty, Intelligent and 23: I, too, was young, pretty and intelligent when J fell in love with my married man. We were madly in love and talked of being married ‘‘someday.” We were together whenever peasible, And always discreet. Before I knew it, years had gone by. Then I pressured him for some kind of commitnient. That's when he told me he could never leave his wife and family and I'd be better off with a mar who was marriageable. Facing rejection from the man I had loved for 80 many years was almost too much to bear, Not to mention the broken dates, the secrecy. the hiding, never being able to share one holiday with him. Working with him and not being able to tell anyone about “‘us” because of his respected position in his profession and the community. But the greatest is ee humiliation of all was having him leave our bed after lovemaking to go home to his wife because our time was up. . - While I was Involved with this man I had no social life becawe I wanted to he home in case he called to say he could see me for an hour. I didn't keep up friendships with others-or even my family, so now Tam having trouble rebuilding my life, And I'm now too old to have the children I've always wanted, ‘ Please, stop and consider where this dead-end _ relatioriship is going, Don't cut yourself off from others to concentrate on your married man. And if you're not strong enough to break it off now, think about it, and break it off the moment you get thestrength todo so. And don't be too hard on yourself. Given the right time, and set of circumstances, any woman can find herself entangled in a relationship she would never have chosen had she listened to her head instead of her heart. . DEAR ABBY: I am going to be 30 next month and maybe I’m a sentimental slob for celebrating bir- thdaysat my age, but I want this one tobe special, I would like to invite my friends to have dinner with me at my favorite restaurant, and then go dancing afterwards. My problem is E can’t afford auch an ex- pensive evening. - Would it be socially acceptable to invite my friends to celebrate with me and pay for their own dinners and dancing? If so, 1 could Jet them know that their par- ticipation would take the place of a birthday gift. (Or do ‘you think that ‘would be understcod?) Also, is the restaurant likely to give everyone separate checks if | explained the situation in advance, ; BIRTHDAY BOY DEAR B.B.: If you want to celebrate your birthday. with friends, invite them to your home (however humble) for coffe, cake, drinks, or whatever you can afford. Under no circumstances should you invite friends for an evening of dinner and dancing at thelr own expense. And don't mention SADDER BUT WISER 17 Greek . HOROSCOPE “ARIES (Mar. 21 to Apr. 19) Ves Unexpected developments re finances could Jead to an argument. Save controversial or far-out ideas for a more propitious time. TAURUS (Apr. 20 to May 20) Oa Little things mean a ‘lot on this day when the slightest inconsideration could lead to hurt feelings and _— joint assets are under stress. recriminations, - Avoid anger. : GEMINI er SCORPIO (May 21 to June 20) (Oct. 23 to Nov, 21) "eae Don't speak out about things . It is vital that you pay at- that bother you on the work tention to the feelings of loved scene or you're likely to bring ones now. Important on an argument and possible break with a co-worker. CANCER (June 21 to July 22) @ES Don't feel slighted if not invited to a party. Resist the temptation to complain or yau may find yourself dropped off ° someone's list, LEO (July 23 to Aug. 22) Qek& Domestic problems may prey on your mind to the detriment of career interests. Someone at home may not be in the mood for company. FOR FRIDAY, JUNE 8, 1979 VIRGO (Aug. 23 to Sept. 22) MPS, Others’ feelings are easily hurt now. Be tactful and avoid the critical word or you may receive a tongue: lashing in return. LIBRA (Sept. 23 to Oct, 32) fd Maintain a sharing attitude refinances, Otherwise, critics will find fault. In particular, relationships are subject to change. Avoid ruptures, SAGITTARIUS A et (Nov. 22 to Dec. 21) ‘Your privacy is likely ‘to be interrupted. Others are prying. Be careful handling ‘machinery and of danger on the job. Watch impulse. CAPRICORN (Dee 22 te Jan, 19) V0 fay! Worry about minor work problems interferes with socializing. What's more, a change in dating plans could in Some way leave you upset. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20 to Feb. 18) ae Preoccupation with your career may arouse touchinéss . in a romantic companion or family member. Unexpected changes may cause domestic upset. PISCES . (Feb. 19 to Mar. 20) KEY Don't iet minor differences of opinion escalate into a full- scale battle. If someone is* antagonistic, don't respond in kind. YOU BORN TODAY are more success-oriented than the typical Gemini, but you - should avoid a tendency to be expedient in your choice. of occupation. A born money- maker with executive ability, you can succeed at large - enterprises. Sometimes, - though, you bite off more than you can chew. A need for adventure attracts you to progressive fields, You can succeed in advertising, banking, law, - architecture, . music, real estatp, and public service, Your cléverness and - mental curiosity attracts you to writing, lecturing, and the theater. Birthdate of: Frank Lioyd Wright, architect; Robert Schumann, composer; and Lillian Ross, writer. ©1979 King Features Syndicate, Inc. HERMAN “She came straight out of ‘Jams and Jellies’ without signaling.” , . . : CR -p jf fa fa 5 {6 10, i —_ ~e A a ie a rr ’ CROSSWORD. an a 16 ; . . ‘ . fe ACROSS 39 Doctor’sorg. DOWN . 10Formerly 31 2 [23 1 Beringand 41 Nevada city 1 Rural - 11-Greek letters - : : Ross. 43Siouan = ediifice. «-©«« «16 Japanese = [28 [26 127 an ee ae ba be 5Govt.man Indian 2German shrub 2 oe 4 Pintail duck 46 Angry river - Lease. 34 | 35 Vain — 50 Arablan 3 Medicinal * 22 Musical