.. Wednesday, May-1, 1974.

LAMB:

DR. LAWRENCE E.
Fat, sloppy and not sexy

By. Lawrence E. Lamb, M.D.

DEAR DR. LAMB — lam
in my. 40s, married for 16
years (second marriage), and
in all that time Z have never
climaxed in our sexual rela-
tions. . Before

the last. two
ears I en-
if yed sex
yery much,
even though [
didn't climax,
and have
been a happy,
contented
wile.

But, in the
moe EB /Jast two years
Dr. Lamb _L will do any-

. thing to: keep
from going. to bed with my
husband. In fact, sex ‘is
repulsive. to me now.. One

. Yeason is that I na longer
“have my young, girlish
figure. I have gained weight,
ad den? I'rh not sloppy fat,
‘and I don’t feel attractive. or
‘pretty: anymore: I:

= would even want ta look at
“my nakedness, much less
make love to me.:To me over-

- weight has always been ugly.-
-[ve’ seen” happily. married...
“couples who were obese, but... &

; talked about sex with each
- other, and I have thought to
. myself,
“two fat people making love.”

-S. Lately my ‘husband has‘. "0-°- >

_ cooled off, and we don't have = 2.7",
sex’ and something is: gane, 2 =
‘from our marriage now..We. ~ -

are both bored to death, but I
“know-he is the type of man
who. would never. stray. no

can't:
‘understand why my husband:

‘hormones. will not prevent -
. you from~ using the: known

“how disgusting —' |”

, - matter what the- circumstan-"

“ces. So, here we sit in our
‘tonely house, watching T.V.:

I don't know what to do to

. feel sexy again. My dactor

says'1 will never have’ my -

’. girlish figure again because I-.

. am taking hormone shots, so

’ Lean’t luse weight How can J
feel attractive again? I tried
seeing a psychiatrist, but I
wouldn't apen. up to talk

about my ‘past, so that didn’ t
work out either. -

DEAR READER — As you
have correctly observed,
many people who are over-

‘weight enjoy sex: Obesity is
no barrier ta sexual enjoy-
- ment.

favor being ‘avetwalght:
“simply because itis not’ geod
for one's health, that doesn't
mean it is unappealing to ev-
eryone, Venus was a full-
bodied woman. In many cul-
tures the ‘ Skinny’ creatures
of taday's. fashion world
wouldn't arouse much in-
terest. Since your husband
still found you attractive that
could hardly have. been the
real problem.

Now about bein
weight..It is true that-our
self-image. has a lot ta. do
with how we behave. If you

think of yourself. as being .-

‘unaliractive you will not
“glow,” and you will be less
attractive. Self-confidence is
essential, » pa articularly in sex.
That.can be extended ‘to: in-.
clude self-confidence in your
mate — or confidence in his
desire for you. You can do
something about: it. Taking

principles of weight control.
at. deposits are still. the
result of eating more calories
than your body expends,

‘ov er: -

~~ Private
Life

You didn't’ say much about
what hormone:shots you are
taking. Most patients can do

just as wellon‘pills. Women ,

have changés in‘ their sex
drive related ta hormones, A

case in point-is the woman ~
who loses her sex drive be- ~
cause she is taking birth con- -.

trol pills. That happens. The

birth. control. pills are-also -

hermones.. Replacement of
female hormones in the mid-
dle years sometimes helps in
preventing obesity and
maintaining sex drive. It
could be that you are not get-

You may want to send for
the booklet I. have prepared
for readers on this su ject.

- Send 50 cents to "Losing

‘While 1 personally do 0 not

Weight,” in care of this news-
paper, P.O. Box 1551, Radio
City Station, New York.

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tin ’ sufficient harmon

“replacement, Should ‘that. be".
your: -problem,:‘your. ‘doctor
will have. to-evaluate. your -
own particular hormone”

needs.

overweight is because you
really

sex? You state you are sur:
prised that your husband
would want to make-love to

you. One cause of abesity, -

particularly in young pirls, is

that it helps to protect them -

from pressure to date and

éventually face the prospects -

of an active sexual life,

Since you have never had a *
climax it is possible that you «

have some very basic, nega:
tive feelings about. sex.

Women sometimes do. It's

only. natural. because many :
of them: have - been ‘taught -:
negative feelings about sex -

from birth in: our society.

-"Phings are better now in thal -,

regard, hut that would. cer-
tainly be true fora woman in
your age group,

- There are things s that you

can do In your technique that .
will help a woman climax. If ©
you are interested.in more .
details, Sot may wish to read ,

‘Dear Doctor: It's

About Sex," (Walker Publish-
ing Company).

It’s possible if .you can

learn to achieve satisfaction

in-a normal sexual relation- .-
ship with your husband that -

ou will regain your interest

‘in sex, It is true that a woman

can. enjoy. sex without a
climax, .but most women.
have 3 more satisfactory re-
lationship if they do. -

Yes, something has gone
out of your marriage. ‘It ‘is

true that marriage is ‘a lot-

more than sex, hut it is-one
way of sharing emotional to-
getherness and expressing

our love for each other.

hen a woman.refuses to.

continue [he normal sex life,

the husband naturally feels

that his wife daesn’t love him

any more. What. you. have —

really done is to strike a real
blow.to your ,+usband’s ego.
No doubt he has interpreted
your, reaction as finding him
unattractive and undesirable
— when you stale you feel

lon't want: to have;

could

: hang

your | lonely home.

What has happened is,

more than just taking sex out
of your marriage. If that

were all, then most couples
caught in these situations
continue to have a
meaningful relationship with

“each other: The sex was-also

a symbol of the'love between
Het and. in_ rejecting your

usband. you have rejected.
yaur love relationship.

The question is what
should you do. about it, You
probably should embark on a
program of improving your
personal appearance. It will
make. you feel better and
more: desirable. This in turn,

may make yau more in- |

terested in a normal married
life. If you are really over-
weight, let your doctor help
eu with a diet, Or, you can

just cut down on your calo- :
-Nes by decreasing ‘the

amount of everything you eat
and. at the same time in-
creasing your physical ac-
tivity, Your efforts at self-im-
provement may. be a signal

_ to your husband that you are

interested again.
Then,- learn a little: bit
more -about sex. Your hus-
band ‘and you might embark

on a program to see if you~

can improve your ‘personal
satisfaction.

“Tf you - still -have’ some. —

ups then you might try -

again to see. if professional *

" counseling might help. If you *
y

don’t want that lonely home
to become’a prison fof both:
af: you, it is time for you to

take some positive steps.

Dr. Lamb weleomos ques-
tions from his readars, but be-
cause of the volume of mati he
cannot answer personally.
Quesiions of general interest
will be discussed in future
columns, Write to Dr. Lamb in
care of this newspaper, P.O.
Box 1851, Aadio City Station,
New York, N.Y. 10079.

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time your car had. a ‘check-up.

Why. run ‘the risk ‘af ‘spoiling

‘your’ auting because of 8”

sluggish vehicle that doesn’t
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When you. visit your service
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* Change ‘oil from winter to’
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. Check tires for wear and.
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-Check brake drums and
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On Saiurday eveing Mr. and
Mrs. Jim Harrison and Mrs. J.
Hoffman recelved | =a
pleasant “surprise. as a

' group of friends held a surprise”

party at (heir home. There were
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