Page 10 TERRACE HERA LD, TERRACE, Ask Ann Landers Should wives be told when husbands play? DEAR ANN LANDERS; Three years ago, an attractive couple (1 will call them the Joneses) moved next door, Their children and our children hit it off together immediately, We became close friends and after several months the Joneses joined our country club and were accepted as a pap- ular addition to our social set, Last June Mrs, J, became suspicious of Mr. J.’s affection- ate glances at another woman in our crowd. When she told me of her fears I assured her she was imagining things. My advice was, “‘Have faith in your husband and don't listen to petty gossip,’ Three weeks ago she caught them, The circumstances left nothing to the imagination. Within the hour Mrs, J, burst into our home and in the presence of my husband and children she called me a “liar and a phony friend.’’ She insisted that I had known of the affair all along and that I intentionally misled her to protect: the guilty parties because [ was “‘on their side.” I confess 1 had heard the rumors (as had everyone in town) but 1 knew nothing for cer- tain. I have seen Mrs, Jones on several oceasions since that horrible episode but she does not speak to me, Please tell me if you feel she is justified in her behavior. B.B.C, DEAR B.5.C.: Mrs. J. was obviously shattered by her discovery (who wouldn’t be?) and her anger took a strange turn, - No real friend ever passes on to a wife rumors about her husband — even if she knows for certain they are true, Olten a wife who is aware of her husband’s philandering pretends ignorance. The wife who is “unaware” can hold. up her head and preserve her dignity, “Friends” who take it upon themselves to inform these wives do them no favor. An informed wife is rebbed of her dignity and deprived of her refuge. Often she feels she must ask for a divorce although she doesn’t want it. Don’t defend yourself, Be civil to Mrs. J. even though she is behaving poorly toward you, You did the right thing and one day she will come to understand it. DEAR ANN LANDERS; My husband and I have a running argument every summer, 1 would like to get it settled once and for all during the winter when we tan both be more objective. We live in the suburbs and I doa lot of driving. During the summer I find it easier to drive barefoot. My husband says this is not only dangerous, but illegal. Yes or no? ~ BAREFOOT CONTESSA DEAR CONTESSA: The laws vary. In Elinois it is not ‘illegal to drive barefooted, While the motor vehicle depari- ment does not recommend barefoot driving a spokesman said both men and women often remove their shoes on long trips, He added this word of caution; “If you want to take off your shoes, take off your stockings, also, Nylon is slippery and your foot could easily slide on the brake,” DEAR ANN LANDERS: Pm <6 and falling fast for a real sharp guy. I want our relationship to be meaningful and [ want it to last. The problem: Mr. Wonderful has trouble with his hands. They keep turning up places where they don’t belong. I told him last night for the 10th time, ‘Hands off or there’s the door,” He accused me of sounding like a a broken record, eemeaiiet > ate TOT as - |. the other photo — five welldesigned lamps . ae ae A BELIEVE IT OR NOT — these two photos are of the same raom, with nothing changed but the lighting, The darker photo results from three poorly-designed table lamps with inade- quate lights installed, The solution is seen in with wider, translucent shades, and fitted with stronger Shadowban lights. effect is enhanced with the addition of deluxe warm white. flourescent lights in the valance over the window, Paar gina The decorative 7; Sigma Phi seven years ago in Bi text included helping Channel 8 "3 | crippled children, q| our feet,’* the a | plained, s | first year here, 7-decided..to drop the practise, . ~ Service, ‘friendship - are. ‘guidelines for sorority Sororities, the cynical wilisay, gs vets are. societies for undergraduate * social climbers, ; a Beta Sigma Phi doesn’t fit the definition at all, — It has no connection with un- iversity and the very definite word from the president of the Terrace chapter is that mem. bers are ‘from all walks of life,’ Race, color, creed or the size of tha family bankroll are not considered when members are “rushed”, . President Donna Batter has the authority of seven years’ ex- perience in the sorority. She started the Terrace branch here in April, 1967. It has 22 members, mostly in the 20-30 age range, and only one gir] isn’t married, . That last statistic reflects a bachelor-alarming trend in Ter. race, not sorority policy, “There are very few single girls in this age range in town’’, according to Donna Batter, es 8 The sorority has three major reasons for existence implicit in its program, They are friend. ship, service, and self improve- ment. Donna Batter described her own reasons for joining Beta a ae ee Fa ao ee eran net eee ene Vancouver, ‘T wanted to broaden my friendships and meet new f people, And I wanted to wort with a service group,” she ex- plained, “f Service in the Vancouver con & televize wrestling matches by inviting spectators, The money the station paid the sorority help. ed build two summer cabins for Locally “we’re still getting on President ex- But there have been some meaningful contributions made to the group which looks after re- tarded children in the sorority’s While service its important to the sorority, so is the social side, of meeting people and mak- ing new friendships, es # * ; : Friendship doesn’t involve | phoney enthusiasm but also cov- | ers the practicalities, like of- fering to babysit when a crisis comes toa friend, . The twice - a - month meet- ings here were firstheldinmem-~ ber’s homes but. the sorority f tart oes See 4 "REAR BOOM: Yes, Keep tellinghim; “Hands off or there's the door... the door .,,thedoor ...the door ...” Nickel-in-the-slot auto | honks horn at car thieves It costs Vancouver’s George Federuk more for his driving than it does most motorists, according to Canadian Automotive Trade. Federuk’s car won't start until he drops a coin into a box mounted on the instrument panel. It’s not a new way to save money but part of a car thief-proofing scheme ex- RCMP officer Federuk has invented, If you fail to pay in advance before the ignition switch is turned on, the horn . Starts blowing, And the alarm system also operates if anyone tampers with the car's doors, hood or trunk Hd, rane aneest ata oretotetotaticaN ore! seat Soe, ‘ Ferman ar eteecnetarareracecnen Pht Ncoee Herald women ‘s Teatime_ fopics SSP retell hazard Food poisoning is real A ‘shoemaker apologized to j a customer for lack of quality, "You know how it is today,’? Cradle roll The following births were re- RED D/OR SPECIAL February 23 & 24 P.G. & PANTOMANIACS MUSIC BY The CLASSICS with Winston Causs. CFTK CC Broadcasting “LIVE” FRIDAY ‘EVENING 9-10. \ “No Cover Charge” he said. “All the good leather corded in Mills Memorial Hos- goes into steaks,” —Ky,Irisn | pital: American Mr, and Mrs. Exnest Archer, Feb, 9, a girl, . Mr, and Mrs. Glen Anthon- Bi ysz, Feb, 9, a girl. a| Myr, and Mrs, Roy Blair, Feb, mr 10, a girl, a Mr. and Mrs, Robert Yamada, a) Feb, 11, a girl. mm, Mr, and Mrs. James Essay, a Feb, 12, a boy. a| Mr, and Mrs. John Dignard, Feb, 12, a girl, a| Mr, and Mrs, Conrad Gagnon, #| Feb. 14, aboy, - Mr, and Mrs. Nelson Christ- | iansen, Feb, 15, a boy. Nile Daughters give desert tea for Shrine wives The Zuliema club No, 5 Daugh- ters of the Nile entertained the Shriners wives’ at a Valentines? dessert tea held February 14 at the home of Mrs, RJ, Schaef- fer on Scott Avenue, President Elsie Anderson re. ceived the guests, . The table was decorated in a Valentines theme with red tul- ips, pussy willows surrounded with green bows donned with red candles flanked: the centre tea table on a dainty white lacecloth, Convenor for the affair was Mrs, Liz Brearley, assisted by co-hostesses, Fern Reynolds, Kathy Topliffe, Gladys Sloan, Dot: Acton and Mary Schaeffer, Classified Ads Command | Attention : erate the food, - Specially Written for The Ter- race Omineca Herald. By JEAN SHARP If you or anyone in your family think you have food poisoning, call a doctor and let your local health authorities know, A publication from the con- sumer division of the depart- ment of national health and wel- fare says you can minimize the risk of food poisoning with prop. er care. . It says the uSual sources of contaminated food are unpasteur- | * ed dairy products, uninspected meat from diseased animals, pre- paration of foods in unsanitary surroundings or by people with infections, or exposure to flies or vermin or dust, -@ You can "begin minimizing the ‘chances of petting contaminated foad by buying from reputable dealers and patronizing clean stores. Be sure the meat you buy has the official stamp of government approval. * “Remember. vacuum - packed meat is perishable and must bey kept refrigerated, thawed, AS Soon as possible, putfrozen foods in your home freezer and leave them there until you are ready to use them again, ; Heat pre-cooked frozen foods the temperature called for on the package label. -- Serve. foods containing eggs, meat, milk, gravy or salads with frigerate them, ; , . #. * Do not ‘make: “sandwiches or piente dishes, buffet. lunchdishes more than four-hours before they { will be eaten unless you refrig. “Avoid: Thalting sandwiches ityou ays: follow professional direc. Jacid foods such .as meat; fish, | meat-vegetable:- mixtures, soups: or noh-acid ‘vegetables such. as -|Heans, peas, ~“aSparagus, corn un- | anid: attend it property, | ¥oft,” "|fdrthigtitly hostess; * Now the Jolt. .megnt too-muych fuss forthe . § group meets in the UnitedChurch 9 hall,. and nothing more ¢laborate # than cookies can be brought for the refreshments. ey The sorority began its exis. Gea tence in 1931 in Abilene, Texas, as a “what-to-read club’’, It de- veloped very rapidly to its pre- sent sorority format butthe read. | ing emphasis remains part of Beta Sigma Phi. . The 90 minute meetings in the first Stage a membership, the ritual of jewels, involves study of four booklets, There’s ‘nothing about their contents, “Basically the program is to develop an appreciation of your- self, your family and your sur- roundings, " Donna Batter ex- plained, . It's non-academic, ' non-sectar- ian, and non-snob, BETA SIGMA PHI founding president in Terrace, Donna Batter shown with feline friend. Arnie’s Meat Marker | Lid, 4636 Lazelle Ave. Phone 635-2774 teo exotic MEATS GROCERIES - CONFECT, STORE HOURS - 7 MONDAY THROUGH SATURDAY _ - 9 AM.-9 BM. oT Do -not buy foods that are |" supposed to be frozen but are} - ; for. the length of time ‘and at] | dressing within two hours after |.” you have prepared them or: re=)" have an infected: cut or. a. bad’) Af you “can-‘food -at, home, al- |! .{ttons carefully, Do. not can non- nS oly -[essZyouuse.a pressure cooker on “Do. nat: eat foods that. seem oo Keep: ‘evorything: about yon Leys - Whyisn’t your business making more money? _ Atta Teana-Canads . ‘Tnephona Sputum , ; ties calle saves he nore fires : -° faster-results. "They get: to. the: point: quickly, “se medinte answers, keep i in constant touch’ with oul-of-tc ‘Department to: suggest was. yor ‘could: ‘increase! | our ‘Phone bill, . - kitchen Clean; ge