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Page 12, The Herald, Thursday, December 7, 1978

Dear Abby

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By Abigail Van Buren

® 1978 by Chicago Trbune- N.Y News Synd. ie

DEAR ABBY: I'm 22 and my boss is 55, What started’
out as friendly business lunches has gradually turned
into steady dating,

Last week, out of the blue, he proposed marriage,
saying 1 was the girl he’s been waiting for all his life.

He's wonderful, charming, considerate, generous
and easy to get along with. And he’s wealthy. The
trouble is that 1 am not passionately in love with him.
Also, I have the feeling that he is more in love with my
youth than he is with me.

Is there any way I can turn him down gently and
keep the path open for a platonic friendship? Do you
think I'm being overly romantic for wanting to be
passionately in love with the man I marry? And am I
feolish for not grabbing him?

WANTS LOVE

DEAR WANTS: Whether you can keep him as a
friend after you tum him down will depend on him. If
he does continue to date you, however, you may think
of him as a friend, but you can bet he'll be in there
pitching hard trying to get you to change your mind.

No, I don’t think you're “overly romantic” for
wanting to be “passionately in love” with the man you
marry, If the chemistry ‘la wrong, it’s wrong, Ad
that's what I'd tell him,

DEAR ABBY: My husband of 82 years and father of
our four children told me in no uncertain terms that he
wanted me to lose weight—or else. We made a deal. He

said if I would get down to my normal weight, he would |

quit drinking. .

Over the years he has gambled, drunk to excess and
used street language. He has been unfaithful many
times, too—always coming to me with a confession
afterward so I would be sure to know what a lady-killer
he was. Each time | forgave him.

Well, I went on a diet, and now I'm nearly down to the
weight I was when we were married, but he hasn't
stopped drinking. 1 told him no more sex until he stops
drinking, 50 he says he will find a “broad” (his term)
who will give him sex whenever he wants it, and he'll
drink as much as he wants to and there's no way I can
stop him. .

Was I wrong to give him that ultimatum when his
promise meant nothing? Our sex life was the best thing
about our marriage and ! still love him.

FOOL

DEAR FOOL: Yes, Withholding sex from him as a
punishment ts indeed foolish. Not only do you deprive
yourself when you deprive him, but you provide him
with a perfect excuse for going elsewhere.

DEAR ABBY: My sister separated from her
husband a few months ago. She wants a divorce, He did
not hurt or misuse her in any way.

I gave my son a graduation party and invited my
sister's husband. J] have a large yard and thought there
would be plenty of room for both of them.

When my sister arrived and saw her husband there,
she left immediately. In a few minutes she called me,
crying and telling me how t she was. She asked
why I invited:him if I wanted her there, I tried to tell
her | thought he had the right to attend his nephew's
graduation party. I tried to calm her down, but she
screamed at me and hung up the phone.

Was I wrong toask him? My sister is not talking to
me, Should I try to make amends?

HAVING REGRETS

DEAR HAVING: You should not have surprised your
sister by having her estranged huaband there. You
should have asked her in advance If she would be
comfortable in his company. Try to make amends, You
were in the wrong,

Horoscope

DECEMBER 7, 1978

Tofind out what
the stars say, read the
forecast given for your birth
Sign. :

ARIES |
(Mar. 21 to Apr, 19) -%

Watch out for careless
expenditure in the a.m. Don’t
let restlessness lead to tem-
peramental behavior later. Be
reserved in speech.

TAURUS
(Apr. 20 to May 20) Oa"
Don't get carried away by
romantic possibilities in the
morning hours. A close
associate may be touchy about
money.
GEMINI ng
(May 21 to June 20) .
Tt may be hard to stay on
that diet right now and you
may simply not be in the mood
for working. Don't be flippant
in your casual remarks.
CANCER
(June 21 to July 22) St)
A cockeyed optimism re
financial matters could lead to
overspending. Romance
seems thrilling, but dates may
be expensive, Accent
moderation.

LEO
(July 23 to Aug, 22) RR
You may feel like royalty,

but you can’t really afford a
throne for the living room at
present. Watch cash cutlay.
Protect savings,

VIRGO
(Aug. 23 to Sept. 22) mp,
You may let the cat out of

the bag when off guard today.
Blowing off steam in the p.m.
may only stir up trouble at
home,
LIBRA
(Sept. 23 to Oct, 22) eS B
Don't pick up the tab at
lunch, if your aim is to im:
press others with your
largesse. Avold cutting
remarks, especially during
working hours.

SCORPIO

(Oct, 23 to Nov, 21) "LAKE
You're susceptible to

flattery today, so remain

level-headed, In the afternoon,

avoid acting in haste and

impulsive buying.

SAGITTARIUS ‘
(Nov. 22 to Dec, 21) xg?

Don’t lethopes for the future
make you neglect immediate
tasks. Insisting on your own
way in the p.m. could lead to a
hassle.

CAPRICORN
(Dec. 22 to Jan. 19) Wier’

Well-intentioned friends
may give you the bum steer re
an investment, Be tactful in
the afternoon as your words

could boomerang and. huct
you.
AQUARIUS
(Jan, 20 to Feb. 18) ae fis
Promises made over
cocktails may be empty ones,
particularly if they pertain to
career interests, Avoid an
argument with a friend about
money.
PISC ;
(Feb. 19 to Mar. 20) HEY
Careless work performance
during the morning hours
could lead to a confrontation
with a superior in the p.m.
Watch diet.

YOU BORN TODAY are
mental, analytical, and less
breezy than the typical
Sagittarian. You should
specialize and try to become
an authority in your field.
Reflective by nature, you may
be drawn towards writing,
music, law, and education. Let
your thinking be a guide to
action and you will gain a
reputation as one who has the
eourage of his convictions.
Originality marks your
thinking, but don't forget to
have tolerance for the other
fellow’s point of view. Bir-
thdate of Willa Cather,
novelist; Eli Wallach, actor;
and Noam Chomsky, educator.

©1978 King Features Syndicate, Inc.

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“Ht they ever edit this for television, itll run about

two minutes.”

Crossword

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(poetic)
15 Jawbone
17 Nominate
18 Rocky hill
19 Certain
fisherman
21 Dazzles
24 Theater
sign
25 Ingredient
of sealing
wax
26 Watering
place
28 Roman
underworld
god
32 Unctuous
34 Hitherto
36 Except
37 Engender
29 Mythical
bird

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41 Born

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50 Fragrant 2 Yellow
herb bugle

51 Very 3 Type of
black hynom:

52 Galloped 4 Scottish

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56 Otherwise 5 Poorest

57 Arrow fleece
poison 6 Dregs

58 Slender . 7 Prophets
finiat 8 Precentors

59 Exploit 9 Warmth

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22 Hidden
place

23 Keep watch

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letter used stands for another. If you think thai X equals 0, it
will equal O throughout the puzzle. Single istters, short words,
and words using an apostrophe can give you clues to locating
vowels, Solution ig accomplished by trial and error.

© 1978 King Features Syndicate, Inc.

By Stan Lee and John Romita.

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