Therapy Helps
Sex Offenders:

By Abigail Van Buren

© 1079 by Chicago Tribune.Y. News Synd, lnc.

DEAR ABBY; The ietler in your column froma 13-year-
old clean-cut, religious Utah boy who confessed to having
molested young children when he baby-sat sure hit home
with me~I am locked up for five years here at the State
Hospital in Atascadero, Calif., for just that reason.

I noticed you told that kid to go to his local mental health
clinfe for help. That advice was the best, Abby, aud I hape he
ook it,

Lam gelting counseling here, and now [ understand that I
have had this sickness that turned me on to little kids ever
since I was a liltle kid myself, But I never knew it was a
sickness, ] thought 1 was just a rotten pervert.

Too bad nobody told me to go to a mental health clinic
when I was 15. [ could have saved a lot of kids some bad ex-
periences and straightened myself out without having to be
locked up in a hospital.

FIVE YEARS FOR BAD WAYS

DEAR FIVE YEARS: I heard from a surprising number
of readers who share your problem. Read on:

DEAR ABBY: Thank you for printing that letter from
DESPERATE IN UTAH, the boy who confessed to being a
child molester. I know his feelings well. I sexuaily abused
my own daughters until they became teenagers and had to
tell someone.

Thank God [ was stopped and made lo get help through a
program sponsored by the Family Service and Mental
Health Clinic in our community. (It's called “Special Of-
fenders.”)

Iam now going for weekly counseling sessions with my
wife. Our daughters are also getting help they need to
help them understand what has happened to them and why,

When I started this program I was very much ashamed
and didn't realize that there were others suffering from the
same sickness) “7 :

Most folks don't know that child molesters are victims of a
mental illness. We need more than punishment —we need
treatment. Thank you for letting me say this.

GETTING HELP IN ORE.

DEAR GETTING HELP: And thank you fer saying it.

DEAR ABBY: What do you do when you are serving a
large number of people and your guests take two servings of
meat the first time around, never considering whether there
will be enough for those at the end of the line?

Many times that second piece of meat will be left on their
plates—to.be thrown away. Kids aren't the only ones who do

this, and.you can't blame thems they've had some wondertful..

teachers in their own fathers.
Shall we tell our guests how much meat to take the first
time around? Or should we just serve pasta?
FEEDING. PIGS IN NORMAL, ILL.

DEAR FEEDING: When feeding pigs, don't allow them
to help themselyes—SERVE THEM.

DEAR ABBY: [ live in a very high-class apartment
building. The manager of this building is not doing his job
and I think his actions should be reported to the owner of
this bullding... srs geht re

When l'asKed the manager for the owner's name, he refus-
ed to give it to me. He said, “The owner doesn't want to be
bothered by any of the tenants; that's why he hired ME!’

How can I find out who the owner is? .

NO NAME IN SOUTH BOSTON

DEAR NO NAME: Look in your telephone book under
COUNTY TAX COLLECTOR (OR ASSESSOR) and call
that office. They have a record of who pays taxes on what.
The person who pays the property tax of your building is un-
doubtedly the owner,

Your Individual
Horoscope

Frances Drake
ARIES

(Mar. 21 to Apr. 9 TES

Don't throw caution to the
wind re diet and physical well-
being, esp. if traveling.
Patience re domestic
problems brings solution.
(Apr. 20 ta May 20) Dis

Don’t give your heart to the
first taker. Be more
discriminating. The p.m. finds
you in a good mood, but
somewhat careless,

GEMINI u
(May 21 to June 20)

The sooner you call a halt ta
excessive spending, the
better. Don't take close ones
for granted. The grasa may
not be greener elsewhere,
CANCER .
(June 21 to July 22) PED

Your nerves may need a
vacation. Investigate new
avenues of entertainment.
Show others your seriousness
when presenting ideas,

LEO
(July 23 to Aug. 22) QE

Rehashing old problems
with yourself may get tedious
‘unless you face facts. The
pursuit of pleasure could
make you careless with funds.
VIRGO
(Aug. 23 to Sept, 22) wy,

Try something new with
friends. Inviting others over
could bring problems at home.
Be considerate of those with
whom you live,

LIBRA
(Sept. 23 to Oct, 22) US SB

Carelessnesa in speech
could work against you at
work and during leisure hours,

Don't say the first thing that
comes to mind.

SCORPIO
Oct. 23 to Nov, 21) YAR

Unexpected expenses in-
dicated, especially for
travelers, Those partying
better be careful too, Don't
Joan valued possessions in-
discriminately.
SAGITTARIUS 3 i
(Nov, 22 to Dec, 21)

Make a good impression on
others, but don’t overdo it.
Wear appropriate attire. You
may be too self-concerned to
be truly intimate.
CAPRICORN
(Dec. 22 to Jan. 19) W

Forget about what could go

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