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Mental Barriers Make
“Invalids” of Us All

By Abigail Van Buren

© 1940 by Universal Preas Syndicate

DEAR ABBY: This letter is written in response to the
woman whose son was planning to marry a paraplegic. I am
‘a rehabilitation counselor, working solely with spinal cord
injured persons. | was distressed, but not surprised, that the
woman referred to her future daughter-in-law. as an
“invalid.”

Her ignarance concerning the limitations of persons with
spinal cord injuries is ‘all tao common. This lack of
understanding can be a far greater hardship to a person
with such an impairment than the impairment itself,

one letter, but I will try: The easiest way ie simply to list
gome of the things a paraplegic (one with lower body
paralysis) can do, with proper equipment and/or agsistancet
Work, play, marry, divorce, love, be loved, have sex,
become a parent, raise children, keep house, drive a vehicle,
shop, attend school, church and engage in sports. 3 could filt
your column with more, but I think you get the general idea.
Of course, each situation is different, depending on the
extent of injury, motivation, environmental barriers,
attitudinal barriers and other factors, But then we're all
different, aren’t we? Some of us able-bodied peaple do very
little with our lives while others accomplish a great deal.

r The same applies to persons with physical disabilities.
What we can all do is make sure that we never prevent
another human being from living as full and rewarding a

‘life as he is capable of. Let’s not be barriers ourselves.
JOE BUTLER, BATESVILLE, ARK.

DEAR JOE: Right on! ‘

DEAR ABBY: I am a 16-year-old girl. I know lota of boys
as friends but have never had a real boyfriend. To be
perfectly truthful about it, I have liked several boys a lot,
and one in particular was on my mind night and day. He
never paid any attention to me so I just went on dreaming
about him, but nothing ever ¢ame of it. °

Now for my problem. There is a rumor going around

aummer. Abby, it isa lie. I never even had the chance to get
pregnant, so [ don’tknow where this rumor got started. How
can 1 prove this is not true? I need your help.

LIED ABOUT

Please advise.
NOT SURE

DEAR NOT: Since the parents of the bride were
your guests last at a dinner party, they now owe youa
similar invitation. Even though their daughter's
wedding was elegant, it cannot be considered repay-
ment for your dinner party. i

CONFIDENTIAL TO J.B.: To those who would give
. wdvice, the best advice I know is, if you can’t be kind
— be quiet.

booklets: Please, please be patient. I am literally
deluged with orders and am getting them out as
quickly as possible.

There is no way to undo generations of misinformation in

achool ‘that I got pregnant and had an abortion Jaat -

CONFIDENTIAL to those who have sent for Abby's -

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| CROSSWORD ©

An evening: out together is
the best way to cope with a
loved one’s complaints. Later,
you'll enjoy each other. the
VIRGO mp
- (Aug. 23 to Sept. 22)
Little things at work could
get to you, but the p.m.
promises a wonderful time for.
lovers. Don't take others for
granted.

LIBRA .

(Sept. 23 to Oct. 22) ark
You're restless but not sure

how you'd like to spend leisure

time, A work-related function

may lead to a romantic.
introduction,

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(Oct, 23 to Nov. 21) m
You're temperamental and
could be short with a family
member. Later, you're in a
better mood and will meet

(Nav. 22 to Dee. 21)

You're fidgety and could.
have difficulty concentrating.’
However, an evening with
loved ones at home brings you
peace of mind.

CAPRICORN Wee
(Dec. 22 to Jan. 19)

In the midst of worry about
money, you'll come up with a
moneymaking idea, The p.m.
favors romantic visits. Good: |
news, but don’t overreact.
AQUARIUS ww

_ (an. 20 to Feb. 18) "2

-” You may not get your own

way, but friends are
supportive and the p.m. brings
financial opportunity. Watch
oxtraaeance though. so,

PISC mo ‘

(Feb. 19 to Mar. 20) Key the

Behind-the-scenes' career
moves pay off. Romance is in ;
your heart, and the p.m. could
lead to reciprocated affection.

Enjoy a night out.

ARRAN

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