Page 10, The Herald, Monday, Novemiber 6, 1978

DearAbby

DEAR ABBY: My wife and I are trying hard to cope
with the most heartbreaking tragedy a parent coul
ever experience—losing a child. .

Our son was only 18. We're sure he didn't want to end
his life. He died of an overdose of drugs. He had
everything to live for. He was an honor student, a fine
athlete, good-looking and popular, He had such great
plans for the future, and had already been accepted to
the university of his choice. He had never been in any
kind of trouble and we never knew him to touch drugs
of any kind. He wasn't an addict: He was a green kid
experimenting with pills and angel dust (PCP),

1 don’t know why I'm writing to you. Abby, except
that our sonused to read your column every day and he
thought you were a ‘neat lady”. Maybe I want to ask
you to tell kids who read your column to stay away
from drugs. They just don't realize what a terrible
price they might pay for wanting to get “thigh” or
experience new sensations.

And yes, Abby, he was our only son.
HEARTBROKEN INN.Y.

& a

DEAR HEARTUROKEN: You have my sympathy.
May Irecommend a wonderfully supportive group who
call themselves “The Compassionate Frienda”—a self-
help organization for parents whose children have
died. Many bereaved parents have found that their
Brief is lessened by quietly listening lo one another,
sharing experiences, talking aver thelr feellngs and
sometimes erying openly together. There are over 100
chapters In the United States—several In your state,

The person who made me aware of “The Com-
passionate Friends" said, ‘Losing a child ia positively

the worst thing that can happen to a parent, and the .

only people who can understand It are those who have
been through It. This organization was a lifesaver for
me,’

The national coordinators are Arnold and Paula
Shamres, whose 10-year-old daughter was killed in an
aceldent. The Shamreses will provide information
about this organization to anyone who writes to them at
P.O. Hox 3247, Halleah, Fla. 33013. Please enclose a
stamped, self-addressed envelope for their reply,

DEAR ABBY: What would you do if you received the
following card:

“Happy Birthday, Buy yourself a $10 gift, and send
me the invoice."

1. Ignore it.

2. Buy gift, and send invoice to giver.

3. Thank giver of gift (7) and lorgel it.

BS. the gift (7?) is not from a spouse.

BIRTHDAY BABY

DEAR BIRTHDAY BABY: Find a book on etiquette
that includes “gift giving’, and send him an invoice.

Do you wish you had more friends? For the secret of
popularity, get Abby’s new booklet: “How To Be
Popular; You're Never Too Y¥ oung or Too Old," Send $1
with a long, self-addressed, stamped (28 cents) en-
velope to Abby, 132 Lasky Drive, Beverly Hills, Calif.
90212.

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Crossword.

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containers
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Helen Hayes
12 Concerning
13 Wallach
or Yale
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country
16 Light
source
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member
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415 & 0, et al.

What kind of day will
today be? To find out
what the stars say, read
the forecast given for
_your birth sign.

ARIES
(Mar. 21 to Ape. 20)" V2—h
Don't be taken in by a casual
acquaintance who promises
the world but can't deliver.
Old friends are the best
friends, as you'll discover.
TAURUS

(Apr. 21 to May 21) Oda?
A romantic setback has you

relative could

suggest a solution to your

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Be sure you get out for a

social evening because an

unusual and unexpected

adventure awalts you.

CANCER

(June 22 to July 23) BEY

your own world that you have
no time to listen to the
problems of a close friend who
needs advice and guidance,

LEO

(July 24 to Aug, 23 PELE
Love makes your world go

round... and all because you

show someone special how

Don't get so wrapped up in -

Frances Drake

much they mean, Putting It in
words makes all the dif
ference.

VIRGO

(Aug, 24 to Sept. 23) wy,
Your well-meaning advice

will go unheeded. Keep your

temper under contro! and try

not to be aggravated by

stupidity,

LIBRA

(Sept. 24 to Oct. 23) Art
Avoid giving ultimatums or

you may have to live with

results that make you

unhappy. Leave the way open

to further communication.

SCORPIO
(Oct. 24 to Nov. 22) Meter
God's in his heaven and all
is right with your world today.
Your mood is marvelous, and
should remain so all week.
SAGITTARIUS df
(Nov. 23 to Dec. 21)
A friendship may be broken
over money, leaving youdown
usioned. Someone
you trust will cheer you up.
CAPRICORN
(Dec. 22 to Jan. 20) VJ
Sometimes you're careless
when it comes to financial
matters, A good day ta check
out the bookkeeping and see

just where you stand in the —

dollars and cents column.

Horoscope

AQUARIUS «ss
(Jan, 21 to Feb, 19) *~*,
Your opinion of an in-law
may be right on target, but
best keep it to yourself,
Vocalizing could only stir up
family problems.
(Feb, 20 to Mar, 20) MEX
You'll need all your tact and
diplomacy to get through a
difficult encounter today, but
there’s a bonus: You'll enjoy
the challenge.

YOU BORN TODAY have
an intellectual bent that
sometimes sets you apart
from others, yet your natural
enthusiasm wins you many
friends, You have a definite
flair for the theater but could
do well in public Ilfe or in the
executive suite. You enjoy art
and music and will always
include them in your life. You
appear supremely  self-
confident but sometimes
suffer inner doubts. Birthdate
of: Eugene Debs, labor
leader; Art Garfunkel, singer;
Tatum O'Neal, actress.

©1974 King Features Syndicate, Ine.

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©) 1918 King Features Syndicate, Ine.

By Stan Lee and John Romita

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