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DEAR ABBY

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house for him.

"¥ By Abigail Van Buren

€ 1979 by Chicago Tribune-N.Y, News Synd. Inc.

rightfully hers.

Does good etiquette
the wedding gifts to the relatives of the deceased when a
death occurs several years after the wedding?
GENUINELY PUZZLED

THE FOLKS

DEAR FOLKS: | hops your children don't miss this
column, -

modern home. My pr

advances to her, or any
what else am I to think? .

What would you do if yau were in my shoes?
BAPFLEDIN BUFFALO .

' DEAR BAFFLED: Hire a male domestic.

DEAR ABBY: | have a young friend whose wife died after
they had been married only five years.
My friend has received numerous ver
more recently a handwritten one, from his iste wife's
; mother asking that the wedding gilts (china, silvet, crystal,
etc) be sent to the iate wife's mother now that her daughter
DEAR ABBY: How many times have you heard grown is gone.
children (usually married) say to their parnts, “You are so
hard to buy a gilt for. We are running out of ideas.” Well, thelr friends) contributed most of the gifts, they are now
this Is an open letter to our children:
DEAR CHILDREN:
I wish you would realize that we older parents don't need
any more “things.”
Do you know what we would consider a really fine
present? Just a simple meal in your kitchen with « chance to
enjoy some conversation with you and our grandchildren
with no one else around.
You invite us to big parties to celebrate birthdays, an-
niversaries and holidays, but it’s always tea crowded and
noisy for conversation or visiting with the children. And
you are too busy being host and hostess to‘even know we are
there. .
So instead of trying to find a fancy gift for Mom.and Dad,
please give us the gift of simple hospitality, We would love
t.

DEAR ABBY: Jam about to lose my mind. My father is 89,
in fairly good health, retired and living alone in a very nice,
oblem is in getting someone to keep

Hougekespers quit him one after another. The last one
wasa very unattractive farm woman in her late 60s,She was
a good housakeeper, and I paid her twice what she could get
anywhere else, but she quit after one week!

When I asked her why, she said she'd rather not say, but: .
‘]_ she did agree to clean for him daily if J would stay in the

ff house with her, or if my father would get OUT of the house,
ere bul she wouldn't stay alone in the house with him.
Now, Abby, I cannot imagine my father making improper
of those other housekeepers, but

he mothor contends that since her side of the family land

DEAR PUZZLED: Wedding gifts are returned only if the
marriage \s dissolved within one year after it takes place.
And then they are returned ta the senders.

Ii a couple has been married for a year or more, and one
dics, the wedding gilts become the property of the remain:
ing spouse, unless atherwise specified in a will,

bal requests, and

demand that a surviving spouse give

HOROSCOPE >

‘FOR THURSDAY, MAY 17, 1979

ARIES
(Mar, 21 to Apr. my VR

An air of frivolity marks the
soctal scene, but you could be’
careless with money or
valuables. Don't neglect
duties.

TAURUS
(Apr. 20 to May 20) bagr
False starts and unrealistic
thinking mark career en-
deavors now. The end result

may be legs than anticipated,

Be prudent,

GEMINI :
(May 21 to June 20) nae
Others may come up with

‘reasons why you shouldn’t
travel now. Don’t be careless.
about returning phone calls
keeping promises. ;

: CANCER
~ (June 21 to July 22) ety

Financlal and business
complications are possible
now. Avoid speculative

"” schemes that require an
__ontlay of capital,

LEO.
(July 23 to Aug. WOE

Take nothing for granted

“Snow in relationships. Others

_ are Hable to be critical if you

~ meglect them or thelr in-

VIRGO

(Aug. 23 to Sept, 22) mp,
Distractlons and com-

plications with co-workers

could interfere with progress

now. Not a favorable day for

perfectlonists.

LIBRA
(Sept. 23 to Oct, 22) sd B
A friend or loved one may
not fulfill a promise, Your
judgment in affairs of the
heart and recreational in-
terests seems off for the
moment,

SCORPIO
(Oct. 28 to Nov, 21) MAKE

A_ flurry of domestic
problems interferes with your
dally routine. Do what has to
be done without fuss, Avold
nit-picking.

SAGITTARIUS . of Ped
(Nov. 22 to Dee. 21}

You're easily distracted
now and may forget an ap-
pointment. You're inclined to
ramble on a bit. Watch
exaggeration and careless

CAPRICORN
pach
‘ou could spend foo!
now and make some unwise
purchases. Furthermore,
others, too, may encourage

your extravagance.

AQUARIUS
(Jan, 20 to Feb. 18) ae
Downplay arrogame and
self-pregccupation, for others
could easily find fault with
your show of personality.
Don't try to Impress others.
PISCES
(Feb. 19 to Mar. 20) KEY
You could be in an escapist
mood. Watch out for
carelessness at work and
evasiveness on your part,
Don't complicate your life.

YOUR BORN TODAY haye
leaderahip ability and are at
home in large enterprises.
You work well in groups, are
attracted to public affairs, and
are also philanthropic, Avold
a tendency to scatter your
energies. Your best success
comes through hard work and
careful application of your
talents. In business, you'd
make a fine banker and
manager of others’ affairs.
You work best when insplred
by a cause. More at home in

business than the arte, you.

nevertheless can succeed on
the stage and as a writer.

’ Birthdate of: Jean Gabin,

actor; Maureen O'Sullivan,

actress; and Stewart Alsop,

columnist.

. ©1978 King Features Syndicate, Inc.

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