a Husband Won't = = Put Up a Fight. ‘By Abigail Van Buren }) 1978 by Chicago Tribune-N.Y. News Synd. (nc DEAR ABBY: This may sound strange, but in the six . years my husband and Ihave been married, we have never had a fight: We've had plenty of disagreements, but we have never sattled any of them. When my husband is mad about something, he clams up and sulke. He won’t even tell me what's wrong. ; Tam as bad as he is, When I'm upset, I get a lump in my throat, tears in my eyes, and I keep quiet. Sometimes I wish we could bring have a good old-fashioned shouting argument, but I honestly wouldn't know how to start one. Any suggestions? ; my suggeene _ SULKER'S WIFE DEAR WIFE: You are wise to want to air your feelings. Allowing unresolved tensions to build up inside can cause one major explosion far more serious than a series of minor blowouts, Few merried couples agree on EVERYTHING. * “ When you're upset, swallow that lump in your throat, let the tears fall whore they may, and say exactly what you're thinking. Don't attack you mate in anger —simply describe your feellaga honestly. . . ; : This la sure to provoke some sort of reaction in your _ husband. He'll either deny or affirm, defend or oa counterattack, justify or apologize. And before you know a it, you'll have a healthy, honest dialogue going. DEAR ABBY: Why do so many people object to children? I am.the mother of three, ages 2, 4 and 6, and I take them with me everywhere. If I'm invited somewhere, [always ask if my children are welcome, and if they're not, I don’t go... * , cP Children need to be with their parenta as much as possible.’ It assures them that they ere loved. Leaving children at home all the time is hard on them. It makes them -fee] unwanted and insecure. ; : ‘1am not insulted: if I am told my children : aren't welcome. | realize that sometimes children are hard to take. Even mine. It requires a lot of love and patience to take your children with you all the time, but they grow up so fast, it's worth it. ; . I will stick by my beliefs and encourage others to do the same. . . . Am I wrong? | , LOVES CHILDREN ae DEAR LOVES: You ask why so many people object to > children. Becauce, ubless they are diaciplined and well behaved, they tond to impose on the rights of others. Children cannot be expected to behave as adults, and to demand that they do puta an impossible and unfair burden on them. - ; DEAR ABBY: My husband and [ have put up with this nervy couple long enough. They always come at mealtime. Being a well-mannered person, I cannot eat infront of people, so I ask them to join us. And when they do, they eat everything in sight. ma, We bought curtains to close off the-front windows, but they sdem to know when we are home and keep ringing the bell and pounding on our door until we let them in. We have started to eat in our basement with the lights off, but my husband refuges to eat down there in the dark anymore. How can we discourage these people? 7 ss ATALOSS DEAR AT: For-openera, you could come right out and - a tell them that when you want dinner guests you will invite them. And if you're lucky, theyll never visit you. again. DEAR ABBY: A few years ago I fell in love with a married man. We both work in the same office, so of course we-see each other every day.» ar . [know his wife will never give him a divorces, and as long as I am around thia man I'll never get over him, so I have decided to quit my job and find another one. . My problem is, what reagon should I give my boss fo julttin ; 9 a ; STUMPED DEAR STUMPED: Tell ‘him you want a change of scenery. (It's true.) Lo DEAR ABBY: In response to the church wedding photographer, who took pictures for five hours and | “gtarved' dinner: all T know, the preacher said “The Pledge of Allegiance,” the organist played "The Little Brown Jug,” and all the guests wore flannel nightgowns! 7 What I'm trying to ‘say is this: Brides are usually -so nerveus, preoceupied and dazed at their own weddings that they. can’t be expacted to remember to invite the photographer to join in the wedding feast. ‘Assuming the. photographer jis a couldn't he just gpaak up and say, “Ia It okay if I have a bite to eat? I'm starving." - BEEN THERE ! DEAR BEEN: He could, but most photographers stay in the dark until something develops. __ DEAR ABBY: I live in Jacksonville, N.C., aid want to know what you think about the syatem used here to get kids to attend school. , ut @ student -attenda class avery day for six weeks straight, he will receive two extra pointa during that wrading period. ; . missing one day will be excused from taking final -axaminations, ki [think this is a Food idea because It's an incentive for go to school, a th me, , bribes What do yon fre pisagrees w ms le says it’s a JACKSONVILLE STUDENT _ DEAR STUDENT: A student's grades should reflect his weholastic ability which has nothing to do with his. record of attendance. Rewarding students with a higher grade for merely — showing up every day makes their gradas phony. iso, allowlng seniors Wo ekip final gamuinaticus us a reward for perfect attendance would discriminate against. those who have been absent for legitimate reasons. Vm all for giving kids an incentive for attending schoo! regularly, but upping their gradea strikes me as a poor our complaints out in the open and | while everybody waa enjoying the wedding | [remember our church wedding some 20 years ago. For rown man, why Seniors who attend classes for the entire year without . Your Individual Horoscope - Frances Drake FOR TUESDAY, MARCH 28, 1978 What kind of day will tomorrow be? To find out what the stars say, read the forecast given for your birth Sign. ARIES (Mar, 21 to Apr. 20) TS You may now be able to find the solution to @ problem which has been bothering you for some time — and in & surprisingly easy manner. BGR TAURUS (Apr. 21 to May 21) Your creative ideas may need some revision before they can be carried out, so be sure to study all angles of feasibility before presenting them to superiora. eo GEMINI (May 22 to June 23) Excellent stellar influences. 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