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A Sister Act

By Abigail Van Buren

1979 oy Chicago Thoune-N.Y. News Synd. Inc.

DEAR ABBY: Last summer my sisLer and her Lwo sons (9
and 11) visited me. The boys found a claset full of clothes
which I had stored away, so they put on a "fashion show” for
their mother and me. It was cleverly done and both buys
made beautiful models.

I was recently informed by my sister that her 11-year-old
had taken home one of the gowns he had modeled, as well as
a pair of my high-heeled shoes! She found them in his guitar
case. This same boy used to wear his mother's clothes when
he was 4 and 5, but she thought he'd outgrown it. My sister
is a strict disciplinarian. “Grounding” is her chaice of punish-
ment. What would be your recommendation for correcting

such tendencies?
CONCERNED AUNT

DEAR AUNT: Your sister should be counseled by
someone who is familiar with transvestism (cross dressing),
and learn more about it, She also should keep the channels
of communication open with her son 80 that he will feel free
and unashamed to share his feelings and tendencies with
her. Grounding him for something about which he may be
compulsive is exactly what she SHOULDN'T do. The boy
needs understanding, not punishment.

DEAR ABBY: A reader recently asked if it was con-
sidered proper etiquette Lo turn his wine glass upside down
at a dinner party, and you said it wasn't.

Abby. as a non-wine drinker, I have always turned my
wine glass upside down to let the waiter know that I do not
wish wine. Otherwise he is apt to come along and fill my
glass while [’'m nol looking, which is a foolish waste of wine.

It's just a matter of common sense. You disappointed me.

NO WINE IN CEDAR RAPIDS

DEAR NO WINE: I sald it ISN'T considered proper eti-
quette — because it isn’t. But I've often stated that common
sense outranks etiquette in my book, and if one must make a
choice, go the common sense route~ and a pox on etiquette!

DEAR ABBY: My husband and I work for the same com-
pany, in the same building, but he is located on the floor
above me. I'ma secretary and he has a higher position. lam
very busy during the day since I have to type letters and
work with numbers, My problem is that my husband (let's
call him John), will call me at least five times a day asking
me to do things for him. (Make ealls for him, run copies,
bring him a snack, ete.) John just called to ask me to remind
him of an appointment he had this afternoun! If I suggest
that he tell his Seeretanyer make reminder-nates like | do,
he gets angry and hangs,yp.4n me. vt.

Ahby, I fave a job Lo do rt the John dood tt atraid this
is going to jeopardize my job.-How can | end this dilemma
without offending my husband? I am becoming a

SURROGATE SECRETARY

DEAR SURROGATE: As long as you continue to act asa
“surrogate secretary" for your husband, you are coa-
tributing to the dilemma, If his secretary isn’t as elficient as
you, tell him to make a change. Let John know that his
demands are too burdensome, and I wouldn't be too con-
cerned about “offending” a man who hangs up on me,

CONFIDENTIAL TO MRS. K. IN BAY CITY, TEXAS: .

The henpecked husband is the first to fly the coop. If he

wants an occasional night out with the boys, let him have it. .

Problems? You'll feel better if you get them off your
chest, For a perconal reply write to Abby, Box 69700, Los
Angetes, Cal. 90069. Please enclose stamped, self-addressed
envelope,

Your Individual
Horoscope

Frances Drake

ARIES
(Mar. 21 to Apr. 19) TS

Avoid disputes with a co-
worker, Others may not take
kindly to advice. Be low-key
with a stubborn person.
Hunches are accurate.
TAURUS
(Apr. 20 to May 20) OKA”

A critical attitude can mar
entertainment plans.
Questions of intimacy have
the potential for argument.
Watch fixed opinions.
GEMINI re
(May 21 to June 20)

Don’t be sarcastic with
loved ones. Irritability causes
you trouble. There could be a
disagreement about a
domestic matter.

CANCER
(June 21 to July 22) CT]

Consider the feelings of
others when stating
viewpoints. Little things irk.
Keep mentally cool to ward off
inefficiency.

(auly 23 to Aug. WOR

A loved one may he critical
of your spending habits. If
overtired, why not go ta bed
early. Let go of fixity and be
flexible.

VIRGO
(Aug. 23 to Sept, 22) mp Sy

Softpedal criticism. Nit-
picking qualities are to the
forefront. Take things in
stride. Rushing only com-
plicates matters.

LIBRA
(Sept. 23 to Oct. 22) ree

Something you say could
cause you negative feedback.
Think twice before voicing
criticisms, Pay attention to
others’ feelings.

SCORPIO
(Oct. 23 to Nov. 21) Ae

A friend may ignore your

* viewpoint and act without
. consideration. Thoughtles-

sness though doesn't give you
the right for revenge.
SAGITTARIUS rr
(Nov. 22 to Dec. 21)

The tendency to act without

* thinking is paramount, Handle -

higher-ups carefully. A friend
seems unwilling to change.
Let it be.
CAPRICORN Ve tae
(Dec. 22 to Jan. 19)
Remembering past hurts
could get you in trouble now,
Try to forgive and forget. Stay
clear af others' sensitive
points.
AQUARIUS ae
(Jan. 20 to Feb. 18) axis
. Impatience with a friend
could lead to a verbal ex-
change. Don’t harbor
resentments or brood in
silence, Let go of the matter.
ISCES ‘
(Feb. 19 to Mar, 20) HEX
Help out a friend in need.
Your efforts will be ap-
preciated. Career dealings
require patience and tact.
Others are edgy.

HERMAN

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