Page &, The Herald, Thursday, December 21, 1976

Dear Abby

By Abigail Van Buren

D 1978 by Chicago Tribune-N Y- News Sync. ine

DEAR ABBY: My future son-in-law (I'll call him
Paul) is 21, and we like him a jot, but he has one very
annoying fault, He has terrible table manners, He
wolfs his food down and, before anyone is half finished,
he's grabbing for seconds, He eats like an animal; just
watching him can spoil a person's appetite.

Paul lives a long distance from here, so he comes
over every Friday efter work and stays until Sunday
evening. It has been a ritual for a year now. We enjoy
having him, but we dread mealtime.

My daughter can’t de anything about it. She's tried
telling him for his own good in a nice way, and she's
even embarrassed him, hoping that would work, but
his eating habits are so deeply ingrained [’m afraid
he’s hopeless.

The wedding is a few menths off and our resentment

builds every tlme we sit down at the table with Paul. Is

there a solution?
FUTURE MOTHER-IN-LAW

DEAR MOTHER-IN-LAW: I don't believe Paul is
“hopeless’’. If he wanted to improve his table man-
ners, he could. But if your daughter is willing to
tolerate Paul’s bocrishness and gluttony, she can
expect the problem to last as long as thelr marriage.
And unless YOU want totell him, you have the option of
putting up with it or seeing as little of him at mealtime
as possible.

DEAR ABBY: My grandmother is inher 80s and isin
good health. After grandfather died several years ago,
she drew up a will to provide for disposition of her real

property and Investments, but she did nothing about
r personal possegsions,

Granny owns some things that may tv Itfle to
her, but their dispositlon might provoky « .,in-y battle
after her death,

How can her heirs gently suggest now that ahe
specify who shall inherit what without appearing
greedy or giving the impression that we are waiting for
her to die?

I doubt that she has given this any thought. What do

you suggest? .
GRANDSON IN A LARGE FAMILY
DEAR GRANDSON; I know of no way to “gently

- Suggest’ to a womay In her 80a that It's me she

specified who shall get her personal possessions after
she’s gone.

Ha family batile breake out Inter, It won't be
Granny's funeral. She'll already have had hers.

DEAR ABBY: I met this guy a short time ago and we
hit it off right from the start. He's good-looking, very
successful in his business, and great company: 1
flipped for him. So what's my problem?

He smells just like my ex-husband, and this turns me
off. [ haven’t got the nervetotell him to use some other
Kind of cologne (or after-shave) but so help me, Abby,
when he gets close to me, the smell of him brings back
#0 many memories, both happy and painful, that I am
turned off!

Am I crazy? And how can this problem be solved?

TURNED OFF IN JERSEY

DEAR TURNED: You are not crazy, and your
problem can be easily solved, Bay the gentleman
ANOTHER brand of cologne (or after-shave) and ask
him to wear it just for you, If he's as great as you say
he is, you shouldn't mind paying through the nose,

CONFIDENTIAL TO “HAVING DOUBTS" IN

MEMPHIS: May I quote the words of Ella Wheeler
cox:

“Talk faith. The world is better off without

Your uttered ignorance and morbid doubt,

Tf you have faith in God, or man, or self,

Say so. If not, push back upon the shelf

Of silence, all your thoughts, till faith shall come;

Noone will grieve because your lips aredurmb,””

Horoscope

ARIES
(Mar, 21 to Apr, 19) a ae
Getin touch with agents, art
galleries and publishers re
creative work. A confusing or
difficult work sutlation is
solved in the p.m,
TAURUS
‘Apr. 20 to May 20) OA”
Try a fresh approach to an
ald problem re children or
loved ones and you'll obtain
speedy results. Go ahead with
home-improvement plans,
GEMINI
(May 21 to June 20)
. What seems to be an in-
soluble problem in. the a.m,
can be surmounted by the
p.m. Make joyful plans with
loved ones. Share thoughts.
CANCER
(June 21 to July 22) t= Ti)
Cash in on profitable work
ideas, Get some fresh air and
exercise as a tonic for mental
cobwebs. Seek novel en-
tertainments.

LEO
(July 23 to Aug. 22) SOQ
There Is no escape from a

serious financial dilemma.

Face facts, and then come up

with a workable solution.

Communicate with loved ones,

VIRGO

(Aug. 23 ta Sept. 22) my
If you feel like Scrooge this

FOR THURSDAY, DECEMBER 21, 1978

a.m., your dark moods will lift
as you talk things over with
others. Let logic prevail,
LIBRA
(Sept. 23 to Oct, 22) fed B
Relieve inner tension by
buying a gift for yourself.
Before making a decision, talk
things’ over with a friend.
Listen.
SCORPIO
(Oct. 23 to Nov. 21) Meee”
Present money making
ideas to a superior for an
enthusiastic response.
Socialize, but don’t get en-
tangled in problems you can't
solve... . wow

SAGITTARIUS

(Novy. 22 to Dec. 21) xtgit?
Communications with those

at a distance should be

uplifting. Don’t let worry

obscure your judgement re a

career matter. Seek advice.

CAPRICORN

(Dec, 22 to Jan. 19) Wi laa?
Keep money negotiations

private. Avoid pessimism and

verify reservations and time

schedules, if traveling. New

friends awalt you at a

distance.

AQUARIUS

(Jan. 20 to Feb. 18) aie
A muddled financial picture

requires realistic thinking on
your part. By the end of the
day, you'll see a light at the
end of the tunnel,

PISCES

(Feb. 19 to Mar, 20) KEY .

Today you'll get a glimpse
of both the best and the worst
in a partnership situation.
Listen to the ideas of your boss
te a work project,

YOU BORN TODAY are
idealistic, somewhat nervous,
and very imaginative,
Whether -you ‘choose art;
politics, or business, your
interest in the welfare of
others will pervade what you
do. A true humanitarian with
artistic talents, you can
succeed as a writer, actor,
dancer or artist. At times
suspicions get the best of you,
but this same quality could
make you a good
psychoanalyst or mystery
writer. Education also at-
tracts you, but your interest in
humanity invariably draws
you into the political arena,
Birthdate of Kurt Waldheim,
UN leader; Jane Fonda,
actress, and Benjamin
Disraeli, Br. statesman,

©1978 King Features Syndicate, Ine,

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