Code for Kids

By Abigail Van Buren

» 1979 by Chicago Tribune-N.Y, Naws Synd. Inc.

DEAR ABBY: There has been a lot of discussion in our
home about a column you wrote recently. I refer to “Do's
and Don’t for Parents” —written by a 14-year-old reader,

T'm a 47-year-old father, and [ have written.some “Do's
and Don'ts for Teenagers.” If you think they are worth
printing, a lot of a parents will thank you.

Don’t bring obscene literature, pot, or any kind of drugs
into your hame,

Choose for your friends kids who have earned a good -

repulation.

Take proper care of your own property, and don't allow
others to abuse it. .

Treat both parent's equally well—espeeially if one hap-
pens to be a step parent,

Don’t threaten to run away irom home if your parents’
rules don’t suit you. .

If your parents have adopted you, try hard Lo adopt them.

Treat your brothers and sisters with consideration and
respect. "

Don't demand things just because your friends have them.

Try to earn your own way by helping around the house,
especially if both parents work. ‘

If you have a difference of opinion, let your parents talk,
and don't interrupt them.

When you are wrong, apologize. And if you're caught ina |

lie, don’t tell another one trying lo deny il.
Des let your parents know that you love them.
: SWANSHOHO.N.C,

DEAR ABBY: My L4 year-old daugther went lo boarding
school last year. In January she was put on probation for
drinking. In April she was expelled for possession and use of
marijuana, She's home now permanently, and things aren't
going well. 7

She recently gave me your columrf on “Do's and Don'ts for
Parents," written by “a loyal fan"—a 14-year-old girl.
Underlined were, “Don't search your kid's room. Don't read
their diaries, personal ietters, ete.” This has become a major
issue with her because while retrieving my hair dryer from
her room I knocked over a box containing pot pipes. Another
time, on our iront steps, ] found a letter (no envelope) con-
taining a description of how she and her friend got stoned at
school.

Also underlined was, “Don't choose their lriends for

them,” because | refused to let her have asa weekend guest
a girl who had been kicked out of school for providing her
classmales with pot.
. [agree that. parents. should. respect the privacy of their
children, bul children also owe Lheir-parents some-honesty.
It is almost impossible to deal openly with problems when
the children constantly lie. Children should also realize thal
parents are not frustated Gestapo agents, but very worried
father and mothers.

Have you any advice for our family situation? Our
daughter is still into these self-destructive habits.

WORRIED MOTHER IN N.Y.

DEAR MOTHER: | recommend that you get in touch
with FAMILIES ANONYMOUS, P.O.Box 344, Torrance,
Calif. $0501. Please enclose a long, stamped, self-addressed
envelope. I have received reports from all over the United
States and Canada raving about this fine supportive
organization.

Who said the teen years are the happiest? For Abby's
new booklet “What Teenagers Want to Know," write Abby:
132 Lasky Dr., Beverly Hills, Calif. 90212. Eaclose $1 and a
long, stamped (28 cents}, self-addressed envelope, please.

Your Individual

Horoscope

——— Frances Drake

" ARIES
_ (Mar. 21 to Apr. 1 ¥=e

For harmony in relation-
ships, avoid money
discussions. Instead, share
leisure hours together and
make plans for the future.
TAURUS

(Apr. 20 te May mar

A partner may be inwardly -

troubled. Don't let this bother
your work efficiency. Make
important business calls.
Balance work with play.
GEMINI
(May 21 to June 20} .
An enjoyable day, if you
protect health. Don't let
leisure activities interfere
with work to be done, Enjoy
being home. .

. CANCER

(June 23 to July 22) oe)

Concentrate on finishing
chores around the house, Not
the best time for entertaining
at home. dren may be
troublesome or hyperactive.

Oey 23 to Aug. ay RR

Family talks may not settle
things at present. A relative
may be irritable. Don't let
distractions interfere with
concentration,

VIRGO
(Aug. 23 to Sept. 22) wy,

Spruce up your appearance
or buy yourself a present, Not
the time for signing papers,
esp where money is involved.
Expect a change in plans.
LIBRA

(Sept. 23 to Oct. 22)
Share thoughts with friends.
Find out what's bothering you.
Avoid.an expensive shopping
Spree as an escape from
problems.
SCORPIO
(Oct. 23 to Nov. 21) Mae
Accept invitations. A social
gathering is just what the
doctor ordered. Friends lift
your spirits and get yau out of
yourself,
SAGITTARIUS
(Nov. 22 to Dec. 21) xe
Be sure to be on time for
appointments. Friends both
please and irritate. Cooperate
with others for career
progress. Be gracious,
CAPRICORN VW
(Dec. 22 to Jan. 19)
Don’t let friends distract

. you from career goals. Talks

with advisers are productive.
Not the best time for mixing
business with pleasure,
AQUARIUS aa
(Jan. 20 to Feb. 18) "=

Listen to mate's ideas about
joint finances. Consult with
advisers about investments or
loans, but be wary of making
career changes.

PISCES
(Feb. 19 to Mar. 20) KEY

Your best bet to improve
income is to capitalize on a
current work ‘opportunity.
Avoid quick get-rich schemes
and don’t be‘talked into
anything.

YOU BORN TODAY are a
natural money-maker and do
best when involved with large .
enterprises, Though at home
in the world of finance, you're
inclined to a professional
career. Law, medicine, and
polities are fields for which
you have a special affinity

HERMAN

"Sandra, bring me a paper towel.”

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