Page & The Harald, Monday, November 19, 1979 Won’t Stand For Sitting By Abigail Van Buren « 1979 by Chicago Tribune-N.Y. News Synd. inc. DEAR ABBY: 1 have been a grandmother since I was 37. I'm 40 now, and my daughter-in-law and I have a big dif- ference of opinion about what a grandmother is supposed to do, I have-told my daughter-in-law and my son that from now on I will not baby-sit for free while they go out and have a good time. I will baby-sit in an emergency, or if my daughter-in-law has a doctor's appointment, but for no other reason willl sit for free. Ifthey have to pay me like they pay any other sitter, they won't just dump the baby on me and run, or phone me up to come over and watch the baby for “a few minutes"—which always seem to run to three or four hours. Don’t get me wrong, Abby. [ love my grandchild, but I can't make my daughter-in-law realize that grandmothers are not put on earth to take care of their grandchildren. [have my son, his wife and the baby over every Sunday for dinner and two or three times during the week, but I don't want the full responsibility of looking after the baby while the parents are out having fun. Am I wrong? How do other grandmothers feel? By the way, Abby, if you're a grandmother, how de you handle the sitting problem? NO SITTER DEAR NO SITTER: I'm a grandmother with no sitter problem beeauae my grandchildren live 2,000 miles away. But if E lived im the same city I would have to draw straws with the other grandmother for the privilege of sitting. She loves it. Bleas her. DEAR ABBY: Please, please tell teenagers that they can become pregnant without “going all the way.” That is what happened to me. My boyfriend of two years and I were very close, but we never actually went all the way. Nevertheless, [ was seven months pregnant when I got married although I was still a virgin, My doctor even said so. I love my husband and my sen, but I am sorry I became pregnant when I did, It stood in the way of my finishing college. ; LEARNED THE HARD WAY DEAR LEARNED: FE have stated that fact in my column many times, but it bears repeating. Perhaps your ex- perience will be more effective than my warning. Lhope 60. DEAR ABBY: 1 am writing in response to a letter signed READY TC KILL — the young woman who was at the end of her patience with a neighbor's barking dog. If she lives in Hawaii, she can call the Hawaiian Humane . Society. Their staff will tape-record the continous barking, nd with, elevidenres cpnfront..the owner of the,dog. © a Humane Society staf then work with the dog owner to correct the dog’s behavior. They continue to monitor the situation and, if the barking persists, the Humane Society contacts the local police, who are empowered to issue a sum- mons to the owner, (And they DO issue such summonses.) I would be surprised if other major cities did not have such a noise-abatement program sponsored by the local Humane Society. CHERLY N.IN HONOLULU DEAR CHERLY: If other communities do not have sucha program, they should have! [t's good to know that in Hawaii they don't have to take the matter of backing dogsinto their . . |. own lovely hula hands. DEAR ABBY: | fell hard for a man I work with. I'll call him Mel. Mel is married. I'm single. We rendezveused dur- ing long lunch hours, and any evenings he could get away. Mel's old lady got wind of our romance, so he said we had to cool it for a while. Well, his old lady is no dummy. She said as long as we worked together she wouldn't feel comfortable. She even threatened Lo go to the boss, so | agreed to find anather job. [loved my job, but I'm the one who had to quit. Why? NAMELESS NINNY DEAR NINNY: Because you agreed to. (P.S. There's a fesaon to be learned here, Never fish off the company dock!} Your Individual Horoscope Frances Drake ARIES (Mar, 21 to Apr. 19) es Carelessness could mar work efforts. Avoid overin- dulgence in food and drink, Words of lave from a close one sweetens the p.m. TAURUS (Apr, 20 to May 20) Bice” Strengthen ties of affection with loved ones. Partners provide solutions to work problems. Be careful of overspending on pleasure. GEMINI ve (May 21 to June 20) Don’t be tax ahout household chores. Taking others for granted is a form of inconsideration. The p.m. favors romantic interests, CANCER (June 2i to July 22) So Be alert on the job, Careless thinking and procrastination should be avoided. Enjoy recreation with family. Friends are helpful. uly 28 to Aug. 22) Cotes The grandiose gesture could prove costly. Protect assets. Romance’ should prove thrilling. Creative pursuits get the go-ahead. VIRGO (Aug. 23 to Sept. 22) my, A chance to buy something of permanent value shouldn't be ignored. A relative may promise mare than is possible. Be skeptical. ‘ ' LIBRA . (Sent. 23 to Oct, 22ykeS B Choose words with care, You could say the wrong thing. Follow through on creative ideas. Artistic pur- suits are especially favored. SCORPIO as (Oct, 23 to Nov. 21) m Friends and money dan’t mix. A debt may not be repaid, though private financial negotiations proceed smoothly. Partnership rap- port. SAGITTARIUS at (Nov. 22 to Dec. 21) Curtail unrealistic career notions, A party turns out better than expected. You may become someone’s secret admirer. Mean what you say, CAPRICORN (Dec, 22 to Jan,_19), Va is probably untrue, A friend may be the force behind a favorable career develop- ment. Be appreciative. AQUARIUS ma (Jan, 20 to Feb. 18) *™ A friend’s hot financial tip may not be accurate, Social life has romantic possibilities, Someone from afar may catch your eye. 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