DEAR ANN’ LANDERS: Every now and then you rerun 2 letter because someone thinks il. should be repeated not only for those Wha didn’t see it the first lime,: but for those who saw It and didn't pay ary attention. 1 am in the second category anc now I'm paying the price for my stupidity, ‘ i The letter was- from a woman, who, when her husband - died. moved in with her daughter and son-in-law.- That’. widow, “strangely enough, made exactly the same mistake I did. Please, Ann, hunt-up the letter and rerun it for those for whom. it is not too late: Bless you. — Sad And Sorry DEAR SORRY: Here's the letter and I agree, it's one that bears repeating. _ DEAR ANN LANDERS: 1 read the letter from the widow who sold her lovely house and moved in with her daughter: She wrote: “It was the biggest mistake af my life. | am now a _ She's lucky. 1 made the same mistake, but I’m no guest — rm a maid and a laundress, a nurse, a gardener, a short-order cook and an answering service. Tam not suggesting this is what ° “my daughter and son-in-law had in mind when they. begged me to. move in with them. They were truly. concerned that I would be - lonely. Bul you. know the: old saying,‘ paved with good. intentions.” I work harder now than I ever did in my awn home, There are four children here. and’ the ° music is so loud I have three: - I.am under .. day headaches. tension constantly because I try so hard to avoid expressing an opinion: I'm-afraid 1 might be ve ‘accused of “taking sides" “interfering”. —. the cardinal sins of old people. + It was sheer folly for me to give up my own home. If this, letter helps. just one widow make up her mind, it will be- worth the pain J suffered to write it..(P.8. Where were you. ” three’ years ago, Ann, when. I needed you?) .~ Sacramento ‘DEAR SAC.: I was right here ‘three ‘years _aga, ~giving - the - same :. Advice. . . DEAR ANN LANDERS: You ‘certainly. * showed “5: your ° ignorance ° when you responded a to “Want To Learn’. The writer assured you he had no racial prejudices. himself'as “born in the North’ and moved when a child with his“ parents to the Midwest.” His question was: the polite word to describe Afro- Americans?” He said years ago the -most ‘popular word was “eolored, " ‘then Negro came’ into usé, Now the popular word: seems to be “black”, .He- said” black was inappropriate.since - -many cof his Afro-American friends ‘are not black, in fact, some of his East Indian friends, > Your answer floored me. You | replied, The word ‘black’ is ~ definitely in, but 1 prefer Negro.” _ + . How gross can you get? Dan’t | “you know there is no such word ~ as “Negro”? It is a bastar- _ .dization of the word “nigger,” _ pronounced “Nigra” by Southerners, That a woman in your position didn't know this is positively shocking. Sign me— High Umbrage - DEAR HIGH: Please come down a little. so. we. com- municate. Negro is a legitimate word. It comes from the Latin “niger,” meaning black. For “many years it: was the term . preferred (capitalized, ; course). by most people of thal - race,’ Many distinguished and chitvated people wha still in” somebody : else! 5 «“The road to: hell’ is * He - ‘described -.., prefer it aré Sterling Brown, the poet; Patricia Harris, the prominent Washington, D kone attorney? and Roy Wilkins, head’ : of the NAACP. [ was taking my stand with them, ~T realize, however, t that’ the -times and language do change. When T asked my friend John Johnson, the publisher of Ebony " magazine, this question, he told me ofa 1973 survey that showed ’ 90 per cent of the readers polled (#g - by Ebony preferred to be called- - black, with Afro-American ‘second and Negro third. DEAR ANN LANDERS: Iam a Jewlsh widower who has been keeping steady company with a ~ charming, Protestant divorcee. We have agreed thal the dil- ferences in religion will not be a. divisive’ “factor in ’ “relationship. We are mature, liberal thinkers and each of us réspects the rights of the other to.hold the religious beliefs we were reared with. Recently we had dinner at ‘the home’ of my fiancee’s close — friends. Her: grown children © : were present.. Grace was said before the meal, The prayer was offered inthe name of Jesus Christ,. whom I. have ‘always accepted, as a learned rabbi and teacher, bul not as a deity, I have been present at public gatherings when prayers have been invoked in the name of Jesus and have always felt uncomfortable. I believe prayers should be ecumenital In content - when our. people: of different faiths ° gather. In your opinion would it _ be best to remain silent on such occasions and: consider jit -a - thoughtless gesture?-Or should T(ell my fiancee how I feel and, ask her.to inform the hast ahead of: timeso similar, discomfort ‘ean be avoided in the:future? — Unsure: DEAR. U.:. “An ecumenical - prayer is, of course, in much better tasle when members of a variety of faiths are present, but it is in bad taste to tell ‘others how to pray in their homes. :. at many luncheons and dinners when pork has been-served and grace was offered in the name . [hava been the guest speaker . “of Jesus. So J éat'the'salad and’: :,.\wepelables.. and ‘silently,-say”.a° ; Hebrew blessirig, Atour dinner. : table; however, when guests are The: Indian population in British Columbia in increasing at the rate of two point six per cent, twice the natural increase of the non-Indian population. The Indian infant (to 12 months) death rate in 1873 was the lowest ever recorded, | though still morethan twice the Francine Vandelac’s knitwear collection is full of _ surprises. For a classic shirtcoat, she knits a loop pattern with plain ribbed edges and belt. Style No. 740. Approx. Canadian retail price: $250. Approx. American retail price: $275, Hat: Anita Pineault. ; Boots: Brown's. Makeor: Electra & Corrado. Photo: Serge Beauchemin non-Indian rate, “These details of Registered Indian births and deaths in 1973 are ‘contained in -a~ letter to chiefs -and- councillors of all _ bands in:British Columbia from Dr. G.C. Butler, Pacific Region Director, Medical Services - Branch, National. Health and . Welfare. improvement, but the situation is still far from satisfactory,'’ the deaths among infants oc- curred in the first few days of Jife, The only way to prevent themi is more adequate prenatal care”. ° records show. that more than half of the Indian women visited the docter or nurse less than six limes during pregnancy. This is considered inadequate as Indian women deliver more under-weight babies than non- Indian, -and the Branch recommends they visit the doctor or nurse eyery month during the first seven months of pregnancy, then twice monthly thereafter. . . The Branch survey also found thal low-weight babies’ were’ more common in women over 30° years of age and in women with fiveor more children. The letter stresses the need for these women in particular to visil the - doctar or nurse regularly during pregnancy. ‘Most of the remaining deaths mn infants were. from chest: Food Price Reviews ‘for Consumers Peanut butter prices have increased by. approximately 10 - per cent at the retail level since’ June 1973 and further price Incréases may occur, - ’ The main ingredients used in the manufacture of. peanut butter are crushed peanuts, peanut oil, and sugar. « The ingredients: are blended’ ‘and homogenized to ¢ shave’ a smooth or “crunchy” texture. - consumption was about 2.87 Ibs, present, we join hands’ around ~: -the table and the prayer. ] 1 offer. _is always. ecurnenical, sig DEAR ANN. LANDERS: Our: family has moved 1¢ times In’ the past six years. We always | *., Jeavea forwarding address and. “What: is » Tm beginning to wondet if it’s ‘a ~ good idea. T've had letters from former neighbors. and acquaintances whose names I can scarcely remember. .-'They,. want to _ correspond ‘and chave even suggested that we Visit them. . Should [ respond or would it he: best td ignore the. letters?. — they are lighter_in color than.’ Gypsie ' DEAR..G.;_ To ignore such well-ineaning. friends would be extremely catlous. Simply. write a friendly, ‘noricommital note. Say you were flattered to have been remembered and you hope’ to see them again sometime, .- [TURN ONS B.C. female population of “negotiable. Excellent Opportunity For Working Couple Ton manage and d maintain bar and. tounge in Tide Lake. 32 minutes nérth of Stewart «» This dual position will appeal to a diversified couple who enjoy catering to a young male and -ployees. Club sales exceed $100,000 annually. ‘Should have previous club and bar management experience. Company subsidized partially. fur- nished trailer and benefits available including ) month paid holiday after 1 year of service. "Relocation assistance ‘available. Please forward application with ‘Personal resyme and work history to: -Grandue Socialand Recreational Club Box 69, Stewart. B.C, ‘recreational © 400 mining camp em- ~ Salary in 1973 whieh {s a dectine | fram the previous year, * The: Food ~ peasons for increased "Reanti ‘butter prices are: almost doubled since June 1973. Although world production increased in 1973, the world shortage of edible ails has indirectly created a shor- tage in peanut supplies used for peanut butter , manufacture. Countries which formerly ex- ported . peanuts ara now allovating much af these quantities for domestic peanut oil production. The reduction in peat supplies has forced » prices upward. ‘+ The price of peanut ‘oil doubied in the past year due to ‘world shortages in all classes: of edible oils. . - The price of sugar has ‘almost tripled since November - 1973 due chiefly to world con- sumplicn exceeding. world production in recent years... ~ Packaging costs have tne _ Specializing in » form spreadable’ ‘sollds which= may”. Canadian per capita ” Prices’ Reviews : .” Board considers that the major. =: The: cost of peanuts “has ¢ peanut . creased by 35-50 per cent during the past year and shortages . have occurred in these materials, : In, general, -peanut . butter . {manufacturers have always ' kept. large inventories, of raw — materials. -. Therefore,. prices remain stable until inventories have to be replenished: factory. prices then increase to reflect taw, .materlal: Teplacement costs: : Wholesale: prices‘. of peanut butler haveincreasedby . ~~ about 40 per cent since January =. 1973. while’ retail. prices have - “lagged behind. ~ - ‘The. consumer can’ expect continued “higher ‘retail prices - for peanut better until world _ shortages of peanuts, » peanut oil; and sugar can be overcome by. increased production of these commodities. PUNCH LINE . ‘ OF THE WEEK ‘You'Re GREAT, “MOTHER WAS ‘PROUO WHEN JUNIOR WAS MOST “TRYING” STUDENT Ih! CLASS. . Chinese and Canadian Foods For. Take Out Service Phone 635-6184 Shan Yan Restaurant “Where the customer is: King”. " “Across from the Co-op A point of major concernis . the number of deaths, by ac- cidents and violence of Indian children and young adults. 87 percent of all deaths in children 1-16 years of age and 65 per CHRISTMAS SEALS FIGHT LUNG DISEASE PLEASE USE. “There has been a marked. Dr; Butler sald. ‘Nearly half of Medical Services Branch ‘J _ |CHRISTMAS SEALS Dollar for dollar, feature for feature, the Datsun B210 “cent in the | 17-40 year age group were due -to “accidents and violence. © - -Non-Indians in British Columbia have similar high rates for these age groups, but in the Indian population 26.2 per cent of all deaths were due to aecidents and violence, where as it is only 10.6 per cent for non- Indians. ; It is estimated that aleohot was a contributing factor in 70, per cent of these deaths, Motor vehicle accidents, burns, and THE ng Wednesday, October W, 1974, PAGE 83 ~drowning ‘were the most common types of accidents. Dr, Butler's letter suggests possible methods of improving the situation, He advises that the chiefs and councillors of the various bands discuss the problems, then meet with Medical Services staff to decide remedial action, The purpose of the Medial Services Branch is to assist Canadian Indians and all residents of the Territories to have access to health services Health care of Indians improving — “similar to those of other Canadians. To accomplish this, the: Branch engages in four main activities; Health care and treatment services, public health services, involvement of Indians in the health care system; and provision of physical facilities. Headquarters of the Pacific Region is at 814 ‘Richards Street, Vancouver, Zone Directors and staff are situated in Victoria, Vancouver, Prince George and Prince Rupert. 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