Page 10, The Herald, Monday, October 16, 1978

A Rift Over Gifts

By Abigail Van Buren

© 1078 by Chicago Tribune-N.¥. News Synd. ine,

DEAR ABBY; Our daughter, 24, is being married to
a 2-year-old man who was married before. (No
children.) His marriage lasted less than two years.
This is our daughter’s first marriage.

The problem: we're giving our daughter a lovely
church wedding. The groom's parents (who are
socially very prominent) say they will attend, but they
prefer not to send any of their friends or relatives in-
vitations to the wedding. Their reason: “All of our
friends and relatives gave wedding presents to our son
just two years ago—and once is enough.”

Abby, what has our daughter to do with the wedding
gifts his first wife received? Do you think the groom's
parents have a right to cut down on the number of
lovely gifts our daughter will receive just because her
fiance was married before?

ANAHEIM

DEAR ANAHEIM: A wedding invitation is a bid for
one's presence—not presents. But if the parents of the
groom cheose not to send invitations for that—or any

IDearAbby,

DEAR ABBY: A girl signed “Under Age and Over
Developed” wrote, “Whoever said, ‘boys like good
girls,’ is crazy!” .

Well, she is dead wrong, I’m a 19-year-old male
college student, and when I go out with a girl, all I
éxpect is good company and nothing more. My
problem is getting girls to believe that there are a lot of
@uys like myself who are saving themselves for
marriage, They think I'm weird or gay or living in the
stone age.

If I thought that women were goed for sex only I
could save myself a lot of time and money by just
picking up a prostitute. Don’t get me wrong, Abby, I’m
not one of those holier-than-thou characters. I just
don't want all the guilt that goes with pre-marital sex.
And Ecertainly don't need torisk getting VD or causing
an accidenta) pregnancy. ;

Please keep telling girls (and boys) to keep their
standards high. I’m still old fashioned enough to want
the girl I marry to be a virgin, and I hope there are
some girls out there who appreciate the same kind of

guy. Sign me...
STILL CLEAN AT NINETEEN

DEAR STILL: There ore. And thanks for a
refreshing letter.

DEAR ABBY: I am a grown woman and I’m so

- ashamed of my problem I don't want to ask anybody

else, so I'm turning to you.
Tam never sure which fork or spoon touse when I am

ata fancy dinner. I usually wait tosee which utensil the.

others are using, then I follow suit, but I would like t
be sure myself. :

Can you help me?
DUMBATTHIRTY

DEAR THIRTY: Please don't call yourself ‘dumb.’
You are smart enough to ask.

Follow this simple rute: When silverware is lined up
on elther side of the plate, use the spoon (or fork) that
is on the outelde (farthest from the plate) first, and

-other reason—it’s their privilege.

work toward the plate.

What kind of day will
today be? To find out
what the stars say, read
the forecast given for
4 your birth sign.

ARIES
. (Mar. 21 to Apr. 20) Ng
noe Daydreaming could steal
eu time and cause the day to pass
without achievement. Apply
yourself and a project could be
a successfully concluded. .
— (Apr. 21 to May 1 O&g™
The odds are against suc

cess right now, so bide your
time effectively. Study
arguments, go over plans, get
ready to act when things look

right.
GEMINI L a
(May 22 to June 21)

Don’t let haste cause you to
- hurt the feelings of others. Be
ie especially sensitive to co
a worker. Avoid giving too
mary orders,

ANCER
(June 2 to July 23) ED

If you're alert and flexible,
you may discover a solution to
a problem that’s been nagging
you. Careful thoughts In-
dicated.

panne

Frances Drake

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wise to consider carefully.
You could be making a serious
mistake.

VIRGO

(Aug, 24 to Sept. 23) "P ‘Eh,
‘Wait for the proper moment

before you uncover a new and

revolutionary plan. More

research may be needed to

launch your idea.

LIBRA

(Sept. 24 to Oct, 23) £5
The odds are against you in

making a major decision just
now. If yue postpone action for
a few days, things will go
better.

SCORPIO
(Oct, 24 to Nov. 22) At

Be sure that you'll be pleased

tae

{Nov. 23 to Dec. 21) ot al
Avold excesses or you'll pay

for them midweek, Wind up all

jobs at hand and be ready for

the next assignmen

t.

CAPRICORN
(Dec. 2 to Jan. 20) WS Tee

Good feelings reign today.
Plan a gathering of close
friends and relatives. You
should have something im-
portant to celebrate soon.

Horoscope

AQUARIUS
(Jan. 21 to Feb. 19) an

Marrieds will enjoy a period
of contentment; singles will
move toward a more per-
manent and lasting
relationship.

PISCES 5 4
(Feb. 20 to Mar. 20)

Let competitors know that
you are in charge. Stick up for
your athievements and don't
hesitate to take credit where
deserved

YOU BORN TODAY have a
deep respect for the past and
cherish the heritage your
family has down to
you. Your love of beauty has a
strong influence on all you do.
Muasile, art and the theater are

posalble careera, although you —

would do well in business,
politics,or diplomacy. An
audience brings out the best in
you a and you area excellent
public apeaker. Writing might
provide an outlet for your
many creative talents, as
could acting. Despite your
outward assurance,
you are a basically shy per-
son, and you treasure your
privacy. Birthdate of: Angela
Lansbury, actress.

©1976 King Features Syndicate, Inc.

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