Page 6, The Herald, Monday, November 5, 1979

Second Chance
At Virginity?

By Abigail Van Buren

1979 by Chicago Trbune-N ¥ News Synd Inc

DEAR ABBY: 1 lost my virginity twice, Once when | was
15, and again when I was 18,

lam getting married next month, and the guy I'm marry-
ing doesn't know anything aboul Guy Na. | and Guy No. 2.
Bul I suppose alter we're married I will have some explain:
ing to do.

I hate to lie, but if he asks me who the other guys were,
should I tell him?

WORRIED IN GHIFFIN, GA.

DEAR WORRIED: I didn't know there was a lost-and-
found department for virginity. But if he hasn't found that
you lost it, twice, why tell him?

DEAR ABBY: I've often seen letters in your column from
people who have suffered “the silent treatment.” This is
something I know a lot about because my father used to pull
this on my mother and me. It went on [or years.

Finally, when I was in my late Leens, it happened again, I
didn't have any idea what I had done to displease him. This
time, instead of my usual begging, “Please, Daddy. tell me
what you're angry about," I decided nut Lo go along with this
kind of blackmail.

If he chose not to talk to me, that was his privilege. | nade
ahsolutely no effort to re-establish communication, He sulk-
ed for about two weeks, then finally broke the ice by
stirting a conversation.

After Lhat, he never used this “silent treatment” device
on me again. But he continued to use it on my mother
because she would practically get down an her knees and
beg him to tell her what she did wrong. (Phat wis HER
chaice.!

The silent treatment is an adult version of a child's
temper tantrum, and the only way todeal with it is to ignore
it.

HEEN THERE IN GALVESTON

DEAR BEEN THERE: Where there is total silence, no
progress can be made in righting wrongs or settling
disputes.

Apropos of prolonged silences: it has been my observation
that it’s the more mature party who breaks the silence.

DEAR ABBY: You wrote, concerning men who talk about
sex all the time, that “Those who CAN do, and Lhase who
CAN'T, talk about it.”

That sure didn't apply to my late husband. He was a morn-
ing, noon and night man-seven days a week! He always
came home for the noon hour, then again at 5 p.m. on the dat,
so] never suspected a thing when he talked about his “other
girls,’ which he did constantly.

Nat until he was 60 did learn that he'd been known at the
office as a chaser for 30 years! At 65 I caught hini with
another woman who boldly said, “If you took cate of your
husband’s needs at home, he wouldn't have to go
elsewhere.” (He had told her I was frigid! 1 couldn't believe
it. I started laughing, and haven't stopped yel. Meanwhile |
was exhausted trying to keep up with him!

No, I didn't divorce him, After that, [ just tald him tp stay
downtown for Juneh. Abby, | loved that man until the day he
died. He was 76, He never slowed up, and never stopped
chasing, and never slopped lalking about sex, either. 1] just

had to Lell you that not all men who talk about sex are only —

talkers, Some are doers. Al least mint was. as

BOTH AT RESTIN ABILENE, TEXAS

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Your Individual
Horoscope |

Frances Drake :
ARIES

(Mar. 21 to Apr. 19) W-% :

Advice you receive now may ,
be misleading. Use extra
creative push in the work
area. Talks with close ones
are constructive.

TAURUS
(Apr. 20 to May on) Ohare

Erratic trends re finances. -
Be careful in money dealings
with others, though a new-
work project should lead to
increased revenues,

GEMINI
(May 21 to June 20) Ii
Though entertainments

should go as planned, there is
a confusing note to part-
nership affairs. Protect.
nerves and health in the p.m. ;
CANCER
(June 21 to July 2) EP
Keep your guardup at work.
Escapism and daydreaming
should not be indutged in, The
privacy you seek will be found
at home base.

uly 23 to Aug. an) ocean

You may be unsure of a
romantic interest's intentions.
Laok into clubs yau might join.
Speak up at community
functions,

VIRGO A
(Aug. 23 to Sept. 22) we

Alert family members to the
possibility of business calls.
Someone could forget to pass
on important information.
LIBRA
(Sept. 23 to Oct. oo) 5%

Others may seem evasive or
non-committal. Keep in touch
with teachers and advisers,
but check costs before,
finalizing agreements.
SCORPIO
(Ocl. 23 to Nov. 21) Mae .

Deceptive trends affect:
business and financial

-dealings. You'll make better

progress by working behind
the scenes. Friends are
helpful.
SAGITTARIUS .
{Nov. 22 to Dec. 211 astced
Be honest with yourself
about a relationship. Seek
advice about a career
problem. Social trends are.
lively — surprises likely.
CAPRICORN ot
(Dec. 22 to Jan. 19) V0 i
If in doubt about a work
project, consult = with
superiors. Co-workers may be
on edge. Seek loans,
scholarships and credit.
AQUARIUS BY
(Jan, 20 to Feb. 19) 26
All may not be as it appears
in a social-romantic situation,
Consult with partners re joint
assets. Refrain from mixing
business with pleasure, °
PISCES rd
{Feb. 19 to Mar. 2u) KE
Don't let work problems
cause difficulty at home. A
good time to seek loans re
property, Lend a helping hand
to a close ally.

YOU BORN TODAY work
well with groups and could
achieve a _ position of
leadership in that capacity.
You like businesses allied with
the arts and can also succeed
in Lheater.

ERMAN

“That stove should be in a war museum.”

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