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Abstinence Makes .
Heart Grow Fonder?

By Abigail Van Buren

© 1979 by Chicago TribuneN.¥, News Synd. Ing,

DEAR ABBY: I don't have'a problem, but my friend sug-
gested | write for a consultation on what she thinks is a most

unusual situation. She couldn't believe it when I told her |

‘that my husband and I have been happily married for nine

years and have never consummated our marriage. 1

1am a physician who prefers to practice in the United-

States, and my husband is a career officer in a foreign
military service, based abroad, 3,000 miles away. We ar

both‘in our 30s, We see each other only three times a year. -

for a week ata time. We knew how little time we would have
together, but married anyway because we truly love each
other.

We express our love by hugging and kissing, but always
stop short of completing the act of love because we agree it's
easier to live in total abstinence than open ourselves. up to
‘nsufferable frustrations during oir long separations: :

We are a well-adjusted, heterosexual couple without

arganie dysfunctions or psychological hang-ups: We are liv-

ng proof that a sexless marriage can be fulfilling. Some may
chink we're weird. Perhaps you do. . te ,

My irlend insisted that I get a préseription from Dear
Abby. However, 1 don’t think there's anything wrong that
needs fixing, What is your opinion? .

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tor. But if you and your hushand sre totally fulfilled in a sex-
lese marriage, I agree—there's nothing that needs fixing. |
can only wish you continued abstinence, because if you ever

find out what you've been missing, you may kill yourself.

‘DEAR ABBY: My husband and are fit tobe tied! Our son
is also angry. My sister says we are making something out of
nothing. Here is the situation:

My sister’s daughter will be married soon. It will be 4
semi-large affair. Our older son (30) and his wife received an
invitation to attend the wedding. ;

Our youngest son (26) is unmarried and presently living
with us. He did not receive a separate invitation. Inatead,
my husband and i received an invitation addressed to MR.
AND MRS. JOHN SMITH AND SON.

My son also feels that he should be allowed to bring a .
* date, Who is right and who is wrong?

girlfriend, he should not dig up a “date” for the occasion.

DEAR ‘ABBY: Here's a suggestion for CAN'T SLEEP,
whose conscience is bothering her aver -the neglect of her
elderly motherly, recently deceased, _

Go to the nearest nursing home and “adopt” a “mother.”
Do for her what you wish you had done for your own mother.
What enormous pleasure a drive in the country, a small gift,
or even a few fresh flowers would mean.to an elderly
“forgotten-by-family" resident in a nursing home. Hf you
pan't take her out, you can go and visit with her and let her.
reminisce awhile. You will gain a lot. 1 know. I've tried it and

it works. Sign me... a :
. CAN SLEEP IN MINNEAPOLIS

Getting married? Whether you want a formal church:

wedding or a siaple do-yaur-own-thing ceremony, get
Abby's new hookiet, “How to Have a Lovely -
Send $1 and a long, stamped (28 cents) self-addressed:
envelope to Abby: 132 Lasky Drive, Beverly Hills, Calif,

1

DOING FINE WITHOUT. .
DEAR DUING FINE: Yours is a most unusual case, doc:

8, -

DEAR J.S.: As anadult, your son should have been senta
separate invitation. However, unless he has a steady ©

“Wold

Horoscope

oo Frances Drake <———

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| ARIES

(Mar, 21

: Not a me for careless
judgment re joint ex-
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family member may have two
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co-workers. Stick to facts and

_ Avoid misund
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No sense throwing
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re entertaluments. Tha trend: .
judgment and ex- —

is to bad
travagance.

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cause you to ignore a family
member's feelings. Show your .
concern or an argument could
suddenly surface,

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"the AMAZING SPIDER MAN

‘possible, Don't jump to con-
‘clusions or leave things to
‘chance. Careful
needed to‘avold mistakes
(Sept..23 to Oct, 22) EOS

A social function could
cause you to overspend..

Extravagant want

to join in the merriment. Be

protect! Ne of finances _

(Oct. 23 to Nov. 21) Meme
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with. superiors. Listen:

carefully and: don't assume

anything. Some agitation ‘in. -

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attention to others’ advice
‘ now. Someone at a distance
exaggerates the picture, More!
thought needed re travel.

(Dec. 22 to Jan. 19)

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Don't entrust others with |

important responsibilities. If
you want the {job done
correctly, you're better off
doing it yourself, : ;
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