Stop the food fight Most. of us remember our parents telling us we couldn't leave the table until we’d cleaned our plates. We thought, at the time, thal this food-fight was just that - :. fight about food. In fact, it was a battle for control. When we finally did clean our plates our parents thought they had won. ‘But in fact, we did. We had found a way lo control mom and dad, . We had found a way to get attention by being ~ brats. -In her wonderful book "How to - Get. Your Kid To Eat..But Not Too Much", Ellyn Satter, a regis- ~ tered dietitian, humorously ex- ~ plores the issue’of control around _ food and redefines the feeding re- lationship . between parent and child. 'Satier’s “golden mule" is that parents are responsible for decid- , - ing what, where, and when a fam- . ily’ eats, --Fesponsible for how much they and children are will eat, and even whether or not . they will eat at all. This is a strange concept for ' parents. We feel that refusing to eat cooked vegelabies can’t pos- - sibly be healthy for our growing * tykes. And because we think we ~ know better, we mistakenly exert our control. ~The truth is the child knows _ better - at least about how hungry _he is that day, or whether her taste buds likes that food. What parents do know more about is _ the timing of meais and snacks, “and the nutritional content of them. Let’s look at a typical scenario, handled Satter’s way. : It’s'dinnertlme. Mom, dad, and siblings are-all happily munching away and setting a good example. -. But junior is refusing to eat any- : thing. and claiming he’s not ‘hungry. The siblings sigh, know- ~ “Ing that junior-will get all the at- ~ + tention again tonight ***.Mom and dad usually sigh, but this time it will be different. In- "stead of pleading with junior, : they decide to make a non-issue of his behaviour. They ask him - “once - to eat! When he shouts | . "no," the food is left on his plete ~ forthe rest of dinner, then cleared (away ’. with’ “everyone's plates | A ee | untior is: hungry, but dad mly, says: that it will be snack . ~ time in-one hour. Junior regrets i Tot ‘eating - dinner even without -.any guilt cues “from mom and - dad. When snack time comes - he’s happy to eat well. - The next day, mom offers only “nutritious fruil for the afternoon snack, so that junior is hungry enough at supper time to settle down and cat well. His parents smile and talk to him during dinner, making no reference to his changed be- haviour, but treating him the same as the other siblings. Junior has just experienced his first real family meallime, and he enjoys the sense of belonging and ac- compHshment. This is a simple story, with simple rules. I certainly don’t cx- pect you to deal with feeding problems that easily, but the basic principles should remain the same. Offering nutritious foods at the same times every day (three meals and three snacks) gives a child an enormous sense -of security. She will feel so secure that food is available regularly, that she will listen to her body’s appetite for food rather than her parents’ feelings about how much or how little she should cat. Nutrition Notes | by Gerry Kasten During unpredictable growth — spuris or lags she will be able to take second - or half-helpings without worrying about being scolded. If she eats too little at her meal or snack, she knows that she can satisfy her hunger at the upcoming meal or snack, If she eats too much (maybe her favourite food was served), she might eat less than usual at the next meal or snack. It’s a simple theory that takes a little practice to put into effect, For help, get a copy of Satter’s & book. The author takes you from your child’s birth fo teenage years, and explains how to use the "golden rule" wisely at each stage of growth. You can order it at any bookstore by asking for In- temational Standard Book Num- ber 0-915950-83-9, Or enquire about her video "Feeding With Love and Good Sense" at your local Skeena Health Unit. NO. Pri iene Cc ACTION CANADA: ‘NETWORK ined P.0 Box 788, Torrace, BC, . , FOR ‘JOBS, JUSTICE - AND EQUALITY ay . eo Its called Nafta-the North American Free Trade us Agreement-and il will extend free trade to include Mexico If it's put into effect next year. Ifyou think the current free trade agreement is bed, wait until the Tories giva us Nafta. Considering that the average wage in Mexico is 62 cents an hour and its pub- ~ Hic services area pale shadow of ours, we're facing a far worse decline in our living standards than wo could ever imaging, And all because the Tories’ business friends think that our wage levels, labour rights, health and safety rules, pay equity, medicare end other social programs are unproductive, so thay have tobe discarded. | TERRACE RALLY - MAY 15th ' Participants to meet at the Carpenters Hall at 10:30 a.m. Walk to rally at the Bandshell (behind the library). FOR INFORMATION 635-6410 or 635-4939 stenid will diet SSOOESs “Our peaceful and prayerful commemorate - those pre-born Terrace * ghildren who are losing their oo lives through abortion. sections Bridge. SOOSSSSO Assemble - 1:30 pm: Life Chain-2to3pm_ | Assemble at Ferry Island. Life Chain will extend across both ) of the Skeena For more information call. 635-9359 : BABYSITTING Is AVAILABLE FOR CHILDREN UNDER 10. TERRACE PRO-LIFE EDUCATION ASSOCIATION JN., MAY 9, 1993 The Terrace Standard, Wednesday, May 5, 1993 - Page BS fe THE TERRACE FIGURE SKATING CLUB Extends Sincere Appreciation To The Following Businesses and People For Their Generosity Over The 1992/93 Season; For Their Patronage Of Figure Skating; and Especially For Helping Us Make “CARTOON CAPERS” So Successful BC Tel - Changes Total Hair Care - Cotton Co. - The Head Shed - Jeans North - Northern Drugs - Northern Light Studio - Westpoint Rentals - Joe of Joe’s Glass - Copperside Ill - All Seasons Sporting Goods - Flowers A La Carte - Alex Schulz - First Choice Travel - Canoe Figure Skating Club, Valemount - Terrace Interiors Ltd. - Alcan Smelters & Chemicals Ltd. - Eurocan Pulp ~~) - Miss Terrace 1992 Daria Johanson & Paper Co. - Wilkinson Business Machines - The Medical Clinic - Skeena Sawmills - Azorcan 1 Autobody Repair, Michael Talstra All West Glass Terrace Ltd, - Canada Safeway - City of Terrace Aquatic Centre - Terrace Co-operative Association - Dairy Queen Brazier Restaurant - McDonald's Restaurant - FW. Woolworth Co. Lid. - The Royal Bank of Canada - Overwaitea Foods - Tim Horton Donuts - Skeena Mall Administration - Spee Dee Printers & Stationers - Misty River Books - Video Stop - Uniquely Yours - Northern Motor Inn - Skeena Cellulose Inc., Terrace Operations - Nechako Northcoast Construction Services - Dr. J. R. Barnett - Fabric Boutique - Emerson Medical Clinic -. Columbia Auto House - Computer Accounting Services - D & E Electrical Ltd/ Northern Petro-Tec - | & C Enterprises Ltd, - ‘Jim McEwan Motors Ltd. - Premier Propane Inc. - Terrace Totem Ford Sales Ltd. - Ignas Contracting - All Star Shoes & Repair - ABC Plumbing & Heating Ltd. - Del Torgalson, Welding Instructor - NWCC and Jeff Beck - Mel Harrls - David Hull - Alphonse LeBlanc.- Gerry Normandeau - Bill Paulson - Mark Pongraca and Greg Weir - Jenny Green - Sandman Inn - Work Wear World - Wayside Grocery - Acklands Limited - Tolsec Canada Inc. - Rudon Enterprises - Totem Press Terrace Ltd. - Terrace Builders Centre - River ‘Industries (Terrace) Ltd. - Terrace Standard - Scott Blanes - Federal Business Development Bank ist Princess Jodi Coulter 2nd Princess Kari Allen Michelle LaCroix Gleny's George Terrace Kinsmen ae Glass Slipper Bridal Shoppe - Chantel Robertson © Tymoschuk Agencles Ltd, Michelle Nuyten CFTK/AM59 _ Dawn Thomsen Terrace Shopping Centre Nancy Guerin Terrace Elks Talesa Jane Wiebe Skeena Mall Lesley Robinson McDonald's Restaurant Corina Knott Skeena Valley Fence And an Extra Special Thank You to... Skeena Broadcasters | Air BC ~ Motorways - Skeena Cellulose Inc., (Port Edward Pulp Mill) Sheldon Roberts Dennis Lissimore Notice of | Annual General Meeting Terrace Figure Skating Club -(#0794) Wednesday, June 2, 1 993 Terrrace Public Library Basement 7:30 pm Everyone Welcome