Should Modest Teen Be Given Privacy? By Abigail Van Buren 9 1918 by Chicago Tribune-N.Y. News Synd. tne, DEAR ABBY: Thanks for your understanding reply to ‘that 13-year-old girl who said she nearly died of embarrassment when taking gang showers after gym. I hope her mother follows your advice and goes to the principal to demand some privacy for her daughter. I was raised to be modest, and showering with other girls was a terrible ordeal for me. I'm married now and have a child, and I'm still modest. FRESNO MOM DEAR MOM: Thdnks, but most of my mail on the shower problem said, “You're all wet!" Some samples: _DEAR ABBY: Instead of sympathizing with that shy girl, you should have encouraged her, to examine her reasons for being ashamed of her body. Your answer was kind, but dumb, If she ever marries, she'll be the type who undresses in the closet and can’t make love with the lights on. NO HANG-UPS IN HOLYOKE DEAR ABBY: I know exactly how that 13-year-old girl felt because I felt the same way, but it was worse for me because I was a boy! © Not only could I nct gang shower, I couldn't even atrip in front of other boys, so on gym days I wore my gym shorts under my pants, ~ , ; . I-should have faced the fact, that I had a problem and taken measures to overcome it in my youth, But I didn't, anid it hung on for 15 years. You should have advised that shy girl to get counseling. : _ CHICKEN DEAR ABBY: Good grief! Why did you give comfort to: that. young girl who wag ashamed of her body? If she doesn't get over it, between her natural instincts and her inhibitions, she's sure to wind up on a psychiatrist’s couch. Our kids were brought up in a nudist park, and they all have healthy attitudes about nudity and.sex. ' BODIES ARE BEAUTIFUL a - DEAR ABBY: I must disagree with your answer to the teenager who hated group showers. I, too, was terribly embarrassed’ when confronted wilh group showers in junior high. My mother wanted to go to school to defend my Fight to privacy, but I begged her not to because I was afraid the other kids would tease me if I got special treatment. Now I'm glad she didh’t go, because by the end of high school I overcame my feeling of “shame” about my _NOJ-ASHAMED OF ME a ca al - PEAR NOT: Let's hear frofn d"Niami‘reader who tell how the problem was solved’ at her school: DEAR. ABBY: There are always a few girls who are bashful about being seen naked in the shower, so our gym teacher lets us shower in our underwear. Then we change. ‘into dry underclothes in the toilet booth where there's complete privacy. . “LILY And one for the other side: DEAR ABBY: Nobody, boys or girls, should be forced to go naked in front of others. That's the trouble with this modern world, Everybody has become so bold and brazen they are letting it all hang out. It's disgusting! Ly : ASHEVILLE, N.C. ‘CONFIDENTIAL TO K. IN LOUISVILLE, KY: Don't believe everything you read. Everything that appears in print is not necessarily true.. Most prominent people choose not to sue for libel even though they have good % cause to. The reason Is obvious: One seldom comes out of a wrestling match with a skunk smelling like a rose. DEAR ABBY: For the last few years, our family has met at each other's homes for holiday dinners and we all bring something toward the dinner. When there are leftovers, should they remain at the home of the hostess? Or does the person who brought whatever is left over gat to take it home? Thanksgiving, Cousin Joa brought two bottles of vodka. The crowd drank only one and a half, so Joa grabbed the half battle and took it home with him. Was that proper? Cousin Marge brought a turkey. She kept remarking on -how “cheated” she felt because she wouldn’t have any leftovers. (There was a little turkey and dressing left over. Should the hostess have picked up the hint and told Marge she could take home the leftovers?} Please answer in the column. There must be others who have family dinners and want to know what to do about leftovers. : FAMILY DINNER DEAR FAMILY: Leftovers should be left with the host and/or hostess. If they want to share tham with the guests, it’s their option. And I think it’s tacky to take hone an open bottle of liquor or wine. DEAR ABBY: In your column, you urged mothers to tell | their school-age sone to ask the girls.to dance. You say, “Many girls. attend a school dance and aren't asked to dance even once!” . -_ Well, Abby, look at it from the boy’s point of view. It takes a lot of courage to ask a girl to dance when there's a 60-60 chance that you'll get turned down. It’s much safer to just. stand and watch. Til never forget my first high school dance, I walked - " clagr across the gymnasium floor to ask a 1 to dance with me, She turned me down and I was humiliated before my buddies as I walked back alone and took my place again in the’ stag line. Thope this explains why some boys lack the courage to dance, eakea git to dance ED IN MIRANDA DEAR ED: Thanks for presenting the boy's side of It. Girls, are you listening? If you're asked to dance, aceept—éven If he’s too short, too chubby or has pimples. (And if he's a lousy dancer, make the best of it. It’s only one dance.) RECOIL ESL DISLE ; N aot < nah _ Seer eas DOE METEL STIR OTLOP EL ALES SE AEE ETE BO REINO prescription services coe e ae cman 6 Pete SENET AIMEONE TEL 4117 Lakelse LAKELSE PHARMACY Giftware, Easter Candy, Cards and prompt x EDS ASA PDEA SILO ESTEE LAY EPL ED A EV FE PETE OR UHCI CECE CLI TELL UO LE LECCE UTIL LETTUCE DORE EEDTEEY ID “PTT sa Ne THE HERALD, Thursday, Aprii 13, 1978, PAGE 11 7 MMAI ACCUEIL 635-7263 ULSI STOIC ERD EZ DEEL oa enaannsie ines ba iti. the AMAZING SPIDER-MAN. THE SHOOTING OF THE SCENE THAT FINAL LE abana. Frances Drake Your Individual ~ Horoscope FOR FRIDAY, APRIL 14, 1978 . , . What kind of day will tomorrow he? To find out what the stars say, read the forecast given ‘for your birth Sign. - ARIES (Mar. 21 to Apr. 20) “Ye Not too much planetary help, bpt an alert person like yourself can always manipulate an “off” day into one that's both in- teresting and satisfying — often in an‘unexpected manner. TAURUS . (Apr. 21 to May 21) Siege This is a time for review — to find , missing links, details hidden to the casual eye, to change a course which is ob- viously leading to a dead end. Use accumulated’ knowledge. GEMINI . (May 22 to June 21) HE Your innate self-reliance and your ability to come back stronger after meeting and besting challenges will serve you well now. Think and judge with tolerance. CANCER. (June 22 to July 23) Te) Lunar influences stimulate your ambitions and incentives. This is no time for worry or doubt. You can accomplish a great deal if making the best use of your talents. QE LEO (July 24 to Aug. 23) Don’t make snap‘ decisions and don’t expect the ‘‘worst” — a tendency now. No matter how difficult your tasks, you can do a better job than you may think. Vik (Aug. 24 to Sept. 23) "PMy, Important now: common. sense, logical analysis and calm appraisal of all situations. Job and financial matters highly favored, but take no risks. LIBRA . (Sept. 24 to Oct. 23) ark Think carefully about shouldering new respon- sibilities. Even if you are willing, be sure you can share certain present duties with others, SCORPIO q Someone with “pull” could be _very useful if you take the initiative, SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 23 to Dec. 21) xg There may be a catch to a certain financial proposition. You'd do well to take the advice of an expert along such lines.. CAPRICORN Wie (Dec, 22 to Jan, 20) Your lucky day! Like a ‘bolt from the blue,’’ you may recelve an unexpected windfall: in the afternoon. ae fi AQUARIUS (Jan, 21 to Feb, 19) A chance to push your in- terests. Others can be won to your way of thinking easily and willingly now. — PISCES . (Feb. 20 to Mar, 20) HEX A meeting with an influential | person can now be arranged, . but it will he up to YOU to propose the time, date and place. YOU BORN-TODAY are a natural leader, with a penchant for introducing the unusual to ‘add novelty and increase public interest in a product or an en- deavor. You are extremely energetic and, being quite materialistic in your alms, are willing to work long and hard for the luxuries you desire. You usually achieve them, too, for your perseverance and determination are outstanding. You make friends easily, but sometimes lose them through overpossessiveness and bossiness, Try to curb these traits since they can also he liabilities in your business or profession, Your versatility is almost boundless, but the fields - in which you could succeed most notably include writing, the theater, painting, business management and finance. Birthdate of: James Branch Cabell, novelist; Sir’ John — (Og it to Nov. 22): Mae: Gielgud, Eng. dramatic actor; time:to use your “is : aggressiveness to the hilt: #* Julie Christle and Rod Steiger, film’ stars. - . 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