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To Put Off Wedding

By Abigail Van Buren

4 © 1978 by Chicago Tribune-N.Y. News Synd. Inc.

DEAR ABBY: I have a wonderful 18-year-old grandson I'll
eal] Sonny, who is going to marry an 18-year-old girl he's
khown two months!

Sonny was graduated from high school with honors, and
got job right away as an apprentice with a good company.

hey are sending him to school two nights a week. He makes

wages.

The girl he’s marrying had a baby four months ago by a
man who akipped the state. She and her baby are living with
her parents. Sonny had dated her only a few times when he
asked her to marry him. Her people grabbed on to him fast.
hired a hall and made-plans for the wedding which is coming
off in two weeks.

My grandson never smoked, drank or messed with girls.
He is an inexperienced kid, and I think he's being taken
advantage of.

How can I break them up? Not forever, but just long
enough for Sonny to get to know the girl better? It's all

happening too fast. .
ppening GRANDMA

DEAR GRANDMA: Where are Sonny's parenta? If he
has tone, and you are looking after him, enlist the help of a

miaister, doctor, or a trusted friend to help the boy realize -

the importance of a m commitment. (If Sonny has
parents, they should guide him.) If he’s not being taken
advantage of and sincerely loves the girl—accept her, and
hepe for the beat. a _

DEAR ABBY; I kept my mother in my home for nine
years. She is senile, babbles endlessly and messes the floor,
her clotht and her bed regularly, Wial a chore!

When [ told my sisters and brothers, who all live out of

town, that I wanted to put Mom in a nursing home, ya
should have heard the howl ;

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They reminded mé of how mather took care of me when]
was a helpless baby, now it was my turn to take care of her.

Abby, to compare a child with an elderly senile person is
ridiculous, .

A child can be diapered in publie ina stroller. An elderly
person cannot. ,

A child can be left in a playpen. An elderly person cannol.

A child learas and matures in time. An older person
becomes ‘worse. ‘ _— ot

It's easy to get a baby sitter, but just try to get someone
to stay with an old person. Even relatives won't help.

So I went out and found the cleanest nursing home I could
afford and took my mother there. I'said goodbye with tears
in my eyes to someone who didn't even know me.

Then I went home and started being a wife and mothe:
again. 1 thanked my husband for his willingness to pay for
the care of my mother, (It’s not cheap.

Then the letters started to come from my brothers and
sisters who had never kept Mom in their homes for one day.
They said, "YOU put Mom in a nursing home! How could
you?” .

Idon’t need an answer, Abby. I know I did the right thing.
I just had to get this off my chest. If you print this, I'll carry

it in my wallet forever. .
; HEAVY-HEARTEDIN NW.
DEAR HEAVY: Here's something for your wallet.
CONFIDENTIAL TO “ SHOULD 1?" No. Don't put him

on the spot by asking him to tell you in so many words.
When a boy stope calling a girl, he is ailently telling her that

‘it's all over. Accept it, and turn your attention eleewhere.

Ii you need help in writing letters of sympathy, con-
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what the stars say, read
the forecast given for
your birth sign.

ARIES
(Mar. 21 to Apr. 1 Ve
A really good day is at hand
if you can cut through the
complexities that are
you. Mainly, a
fresh approach will benefit
TAURUS |
(Apr. 21 to May 2) Oka”
A good day for social ac-
tivities, outdoors if the
weather is good or inslde if it
is not. An invitation accepted
could turn out to be especially

pleasant.

GEMINI ne

(May 22 to June 21)
Tensions appear to be

. Be grateful and in a
more relaxed atmosphere
stock of your position

Morning is unsettled, but
just devote yourself to chores
ao that by noon when the in-
fluences sre good, you can be

to better things.

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status ¢ of the relationship,
(Aug. 24 to Sept, 23) (Sy,
Someone approaches you
for advice and you really hit
the nail on the head. You will
be amazed at your own talent
for analyzing the situation.

LIBRA
(Sept. 24 to Oct, 23) news

Marriage is not always
smooth for a Libran, but right
now, you should really not
rock the boat in dealing with
Hed aid Sweetheart,

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(Oct. 24 to Nov. 22) Men

A good day for quiet
reflection on the present state
of your affairs. Discontent
Should abate, and good in-
fluences are in the offing.
SAGITTARIUS
(Nov. 23 to Dec, 21) xg

Neptune encourages you to
belleve a dream can come
true, but you have to put the
machinery in motion if it is to
be realized,

CAPRICORN What
(Dee, 22 to Jan, 20)

Routine plays a role in the
day, and trying to break it up
may result in offending those
closest -to you. Perhaps you
confuse duty with routine.
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(Jan. 21 to Feb. 19)

Clowning arcund breaks up
the day but be prepared for

. endowed with

an unexpected confrontation |

occurs,

PISCES .

(Feb. 20 to Mar. 20) HEY
An uphill battle is indicated

for 4 campaign to impress a

member of the opposite sex.

You will have trouble resisting

the challenge, however.

YOU BORN TODAY are
high ideals and
lofty ambitions; have the
stamina and persistence

needed to attain them: You" [° ~

are self-reliant, well-poised
and independent almost. to a
fault. Wherever you go, your
personality makes you the
center of attraction but, if for
some reason, someone else is
holding the spotlight, you tend
to pout; may even do
something bizarre to gain the
attentlen you crave. Try to
curb this form of egotism. You
have enough going for you to

be above such tactics. There -

are many fields in which you
could find a successful career,
notably: surgery, nursing, the
law, politics. You could also
attain eminence in any one of
the arts — as your leanings
and education dictate. Bir-
thdate of: Marcus A. Hanna,
Amer, ‘statesman; Anthony
Newley, actor,

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