Page 16, The Herald, Friday, October 20, 197A

DearAbby

DEAR ABBY: I am 24 and Larry is 29, and here is
my story: We moved in with Larry’s parents right
after we got married. (“Only until we find @ place of
our own,” he promised.) Well, it’s been five years, and
here I sit with two lovely children and a closet full of
unused wedding presents.

My in-laws are very nice, and some people think I’ve
got it easy with Larry's mother to do all the cooking,
and a built-in baby-sitter for the kids, but I'm
miserable, Larry's mother has her own way of doing
things, and ] help her as much as she lets me, but it’s
sill her house, not mine.

Every time the subject of moving comes up, Larry's
father says, “‘Why move and pay rent when you can
live here for free? We have plenty of room.” (It's true,
but I would rather have a place of my own.) Larry has
a good job and we can afford it.

The children are getting spoiled by their grand-
parents, and I'm getting fed up. Please help me.

TRAPPED IN ILLINOIS

DEAR TRAPPED: Face it, your husband is
reluctant to give up the comfort and security provided
by his parents. But if you don't insist that he cut the
cord and leave the nest, you will be living with them
indefinitely, Start a campaign now for your in-
dependence, (A suggested slogan: ‘A place to call
mine in '79!"")

DEAK ABBY: My hushand and I recently visited
some out-of-town friends we hadn't seen in years. We
wanted to stay at a motel but they wouldn't hear of it,
so we ended up staying with them, which was a big
mistake,

During our visit our hostess spent half her time doing
housework and cleaning up. ;

After each meal, out came the vacuum cleaner! She
was constantly mopping, scrubbing or polishing. As
soon as my husband dropped one ash in the ashtray,
she'd grab it and clean it. She ran around with a mop or
dust cloth in her hand all the time we were there.

| realize that cleanliness is next to Godliness, but she
wore us out just watching her clean up.

Her fussiness spoiled my vacation Are such actions

normal?
DIRTY DELORES

DEAR DELORES; No. Your hostess sounds like a
compulsive cleaner-upper. Although she may be a
meticulous housekeeper, that's not what hospitality is
all about. Hospltality is the art of making one’s guests
feel genuinely comfortable.

DEAR ABBY: By looking at me you wouldn't think T
had a problem in the world. I'm middle-age, attractive
and married te a beautiful guy (my age). He's hand-
sume, good-natured and generous. We're both healthy,
young at heart, and love a good time. We take fabulous
vacations (Hawaii, Switzerland, cruises) and we get
along great. I really love the guy and he loves me.

The problem: On weekends he takes me to dinner
and then ta a club for dancing. We both love to dance,
but as spon as we get there he starts looking around for
women without escorts. The pretty ones he asks to
dance. (He says he feels sorry for them.)

I’ve sat out plenty of dances while he dances up a
storm with these unescorted ladies.

Should [ let him dance to his heart's content while I
sit alone? Or should I give him a taste of his own
medicine and pick up the stag men to dance with?

HUMILIATED

DEAR HUMILIATED: Don't pick up any stags to
dance with or that will be the beginning of the end, Tell
your “generous, good-natured" guy that charity begins
at home. And lethim know you mean business!

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the AMAZING SPIDER-MAN By Stan Lee and John Romita

What kind of day will
today be? To find out
what the stars say, read
the forecast given for
your birth sign.

ARIES

(Mar. 21 to Apr. 20) eS
Don't doubt your ability to

cope. You're on top of things

and can grapple with business

and personal problem-

ssuccessfully. Not to worry.

TAURUS

(Apr. 21 to May 21) O&ca”

Don't settle fur what comes

easily. Put extra effort into
‘undertakings and, before the
week is out, you will score

brilliantly.

GEMINI
(May 22 to June 21) ne

A calm head is needed to
handle an unexpected crisig
and turn a bad situation to
your advantage in the long
ru.

CANCER :
(June 22 to July 23) VES

Your intuition is active
today, and you should heed
inner feelings, especially as
theypertain to a romantic
interest. Your thinking's on
the right track.

LEO
(July % to Aug. 23) WOE
Don't believe everything

Fraaces Drake

you hear about a former
love,Malicious gossip is
exaggerating a bastcally
innocent situation. Give the
benefit of the doubt.

VIRGO
(Aug, 24 to Sept. 23) MPS,
Romantic matters are
favored, but don't look for an
easy day where your job is
concerned. Unforeseen
problems complicatematters
— but they're solvable.

LIBRA

(Sept. 24 to Oct. 23) eS
Creative ability can bring

great suceess today. You have

important idea. Put it into

action, and stand by for

praise.

SCORPIO
(Oct. 24 to Nov. 22) Mane
An older person needs your
help but won’t ask for it. If you
can volunteer assistance in an
unobtrustive way, you can bea
friend in need.
SAGITTARIUS of Po
(Nov, 23 to Dec. 21)
Romance can not only cause
a great deal of excitement
today but can create problems
if you let your heart run away
with your head.
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(Dee, 22 to Jan, 20) Wiat'
Apply some extra effort
and, before the week is out,

you will be rewarded, This isa

good time to volunteer an

aauy service.

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You don't always listen to

those near and dear to you, but

if you do now you will hear

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love, Problems have to be

ironed out now before. they

multiply and cause major

trouble.

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an. uncanny ability to reason
things out, You are fascinated
by human behavior and would
rather study people than read
or watch TV. You have a keen
sense of the ridiculous and a
lively humor that engagea
everyone. You enjoy sports
and this could be a career or
avocation. Extremely
practical, you are willing to
invest time in long-term
projects. You could make a
name for yourself in law,
diplomacy, medicine, or the
arts, Birthdate: of Mickey
Mantle, baseball player;
Dr.Joyce Brothers,
psychologist.
©1918 King Features Syndicate. Inc.

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