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1 - The Terrace Standard, Wednesday, March 1,2006  ~ he

‘DUSTIN
QUEZADA

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What to do, what to do.

I’m always invigorated and full of ideas

ary, that feels like the “real” New Year for me.

ay

‘Then in January, I forget about September’ s

whims and find myself inspired by the long. dark-
blue nights and crisp, frozen air. I sit by my warm

woodstove, plotting and planning what I want to.

take on, what I want to learn, and what I want to do
next. I make resolutions, and ring in the ‘ ‘new” with
the best of them. .

- This week, I enjoyed a shivering with cold, daz-

ome ‘Labour Day weekend i in September,

"about things I’d like to do. I’ve often 2
‘commented that it’s September, not Jan-

zling with sun walk at Ferry Island and admired “
huge skeletons of trees’ usually submerged in the

river. I caught a whiff of approaching spring, its

thaw and rot,‘for just a moment at the warmest part”.
of a very.cold day. I visited’ baby lambs, so brand ,

new that they’d just done their first poop.

- And bang, there it was, that fired up feeling I get .

and arranging.

I need to think things over.a lot. I like to take
stock of where I’m at, to redefine’ plans for the
future, to appreciate my accomplishments, and to
kick myself in the butt every couple months or so.

Maybe it’s a. seasonal thing? That must be it, be-

cause come to think of it, I experiéncé similar urges

"to evaluate, celebrate and calibrate my life around

' “X,” finish “Y,” and start on “Z” that occasionally.

the end of June as well.

where I need to start planning, assessing, scheming,

“1 don’t feel any compulsion to |

actually DO allthe things! wanttodo.

| realize that it’s impossible actually,
but in having so many desires, |

often can (and do) accomplish quite
_ of a few of them.”

,

In the past, I’ve worried that my. tendency. to

scrutinize my life is a tad obsessive, but in recent.

years I’ve come to peace with it, and just enjoy it

for what it is: A passing fit of delirium that con-:

vinces me that I’m‘ going to actually accomplish ~

surprises me by coming true.

So this afternoon found me wanting to do a few”

things like (not in order of importance): Practice

* guitar daily. Get my greenhouse in early. Spend
more time praying. Walk everyday. Cook only -

whole grains. Complete some much talked about

jobs around the house. Continue reading a book or |

two a week. Learn Latin. Work out regularly. Play
more with my dog.. Clean my oven. Learn to use
my camera to its full capability. Write. snail mail

down debts. Start a savings account. Get over my
phone phobia and call my friends. Watch movies

_ (ok, more realistically, watch cartoons) to ‘re-learn
French. Adhere to a consistent writing schedule. |

Get my British Citizenship (well, at least look into
it). Learn how to use a forge and make something
interesting.

Some people might find the lists I make exhaust-
ing, or unrealistic; I find them encouraging and en-
ergizing. In fact, something that I just realized as I

- Started to write this, is that the doldrums, fatigue,
and itchy feelings of angst that ] sometimes suffer

go away when I stop ‘to re-think the directions I’m
heading off in. I think they’re markers that indicate

when I need to re- -evaluate what I’m doing or not.

doing.
I don’t feel 2 any compulsion | to actually DO all

the things I want to do. I realize that it’s impossible

actually, but in having so many desires, I often can
(and do) accomplish quite of a few of them. The

‘letters. Come up with a miracle solution for paying |

’ only “rule” I adhere to is. that I must be actively .

pursuing at least two goals with some regularity.
Even when. I feel I’ve accomplished zilch, my.

frequent re- -assessment encourages me — I’ve usu- |

ally done more than I credit myself for. And things

the next list. The very best part of my “system” is

‘undone, if still deemed important, can be carried to -

that I am never bored. Stressed for time occasion- .

ally; confused about what to do first — sure, off in
my own world when people try to talk to me some-
times, absolutely, but fever bored. ;

So yes, until June, I’m quite happy with my new
year’s plans. I hope that the warming weather, bud-
ding trees and shoots of new growing things cause
a profusion of ideas and plans to root in your mind.
And until something triggers another need to look
closer and re-arrange things again, enjoy whatever
it is you decide to tackle this spring! —

TERRACESTANDARD

lence j in their lives feel more at ease.

SHELLY HAYNES-Marrelli uses props to make children who have witnessed vio-

“SARAH A. ZIMMERMAN PHOTO

Program targets young
In cycle of violence

By DUSTIN QUEZADA

SINCE LATE last year. when the Ksan..

House Society began offering a counselling
program for children who have witnesséd
violence in their lives, it has become sadly
apparent to the woman administering it how
‘much the services were needed.

“There’s a very high demand,” said Shelly
Haynes-Marrelli. “The way it is right now, I
have a huge number of clients.”

For Haynes-Marrelli, who works part time

as both a children’s counsellor and Ksan’s-

women’s outreach worker, the demand has
had her exceeding the 17. 5 hours per week
allotted to her younger clients.

This despite the fact the program hasn’t
sought publicity, says Haynes-Marrelli, add-

. ing many of her clients are people’ already
" accessing services. “

“We knew we needed the services,’ ’ said
Haynes-Marrelli. “Te tells you what the de-
mand is.’

That demand often came from people | un-
able to access existing services in Kitimat

and Prince Rupert due to transportation bar- °

tiers.

Haynes-Marrelli said the local program, *
named ‘Exploring Healthy Relationships,

used the aforementioned models (including

offering free transportation) in establishing

the counselling services here available for
children aged 3 to 19

Clients receive one-on-one and group
counselling,. depending on their individual
‘ needs.

And Haynes- Martelli said most impor-

tantly the counselling is delivered in a safe
place — especially for the youngest ones.

- Older children are better able to express ;

themselves, said Haynes-Marrelli, but for
the younger ones the service is basically a
safe haven.

To that end, the counsellor’ s office is
filled with props — toys to make the children
feel at ease.

The counsellor, who has worked with
Ksan since 1992, says the effects on her cli-

ents also differ with their age.
.With the preschool aged ones, the chil-

‘dren might have affected sleep patterns, such

as nightmares or bed wetting, and a change .

in their eating habits, Haynes-Marrelli said,

while the older ones might resort to “acting

out behaviours,” such as using drugs.

“They use coping strategies that aren’t al-
ways healthy,” Haynes-Marrelli said. “It’s a
way to escape what’s happening at home.”

So clients are helped to develop safety

‘plans and healthy coping strategies.

“We're trying to have kids empower

themselves and be their own guide to foster -
independence,” added Haynes-Marrelli.

. Support and information on basic parent-"

: ing is also provided to mothers or supportive ,

adults during the healing process..

Haynes-Marrelli said some parents may ,

think a child has been negatively affected

through witnessing violence but don’ t know -

the extent of the effects.

Children over 13 can admit themselves to
the services.

However, all clients have to. be screened

says Haynes-Marrelli, often because of cus- .

tody and access issues between parents.
Haynes-Marrelli said. she typically sees

clients for up to six months depending upon |

how things at home are progressing. |
Regardless of the length she sees a cli-

ent, the goal for Haynes- -Marrelli ‘Temiains |
_ the same.

“Kids J met on the job 13 years ago are
now: coming back with their own kids,”
Haynes-Marrelli said. “How can we break

the generational cycle of violence? That i is

the goal.”
The program also offers school: based ed-

ucation activities focusing on prevention of -

violence.and Haynes-Marrelli said depend-

ing on funding Ksan would like again to of-

fer nine to 10-week group sessions for 6- to
12-year-olds it last held in 2004.

All Ksan House Society counselling and ~

support services are free. Call 635-2373 ext.
25. ; —

“Nightingale -
of the North”
comes alive»

- By DUSTIN QUEZADA
- figure on the East Coast.

- Myra Grimsley arrived.in Newfoundland from her native:

for her work in rural communities.

.. She was one of the first. group of out port nurses, who...

_ became a legend for performing a variety of medicalstasks,

~ by the governments of Canada and Britain.
Theatre Newfoundland Labrador. (TNL) commissioned

‘write a play based on the life of Bennett in 2000 and it pre-
miered.two years later at TNL’s 2002 Gros Morne ‘Theatre
‘Festival, oe ee
Since. then, Providence has played three seasons, at ‘the
' Gros. Morne Theatre Festival, toured six Canadian prov-.

~ inces, including a two-week run at the National ‘Arts Centre: mi
in Ottawa and the 2004 Magnetic North Theatre Festival i ‘in-,

- Edmonton, Alta.

the 2004 Edinburgh Fringé’ Festival (Traverse, Theatre) and

in Australia i in 2005 for the Ten Days on the Island Festival: . :

in. ‘Tasmania.

Fine Arts Theatre program in Corner Brook, Nfid.- .
Presented locally on Saturday, March 4 at 8 pt m. at it the

_Dr. R.E.M. Lee Theatre.

See Page B2 for ticket information.

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“Around Town _

Attention: singer/
songwriters .

songwriters from the Northwest area on Saturday, March 4.°

original material. To register, call 615- 3727 or e-mail cop
Permountainniusic monarch. net _ :

_ Terrace tummy gets -
-Olympic exposure. .

_ THREE TERRACE teens, and:a'cousin of one from Calgaty, _
appeared in major newspapers across Canada ‘last week ~

thanks to messages on their tummies on display ata winter
Olympics hockey game: *

Emily Bolin had “Terrace” - writin in ‘marker: on her stom- —
ach while Sylvie Giannelia had “B.C.” written ‘on hers at the

game featuring the Canadian women’s hockey team.

ing red maple leafs painted on their faces.

The four witnessed the Canadian squad defeat t their. Ital-,

“jan counterparts by a score of 16-0. .
Kate and Anna are au pairs in Switzerland while Sylvie
and Emily flew over to spend some time with them. oS

While the four had tickets to the game, they had no place. |

to spend the night, said Ruth Bolin, Emily’s mother. *
“So they spent the night in the train station,” she said.

a Showered |

‘ CAROLYN BENNETT, left; and Jan LeFrancois
stand in front of some of the many donated items —
’ gathered through a “shower” for the new transi-. -
tion house thrown Feb. 18 at the Family Place.
‘Organizers delivered two truckloads worth of
.[ - household items. DUSTIN QUEZADA PHOTO

THE TERRACE Concert Society brings to local audiences”
_an original Canadian play based on n the life of a legendary:

Tempting Providence is-a story of courage and: strength -
- told with simple elegance. British-trained nurse and midwife,

- London, England i in 1921 after hearing of the desperate, need. .

. from delivering babies to setting bones to extracting. teeth. -
“All this she did‘in all kinds of weather while. traveling by
». foot, horse, dogsled, boat along the 320-km rugged Northern .[
- Peninsula. ‘She was known throughout Newfoundland and «|

» Labrador as “Florence Nightingale of the North.”".) .
. Tempting, Providence is a wonderful, heart-felt portrayal :
of Nurse’ Bennett who has’ been honoured many times over

» Newfoundland playwright Robert Chafe to research and.~

_ Abroad the company has presented the’ play i in ‘the UK at.

‘The play-is directed by: J illian Keiley, winner of the 2004
-. Siminovitch Award for Directing, the largest prize for the- 7
| atre in Canada: , Z
_ , Tempting Providence: features Didi: Gillard. Rowlings t.
-: (Myra), Melanie Caines, Robert Thorne and Daryl Hopkins,. |"
‘all graduates of Sir Wilfred Grenfell College’s School of -

CAFENARA IS hosting an open mic’ featuring singer/..

This is an ‘opportunity to come out and. showcase: your ;

Kate Kolterman and Anna Morberg, a cousin:of ‘Kate's |
from Calgary, rounded out the Canadian connection by hav- ”

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