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SHEELAGH MEIKLEM

Weddings,
families
and more

UNE IS tradilicnally the month of

weddings. If you believe the adage

“Happy is the bride that the sun

shines on,’” you may want to post-
pone the ceremony this month!

For brave souls determined to press on regard-
less of bad weather, the library is a repository of
mountains of pertinent information.

The Coniplete Wedding Planner by Edith Gil-
bert, The Complete Wedding Book by Jill
Thomas, Emily Post’s Complete Book of Wed-
ding Etiquette are just a few of the books avail-
able.

The ultimate book is, of course, Martha
Stewart Weddings: fuil of marvelous pictures
and recipes, and designed to make all the plans
and ideas of ordinary folk seem completely in-
adequate.

Once the excitement of the ceremony is aver,
we are left with the resull —- a mate for life!
Avoiding Wedding After-Shock by Charlie
Michaels is a humourous approach to the task of
tailoring expectations to reality,

Every bride and groom should be given a
copy of John Gray’s book, Men are from Mars,
Women are from Venus.lt is a clear explanation
of the differences betwcen the genders and how
understanding and accepting the differences can
benefit the relationship.

The Good Marriage: How and Why Love
Lasts, by Judith Wallerstein and Sandra Blakes-
lee offers case histories of fifty happily married
couples. It’s about haw they overcome ob-
stacles, resolve conflict and keep love alive.

To. help with the latter pursuit, Gregory
Godek bas written two cute little books: 2007
Ways to be Romantic,and 1001 More Ways id
be Romantic, These books are full of sngges-
tions and hints to add zip to your marriage,
Wouldn’t you like to be surprised with a ticket
to Paris or blind-folded in the kitchen and fed
exolic food?

In case all of this has put you off
marriage for good we still have a book
for you! Successfully Single by Betty
Jane Wylie gives you sane and practi-
cal advice on learning to love living
alone.

Weddings create families, many different
Kinds of families. We have several books to
help children deal with changes in their family
Structure. Everything You Need to Know About
Step-Families by Bruce Glassman is a book for
elementary-school-aged children that covers the
topic very comprehensively.

A joyful approach to step-families for smaller
children is When We Married Gary by Anna
Grossnickle Hines. We are all Related is a chil-
dren’s celebration of family and cultural
herilage by students at G.T. Cunningham
Elementary School in Vancouver,

The evolution of family and how these
changes may affect us in the future is the sub-
ject of The Hite Report on the Family by Shere
Hite. Her extensive research left her with a
more optimistic outlook than David Popenoe in
his book Life Without Father, This is a fairly
grim prognosis for the future of the children of
today, the majority of whom are being raised
without much contact with Dad.

This is not a modern phenomenon: a magazine
article written in 1842 stated, ‘Paternal neglect
has become epidemic!’ Men need to be con-
vinced of the truth that being ‘‘married with
children” makes them more effective on the job
and brings a higher level of well-being.

Self-Counsel Press published a self-help
guide to change called Family Ties that Bind:
this book delves into all the ways that the family
of origin and your place in this family influence
your behaviour in relationships later on.

In case all of this has put you off marriage for
good we still have a book for you! Successfully
Single by Belty Jane Wylic gives you sazie and
practical advice on learning to love living alone,
Fortunately no one is ever truly alotic: we are all
part of the family of man. If you doubt that,
watch a video of the Oklahoma City bombings.
The grief and despair on the faces of the rescue
workers says it al],

For mystery lovers there is a domestic detec
tive called Jane Jeftry in a fun series of books
revolving around family life, her own and that
of her neighbourhood, A Farewell to Yarns, A
Quiche before Dying, aud Grime and Punish-
ment arc a few titles to watch for at the Terrace
Public Library!

Artwork h

WHEN YOU SEE teens with a
can of spray paint, looking
thoughtfully at a wall, the first
thing you'd normally think is,
“Just what we need. More
vandalism.”!

' Bul these teens weren’t spray-
ing graffiti on the wall. Instead
they were redecoraling the inside
of their school.

The school, formally called the
Lakelse Annex, is now known as
the Teen Leaming Centre —
TLC. It’s an altemate program for
students too young to attend the
other alternate school in the city
—— Lakelse Jr. High.

The ‘school’s been around for
about five years now, and has
been housed in the former Crea-
tive Options building on Park
Ave. for the last two years.

It typically has an enrollment of
about 15 students, ranging from
grade 8-10. se

And late last week native artist
Virginia Morgan offered to help
the students spruce up some of
the drab walls around ihe school.

Ste had been doing some sub-
stilute work at the school and
said, “the back wall was all bare
and I started dreaming, gee it
would be kind of neat to design
that wall.” ,

Teacher Todd Hollett and reha-
bilitation worker Tammy Fee
agreed with her,

So Morgan talked to the stu-
dents, and found out they were
just as enthusiastic about the pro-
ject as she was, ,

‘I came in and did a short les-
son on the basic shapes of North-
west coas! Indian art. Then I told
them to be creative and they just
went for it.”’

The students designed their own
shapes and symbols, then cut
them out of construction: paper.

Then they put a base coat of ,

speckled paint‘on the wail, then
spray painted the designs on top.
The final result was terrific.

“It really adds flavour to the
school,’’ says Fee.

But even more important than
the school’s fresh look was the
impact it had on ibe students.

The project fostered a real sense
of school spirit among students.

beeen rat e oe st ooh

PROSPER GREEN and Johanna Robinson pos
wall in the Teen Learning Centre. Their classmates

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transformed the interior of the school.

elps school spirit

y two designs they painted on a farmerly drab
also contributed designs, and the artwork has

And family members became in-
volved as well,

—**We’ve seen parents slop in
that we haven't seen all year,’’

of bike halmets,

HI A test of skill

CONSTABLES RUSS Sangster and Tim Alexander put stu-
dents at Uplands through their-paces during a bike rodeo last
week, Students had to traverse four courses — a straight line,
slalom, figure eight and a crosswalk scenario. Than the police
officers discussed bike safety, reflectors and the importance

says Holletl. That’s because the
Students were so excited they

in and seeing the artwork.

This outpouring of school spiril
comes at the end of the year, bul

‘talked their parents into coming  Hollett and Fee are hoping it will

carry through to next ycar.

It don’t come easy

By CRIS LEYKAUF
RESPONSIBILITY comes quick-
ly to today’s teens, Al Caledonia,
School counscllots estimate be-
Gveen 60 to 80 per cent of stu-
dents have part to full time jobs.

They juggle work with classes,
and worry about. having the
grades to get into university, And
then there’s choosing the right
courses in order to get a degree
thal will parlay into a decent job.
It’s tough, particularly now as
grade 12 students at Caledonia
face final exams.

‘They're under a lot of stress,””
admils teacher and counsellor
Robin McLoud. ‘‘This group
Seems more hopeless about what
they can accomplish and
change,’”’

“There’s nol as many prospects
out there,” says senior counsellor
Clayton Lioyd-Jones. He's been
at the school for about 20 years.
But he also adds that the added
stress high school students scem
lo be feeling is a symptom of the
increased stress across socicty,

“We have less disposable in-
come, everything seems to cost
nore, and there’s more demands
on your time,” says Lloyd-Jones.

As exam time drew nearer, and
the strain began to show I visited
an English Literature 12 class
taught by Robin McLoud to ask
students what they were feeling.

The vast majorily of students in
the course held part time jobs —
for spending money, to save for
universily, or just to have @ sepa-
tate identity Crom their parents,

But they couldn't claim their
jobs didn’t affect thelr school
work. The degree of the impact
depended on how understanding
the employer was, and how many
hours the student was willing to
work. ; a

In recent years Caledonia has
restructured its timetable in order
to offer courses at fixed, rather
than rotating times, 2

“We're iying to cater to those
working parl time and going to
school part time,’? says Lloyd-
Jones.

As final exams loom nearer,
some of the students in the Lit 12
course had arranged to get time
off for exams, but for others their
jobs were too important to risk
taking time off when their
employer said no.

“You can get fired from your
job, but you can’t get fired from
school,” pointed out one teen.
Missing a day of school wasn’t
that important, but a day of work?

“You can start feeling your job
is your first priority,’ admitted
another girl who frequently
worked till midnight at a local
reslaurant,

Most of those in the class were
planning to go onto some type of
post-secondary education.

I's our only chance to get a
decent job, said one student. “We
don’t have @ choice about going
to (post-secondary) school, |
resent thal, Il pisses me off”?

She was also bitter because she
was worried about how she
would pay for her education. ‘If
your parents don’t have money
you're screwed,’?

But another student disagreed,
“T don’t resent having to pay for
my education,” he said. “I. think
we should start becoming more
Tepsoisible for our education,”

“Does thal mean we should
start work when were 12 or 14
years old to start paying for our
educallon?’? asked another girl,

Regardiess of how hard they
work, it seemed that aside from
the students who knew exactly
what career they wanted, their
standard of living would never
equal their parents, .

“Tl never be able to afford all
the things my parents have,” said
another teen, ~ ae

There -were many nods of
agreement. ee