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Dr. Lamb © -

By Lawrence E, Lamb, M.D.

DEAR DR..LAMB — I'm
real upset. My daughter is

starting to college, and she is |

going te stay at a "co-ed"
dormitory, with boys, The
boys and the girls will be liv-
ing on the same floor. She
says ] am ald fashioned, but
Dr, Lamb, it doesn’t ‘take
much imagination to ess
what those kids will be doing.
I'm not too old to remember
how it was when | went to col-
lege. It was hard enough then
to control your passions with-
out tempting yourself that

a
hen | was in college and
Stayed in a dormitory, ve
even had to be home from
dates and the dorm locked by
10:30 on week nights. Now, it
seems like they are inviting
the wolf right Into the house
for the night,

I’ve tried to raise my
daughter to be a decent girl.
She has dated while in hi h

’. school, but £ don't think s

has gotten involved with sex.
Werhave been careful where
She goes and who she goes
wilh and made sure she kept
decent hours, Now, I'm just
sure she’ will be living with
people who have a free and,
easy, attitude about sex and
who-knows, she may get
pre nant or get some disease.
I Just don’t understand why
calleges allow things like that
to’ occur these days. Dr.
Lamb, am I right in worrying
about.my daughter? :
“DEAR READER - Of.
course, you are tight to Worry

’ about your daughter. Every
‘good mother is concerned

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about her children. Bul, you
may "be worrying about ‘the
wrong thing. With the good

_in that environment

sense of..values you have .
“this ‘leads to, becoming ‘in-

given your Cable to she will
probably | be able to. handle

erself very well in this en-
vironment. Co-ed dormitories
are not “sex-pads,.” Actually,
they are based on the idea
that men and women are in-
dividuals with much more to
their personalities than sex
alone. ‘

Men in girls’ =

“Men and women are goin
to have to’get along throug
life with eachother in a
meaningful society. To do
this it is important that they
learn to think of each ather as
individuals, not just in terms

of sex,
A recent study by ‘Dr,
Elizabeth Reid af Harvard

explored the effects of co-ed
living in college. She found
that.on the whole it was

beneficia) to personality de-

velopment.

She pointed out that the
college years are a time to
consolidate one's self-image
as an individual with per-
sonality and gender.

On the whole,,Dr. Reid's
studies point up what may be
one problem of our society,
the harmful effects of artiti-
cal isalation, in this case
isolation of-the sexes. It really
is rather sad to think (hat

‘either men or women must

isolate themselves from
meaningful friendships with
one halfof the people in their
society, except on asexual
level. -

Dr. Reid thinks. thal ‘the
one-sex dormitory which you
experienced in- your college
days results in it being much
easier for. women to form

friendships wilh other

women than il is with men.
No doubt (he same thing can
be said about men living in
men's dormitories. The
friendships between the girls
were more or less automatic

u
friendships with men were
not and required an effort ta
develop. This really ‘limited
friendships with men to those

based on romantic or sexual
relationships.

You can see what direction ©

valved with men only in a ra-
mantic setting without first,
or in some cases ever; devel-
oping a broader. friendship

based: 6n other equally im--

portant aspects af life.’

When the romantic glow or
the biological aspects wear
off, the woman may find (hat

UIC and you

Wilt Holiday Pay affect my ’ are all categorized as earnings.

“ @laim?

nemployment Insurance’.

. benefit:

b You must’be unemployed. *
-You must have an in-

erruption of earnings.

3. You must have enaugh
qualifying weeks of insurable
employment,

4, You should have your
Record of Employment. ,

If you have had, or kndw you
will have, seven or more con-
secutive calendar days of no
work and no pay (earnings) of
any kind, it‘is deemed that you.
have an -Anteiruption. of Enr-

nngs.

Holiday. pay, sick: pay, wage
loss indemnity payments, work-
men's compensation payments,
bonuses, severance pay, elt.

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While you are in recept of -
:To establish a claim for: “earnings”, such as. holiday
‘pay,. you cannot, have’an :in-
“terruption

of earnings. .
Therefore, holiday pay must be

. “ysed up" before an Unem-

ployment Insurance benefit.
commencement date for your -

claim can be established. .

Holiday pay is allocated to the
days of weeks immediately
following your date of unem-
ployment.

gross weekly wages or salary

immediately prior lo your :

_ tnemployment; e.g.

“Date of lay-off -, Friday;

November 5,
Date U.I. -claim filed:
Tuesday, November 19.00 *

.do

The allocation is -
made based on your regular

dorm =

she reaily doesn’t like the
man in the case, or-he.is not
the kind of person she can re-
late to as a friend. When this
occurs:after marriage, it is
litle wonder that the mar-
riage is in irauble.

he girls in Dr. Reid's.

study living in co-ed dorms
soon took friendships with
men for granted. In short,
they learned to think of men
as other human beings with a
personality independent of

eirg a sexual animal or a
source of romantic love. All-
of the girls had platonic men
friends just as t hey had girl
friends,

The gir! from the single sex
dorm tends to be self-con-
scious around men. But the
girl in the co-ed dorm learns
to know men as friends, and
they are as comfortable with
their platonic men friends as

they are with. their girl °

friends, Sex doesn’t get in the
way of being friends.’

Dr. Reid admits that the
girls in today's co-ed dorms
have. more sex - than’
yesterday's girl from the ane-
sex dormitories, but she

. points out that it is usually
men away fram the.

with
dorm they live in. There are,

however, some romances bet- -

ween. hoys and girls in the
same dorms. It is not a major
roblem. And, with the new
reedoms, it is: just possible
the girls would
more sexual activity anyway,
evan if they were from.a one-
sex dormitory. The dif-
ference would be the lack of
development .af casual rela-
tionships ar just good friends
with men. Dr. Reid does not
consider the habits of the ,
girls as promiscuous. She -
says when sex does occur it is
usually: with someone very
close to them i ina meaningful
way. :
- Dr. ‘Reid found - that the

* girls from co-ed. dorms didn't

have the same social
sure to date. They

res-
ated

- when they wanted to with-
someone they were in-
terested |in. She thinks the

Holiday pay received on lays, ore,

, off: $400 :
Regular weekly gross pay: -

200,

Holiday pay is equivalent to
$400 over 200 equals 2 weeks
earnings.

Holiay. pay is allocated as’
earnings Lo periad November 17 .

- November 20 (2 weeks).
Effective dale of claim. is
therefore post-daled to

December 1, instead of being .

November 17.

Waiting periad (no benefits
payable): Two weeks
December 1 - December 14.

First week Unemployment
Insurance benefit payable:
December 15-21,

Your local Unemployment
Insurarice office has trained,
well-qualified staff to help you.
Do not hesitale to use it’s
services, It ts there to assist in
answering your queries, to
assist in completing your ap-

plication, lo assist in explaining .

decisions and your rights and
obligations.

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way Lamb, in care of this newspa- _
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| _ Growing old.

It’s been so long

since we were young.
It’s beén go hard |

“this growing old. 3
“Remember when we =~
“played, together and *
-we fought and cried
until our mothers came.
We never ever had.

- to be on time at ail

_ because for ug oe
~\timé did not. exist,

.. it’s been’so hard

this growing up.

“Naw we're five and
“have to go to school.

by Debbie Therrien

es develop n more. é: security
their. own womanliness ‘in
this environment whether or
not’ they dale. In general
there is: ‘less anxiety. about
joys.

_. Another im ortant point
she makes is that it gives a
firl a chance to develop a

etter base for a concept of -
the differences between men *

and womer. Without this ex-
perience the girl's base to re-

tate to is limited to her im- --
mediate family. In the co-ed **

environment getting to really
know men as men indepen-
dent of the romantic glow,
she sees‘ many different pat-
terns of male behavior.
There ‘was’ an- added
benefit to the co-ed living.

The girls even gol along bet- .

ter with'ather girls. With-a
better understanding. and
basic emotional feeling’ for
the differences and the
similarities ‘of men. and

’ women and where she stood

in the scheme of things, she
was better equipped to have

good friendly relations with ©

people af both sexés..
Ina way you might learn to

think of co-ed dorms and tal, -

le eas a half-way station in

mth te ke ready to deal
with life happily involving
both men and women.

“Send your questions to Dr.

tation, New York, N.
10019.. For a-copy. of Dr.

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- need only two’ bottles for a

..// complete: bay.:.No_ vintage’

years to be concerned with; _

style!”

t

Lamb’s booklet.on impo- |

tence, send 50 cents to the
same address and ask for the
, “Impotence” booktet.

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Looking for an easy, ele-

.* gant, economical -angwer: to,

* Ventertaining at: that ““pauge
vin: -the day's occupations”
that’ is known ‘asthe ‘cock: |
itail.hiaur? dugt do.it Spanish’ ;

“Serve: Sherry: - ‘from
Spain and .‘'tapas,” “which

is -what- tite :Spanigrds: call

hors d' oeuvres: Tite iys

t's ‘an. ea: new
ocktail party.

basic’ Lypes, “fines”

wich are dey and “olorosos"

-all: Sherry from Spain ‘ia a.
‘blend of many. harv sta.

“Sherry may be. served at

room temperature, chilled,

. * or on-the-rovks; in the tradi: °

_ + fianal wine..glass.or in an _
old-fashioned glass.” 7

*. More,.end more. Amer

icans. are, opting: for this

fabled liquid of Spain’ as.
“a pre-dinner drink sa they
. can better savor their dinner .

wine,

The word “tapas” comes .
from the! custom’ in ont-. ..
door Spanish cafes of plac- - -

ing a small. saucer with an

assortinent- of. hars. d'aeu--

vres ‘on top” of the glass

to Protect the. wine, Cold!

‘tapas ‘couldn't be. simpler;

° they) are -ataplea -your pan-

r _try.is likely to yield--cheese,

“salted

almonds,
stuffed olives. For hat
tapas here are two easy-to-
make favorites,

“int .

pimiento °

each’ biscult. -Mix mayon:
nalse with Parmesan cheese
and dnion. Spoon some
of this: mixture aver the
ahrimp.' Sprinkle with ‘sesa:
‘me seeds,.Broil until golden
brown and bubbly,

: Olé Olives —
28 large pimiento stuffed
- olives
1A pound Cheddar cheese
1/2 pound sliced baton
Halve large - stuffed olives
lengthwise; Remove pimien-
_ tos and chop finely. Grate
cheese and mix with pik

'. mlentos, Stuff olives with:
“mixture. Presa two halves
together. Cut each bacon. ~

slice In half and fry on one

‘side (not crisp), Wrap olives:

_.with 1/2 bacon alice, cooked
alde in. Broil until crisp.
For a free booklei that

wil help you to become -

-an expert on Sherry from
Spain, send a stamped, self-
addressed envelope ta Sherry
Institute of Spain, 30 East
42nd Street,

N.Y, 10027,

New York,

THE HERALD, Wednesday, December 11, 1974, PAGE C3

your week ahead wy on.aw.omis

Forecast Perlod: December 15 to December 21

ARIES
Mar. 21 - Apr. 19

TAURUS
Apr. 20- May 20

GEMINI.
. May 21 - June 20

MOONCHILD
Jane Al - daly 22

LEO
duly 23 - Atig, 22

YIRGO
Aug. 23 - Sept. 22

LIBRA
Sept. 28.- Oct, 22
SCORPIO
Oct. 23 - Nov. 21
Shrimp Cheese Broil
1 package refrigerated SAGITTARIUS
> - bake-and-erve biscuits Nov. 22- Dee. 21
“+ 1 pound small shrimp,
_ °. ¢ooked, peeled and -

: deveined CAPRICORN’
1/2 cup mayonnaise Dee, 22+ Jan, 19
1/4 cup grated Parmesan | a

ssaspeons mal ‘aquarius:
2  Btemspoons minced Lenin sat 2 Feb is
. ‘Bake biscuits according to’
* direction on’ package. Cool
biscuits and split horizon” © sigepg :
~ tally. ‘Put several shrimp ‘on ":- 4519 - Mar. 20.

EE : again this year
g . '.  All-this..,
& ot is evidence
=) . of our foolish pride...

The Terrace Hotel Cordially Invites
Terrace & District Managers

And Secretaries To Their _

First Annual Mistletoe Luncheon

Friday Dec. 20°
12: 00 noon - 4: :00 p.m.

A Denti’ Smorpoabocrd Will Be Served,
‘Followed By Refreshments

Red D’ or
$4 0 each ©

. the heart, .

back home...
_ where ‘we may never be...again...

Indetisivencss on the’ part of someone in aus

* thority, might cause you unnecessary self-sner.

flee. Meaning? Don't rely on help, promised by
a superior’... go it on your ownt

Oulside pressures could force you ‘to do dt.
rational things. Make cerlain that You are,nat
manipulated by a friend's “gaol” advice, Also,
avold “pushiness" with the opposile sex.

Keep long term plans to yourself. Curb the
desire to take on an associate. Htuntly, any
help you receive at this time... will have
strings altached.

More than any other signin the Zodiac — you,
Moonchild, will be drawn to the holiday nos-
talgla. Much of the past wil’ enter your, life,
this week,

Good tidings are heading your way. It secms
as though, “lady tuck” will smile at most Leos.

Becoming involved in situations that might be
shady, is indicated, Stay in bounds while’ at-

tending social functions. Your relationship with -

the oppasite sex takes a strange twist.-

Personal mognetism and the ability’ to per-
auade, seems to be in-the scheme of things for
Libra, You'll have your own way, during this
comic cycle, *

Those under your sign, unattached, can Jook
forward {o preliminary. overtures; a new ro-

-Mnance is wailing In the wings. Qther Scorpios,

can expect an improvement in help ‘project.

You might be. at odds with. your superior or
boss. Take the philosophical attitude that: You
can’t beat city hall. Guard your words, .a scl-

- back js possible,

Through your own effort, you'll face _greater

-. (asks and pressures, Meet things ‘one by one”

and: keep on plugging. Long. delayed gains
should materialize, this week. -

Don't borrow an associate's personal property.
According to your chart, there's a possibility

,of you being neglectful ‘of sumcone .else’s be-
“longings. Actually, you're Prone to careless

ness. | .
No question about it, any halthearted" rele
tionship with the opposile sex |. , , will termi:
nate,.during this particular cosmic cycle, Many
persons will undergo a change in affairs of

Back home

Our house is empty...
cold and empty...
ne sounds of our children
no laughter :
ma no toys scattered about...
_a (1. the door is locked. *
~ windows boarded
- The only, tracks in the Snow
“are
my own...
' There'll be no snowmen ° cs
eo, bulit thera ea

‘By Jo-Anne J ohitzan ,