The 747 Air Cadets’ glider recentl -in time for some spring cruis sae iti raat emis ao yioeiens iepncre sca beemmnt i oninicemen aoe jaan oa Bar y returned from a complete refit, rebuild and paint job, just ing. Work on the glider was done by technicians at Photo by Ray Tremblay CFB Comox. - Teens and drinking - — continued from page 4 one who waits to get‘caught — under these circumstances some adjustment would have to be made, And finally, they agreed that ‘‘guilt trips’? are the most ‘cruel of punishments of all and they would avoid these, opting instead for good communication -and more lenient penalties for teens who tell all. Following is a brief summary of each, - . Andy says he wouldn’t give his children any reason to lie. ‘If they want to drink I can’t stop them. My parents have tried to stop me from doing things they don’t approve of and I can get around it if I want to — "and my kids could too.” He says that trying to stop kids is only inviting a fight and that’s a waste of time. But if you do decide to punish -. them, he says,it has to be effec- . - ‘tive. “If my parents say I’m grounded,’’ says Andy, ‘‘I just * walk out of the house. It’s not effective. It’s not going to stop me. I'd say, ‘If you’re not home by midnight the doors will be "locked. I’m going-to-bed and we “you'll be sleeping in the shed’. _ And it would happen.” Brenda says she would first: make sure her kids knew exactly what they could and couldn't do and explain the punishments if -. they disobeyed. “‘It’s completely _wnfair when rules get changed because of the mood of the parent,” she says. “I'd really -make it clear, I’d give them a lot of freedom. I’d let them go . where they wanted to go, but I'd -encourage them to tell me the “truth. And I’d tell them if they ‘ever needed me, or needed a ride home, they could phone me and they wouldn’t be in trouble. Cheryl's view is much the same. “‘I’d give my kid a lot more. ‘freedom ‘because then there’s no deception,” she ex- ‘plains. But she adds a twist of cher own, Should boys be given -more freedom than. girls? “I, resent my parents a lot, ‘she says, “They gave my brother a lot more freedom than they give me just because I'm a girl. I understand that to a degree, but I have no freedom at all.” ’ . Debbie agrees with keeping - the rules'simple and allowing a — -lot more freedom — but she also believes that discipline should be firm. ‘‘] would set down some really basic rules and I wouldn’t waiver from those rules for a moment. 1 wouldn’t say ‘One more chance’ because as soon as my. parents give me..one more. threat of any penalty, between chance I figure they’ll do the same the next time too — and usually it’s the truth, They just keep on giving me these dumb chances... they keep on wanting to trust me.” So how much ofa disciplinar- ian would she be? ‘‘I’d set the punishments,” she says. “‘If you ‘do this you’re grounded for a month. If you do that I'll never buy you another article of cloth- ing as long as you live in my house. If you do this you're living in the basement and I’m putting locks on all the doors -and windows, You can come up for.an hour and visit, but other than that you’re down in the basement.”’ Eddy would be a much more understanding parent. ‘‘I’d just want to know where they were going when I let them go out and Td tell them petore they went, ‘If you come home drunk, we'll deal with it when you get home.’ They'd be in trouble then, but not before they did something wrong,’ Many parents may smile a little when they think of their teen as a parent. But the answers they gave were honest and they were very serious. In effect they were probably describing, from their point of view, how they - would like their own parents to . deal with them. able concept. to learn. And who knows, maybe you have learned it from reading this, because the identity of the five teens have not been revealed and one of them could be your own. The only way to find out is through open communication, with no parent and child. But for the teens who may be reading this, Brenda’s father best summed up how difficult a job it is to be a parent. ‘‘When your child becomes a teenager,” he says, ‘‘you’ve never been there before so you have to go through a-sort of learning peri- od. And it’s. almost inevitable - that while: you’re learning, the kid is growing older, growing more trustworthy, more mature and. more able to handle situa- tions... and you’re always trying to catch up. “So it isn’t as though you can tell them how to do their job, because they’ Te all going to have to go through that learning pro- cess. And both the child and the parent have to be prepared to deal with it.” enRoute = Mother’s Day Special | ~G ‘saturday, May 13th & Sunday, May 14th FREE Corsage for Mom | with every Gas Fill-Up . | (All proceeds donated to Multiple Sclerosis.) And that’s an extremely valu-. i Totem Service (N & J Service Centre Ltd.) 4711 Lakelse Avenue, | ' Terrace, B.C. PETRO CANADA 635-4515 Terrace Review — Wednesiay, May 10, 1989 5 | - Multiple fundraisers _ - for Multiple Sclerosis. Terrace and Thornhill resi- © dents will have the opportunity this week to support research into a mystifying disease that affects an average of one in 500 British Columbians. It’s the Multiple Sclerosis So- ciety’s annual Carnation Cam-. paign from May 7-14, and vol- unteers selling carnations are set up in a number of locations in both communities. Selling price is a donation. -PetroCanada is also getting involved in this year’s campaign by offering free carnation cor- sages with every fill-up on Mothers’ Day, May 14. Petro- Can purchased the corsages from the MS Society as a dona- tion, The Terrace Pizza Hut outlet offered help in the campaign | this week by donating 50 cents . for every small pizza, $1 ‘for every medium pizza, and $1.50 for every large pizza they sell _ this week to the MS Society. MS affects the central nervous system of victims, producing destruction lesions in nerve tis- sue and the sheathing material that surrounds the nerves. Symptoms vary depending on where the lesions occur. They range from dizziness and bal- ance problems to partial paraly- - sis and loss of short-term memo- ry loss. Terrace MS Society represen- tative Doug McKay says the Carnation Campaign raised $7,200 in the Terrace-Thornhill area last year. Chamber launches local tourism awareness effort - Contributed by Eric Johanson - Tourist Appreciation Week in Canada is May 15 - 21, and the City of Terrace has proclaimed the same week as a kick-off to this year’s tourist season. The Terrace and District Chamber of Commerce is under- taking a public awareness cam- paign aimed at raising communi- ty appreciation of the value of _ tourism to our city. Businesses are also being encouraged ‘to support their. employees in at- tending the Super Host program ‘offered through the Chamber of Commerce. The first phase of our cam- paign is to enlist the students of _ Terrace to come up with a slogan —.a ‘‘catch phrase’”’ — that clearly states the communi- ty’s commitment and apprecia- tion of our tourists. It will be us- ed in our advertising, buttons for clerks, posters for retailers © . and will be a visible reminder to everyone that ‘‘tourists matter’’! Come on Terrace, help our tourists help us! Province of British Columbia Ministry of Forests The Honourable Dave Parker, Minister of Forests MLA — Skeena will officially open : the new Kalum Forest District office in a ceremony commencing at 2:00 p.m. Friday, May 12, 1989 You are cordially invited to attend. The facilities will be open from 1:00 to 4:00 p.m. for public inspection. G.F. Dodd, District Manager, Kalum Forest District Location: 200 - 5220 Keith, Avenue (B.C. Hydro Building) Terrace, British Columbia BC” ‘ag santsthY oF FOR We look forward with ptide for the opportunity to show you & our new establishment. pera ye Se aston d tases Flo Res 9 ree wee wr LT AI ty pina te yore, cain oro bere ae meren ty ha ee eee ae