TERRACE — A weekend: -workshop . ‘sponsored by. the ‘ Northwest ‘Counselling Centre, ‘Understanding Parent-Teen Relationships”’, dealt with many parenting concerns: and offered . some workable solutions. The six-hour session was based on - the fact that while most teens of- | fer. parents many pleasurable moments, they also introduce their fair share of conflict into a family. relationship that was ° once relatively simple, - The workshop began with teen development and their need | for parental understanding and support during times of conflict and stress. The discussion then ‘changed ‘its focus to the family unit and identified the rules, . responsibilities and relationships _ ofits members before zeroing in on the process of identifying and_ ‘resolving parent-teen conflicts. ‘The first step suggested was: RCMP warn public. of fraud scheme - Terrace RCMP are warning the public to be on the lookout - for a fraud scheme involving crooks who pose as bank man- agers.. , _ The con artists attempt to enlist the aid of unsuspecting dupes in. catching a supposedly. dishonest bank employee. The victim is asked to make a with- drawal from his or her account and deliver the cash to the fraud-: ulent. bank manager, who then keeps it as ‘‘evidence’’, The victim never sees the cash or “‘manager’”’ again. Cpl. Cann of the Terrace - - RCMP says the warning is part Looking for a | WORLITZER? Try a classified ad in “WHISTLER WINFIELD... and 87 more B.C. newspapers, All for just *159. * You can get blanket coverage of BC. with a-classified ad . 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They have on- ly to offer their assistatice and _ Support.and allow their teens to work out the solution: by . themselves. From this point, the focus ‘turned to values and the variety. of sources from which they - ‘come — the media, religion, school and parents themselves. Then ideas for getting your message across were explored: te eae ante ete SG EM yoni WEE Sil. et en thhnantancianatr geste Hian Me com Se ce ai ache ENE RHE NBS Ae OO 2 a ha ibe aM TE ENE PNR a SN Re AER URS AER ROAR AS te EE aol eR iE “Terrace Review Wednésday, Pebriay 1, ‘4989 11 COUNSELLORS HELP PARENTS AND TEENS GET ALONG | “communication and listening skills, using silence and ‘‘door openers’, ‘non-verbal messages and eye contact — and finally their opposites, “roadblocks to communication’’. Once these skills are put to use, the problem and its owner-— ship have been identified, and a process of ‘‘brainstorming”’ can ° create a long list of both realistic. and non-realistic solutions. These can then be evaluated to provide a final solution which is agreeable to everyone. Another area addressed by the workshop presenters was how to. IS SCNEC for parents only at 7:30 p.m. on achieve the results you want. In this regard, . praise and en- couragement were compared and it was found that one pro- vides far better results than the other. ‘‘Praising is to praise the worth of who they are,’’ ex- plains Lil Farkvam, ‘but to en- In the spring of 1988, Canada Post Corporation made an moran commitment to people living in rural areas of Canada: a promise , to make postal products and services more accessible to these - import tant communities. a By working with businesses j in 1 communities more and n more - pel outlets are now operated: by local merchants, resulting in more ~ accessible and more convenient t postal services than ever belore.. ~*~ Accessibility to our products and services has been dramatically : improved. 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