TERRACE — A weekend:

-workshop . ‘sponsored by. the
‘ Northwest ‘Counselling Centre,
‘Understanding Parent-Teen
Relationships”’, dealt with many

parenting concerns: and offered .

some workable solutions. The
six-hour session was based on

- the fact that while most teens of- |

fer. parents many pleasurable
moments, they also introduce

their fair share of conflict into a
family. relationship that was °

once relatively simple, -

The workshop began with
teen development and their need |

for parental understanding and

support during times of conflict

and stress. The discussion then

‘changed ‘its focus to the family
unit and identified the rules, .

responsibilities and relationships

_ ofits members before zeroing in
on the process of identifying and_

‘resolving parent-teen conflicts.

‘The first step suggested was:

RCMP warn public.
of fraud scheme

- Terrace RCMP are warning

the public to be on the lookout -

for a fraud scheme involving
crooks who pose as bank man-
agers.. ,

_ The con artists attempt to
enlist the aid of unsuspecting

dupes in. catching a supposedly.

dishonest bank employee. The
victim is asked to make a with-
drawal from his or her account
and deliver the cash to the fraud-:
ulent. bank manager, who then
keeps it as ‘‘evidence’’,

The victim never sees the cash
or “‘manager’”’ again.

Cpl. Cann of the Terrace -

- RCMP says the warning is part

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of a province-wide alert, but no

instances have been reported yet.

in the Northwest. ‘“They appear
to be moving up through the In-
terior right now,” he said.

«problem ownership”. Who

owns the problem? . The parent,
-teen, both — or is’ there really ;
‘any problem: at :ali? “It’s im-
portant to define who has the
problem,”’ says. counsellor Lynn -

Hughes, ‘‘so that when you sit

down to reconcile the conflict
you recognize who .owns it.”
“Once done, if it’s decided that
the teen. owns the problem,
“parents. must: understand‘ that
they don’t have to rush in to.
" “save” the child. They have on-
ly to offer their assistatice and
_ Support.and allow their teens to

work out the solution: by

. themselves.

From this point, the focus

‘turned to values and the variety.
of sources from which they -
‘come — the media, religion,

school and parents themselves.
Then ideas for getting your
message across were explored:

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“communication and listening
skills, using silence and ‘‘door
openers’, ‘non-verbal messages
and eye contact — and finally
their opposites, “roadblocks to
communication’’.

Once these skills are put to

use, the problem and its owner-—

ship have been identified, and a

process of ‘‘brainstorming”’ can °

create a long list of both realistic.
and non-realistic solutions.
These can then be evaluated to
provide a final solution which is
agreeable to everyone.

Another area addressed by the

workshop presenters was how to. IS SCNEC
for parents only at 7:30 p.m. on

achieve the results you want. In
this regard, . praise and en-

couragement were compared

and it was found that one pro-

vides far better results than the

other. ‘‘Praising is to praise the
worth of who they are,’’ ex-

plains Lil Farkvam, ‘but to en-

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courage is to encourage their ac-
tions — and this helps the per-
son ‘to continue «the. effort
they’ve put in.” «

The workshop was a worth
while introduction to Northwest.
Counselling’s next set of work-.-

‘shops, ‘‘Assertiveness Training

for Teens’’. This will consist-of a.

series of five, two-hour sessions

in the Northwest Counselling

‘Centre “Group Room’? begin-

ning at 3:30 p.m. on Monday,
Feb. 13. Future sessions will be
held each Monday at the ‘same
time and in the same location.
A special session is scheduled

Feb.13: This séssion is designed

to allow parents to meet
facilitators and become familiar

with the program. It will also be
useful for parents who want to.
support and help their teen prac-
tice their newly learned: skills.

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