His Last Letter
Was First Class

By Abigail Van Buren

% 1979 py Chicago Tribune N.Y. News Synd. inc.

DEAR ABBY: I'm sitting here on the plane reading the
letter in your column about the son who didn't want to put
his father up temporarily because he felt his father’s visit
would be an invasion of his privacy.

That item caught my eye because I am on my way to visit
my son in Omaha for two weeks—at his insistence. I was
reluctant to do so initially because I fell [ might be interfer-
ing with his personal activities.

1 wonder if the son who wrote that letter ever gave a
thought to the privacy his ‘father might have forfeited dur-
ing his son's time at home? '

There were times during my children’s lives when, given
my druthers, I'd have preferred some alternative activity,
bul now I don't regret ane minute of the time [ spent with
them. I’m only sorry it couldn't have been more. Their time
al home seems to have been so brief. .

] won't mail this, of course, since [ realize you will receive
thousands of more articulate letlers on the above. This is
just my way of

DEAR ABBY: My father died suddenly of a heart attack,
and this unfinished lette~ was in his pocket. My wife and I
will miss him very much. Sign this...

“A SON WHO REALLY WANTED HIS DAD TO COME.”
WILLIAM SMZYK, OMAHA, NEBR.

DEAR ABBY: My husband is 33 but sometimes acts like a
child. He refuses te shave or comb his hair on weekends,
thinks deodorants are for women, walks around barefoot,
slurps his coffee, blows on his food, cracks his knuckles, and
when he belehes he never says, "Excuse me.”

We've been married for seven years and he seems to get
more gross every year, - .
Lam fairly: neat and well-mannered, When [ try to correct

him, he blows up and picks a fight with me. He wasn't this
way whenk.mapried him. What shall I do? .
rie san obs auncissd ANGRY IN SAN MATEO’ ‘

DEAR ANGRY: How you “correct” him is important.
Take one offense at atime, explaining that his slovenlineas
offends you and his rudeness hurts and irritates you. ;

When you attack a man, he'll instinctively either try to
defend himself or counter-attack, Anger generates anger.
Love generates love. Think about it. .

DEAR ABBY: Thank you for printing the letter from the
16-year-old girl who had recently undergone a hyslereclomy
as a result of gonorrhea. So many people believe gonorrhea -
is a minor infection that's easily detected and quickly cured.

Like the girl who wrote to you, 1 wasn'La (sleep-arpund”

i typeteither.'I ‘had only one’ boyfriend, Biit even, though he
“RNB W'HeWas infected, and Had'seen his doctor. tor treat?!
ment. he didn’t mention it to me, My doctor misdiagnosed
“my symptoms, and even though [ was 24, I was naive and
uninformed, which resulled in my having a hysterectomy,
too. I'm still single, but ] plan some day to adopt because [
want a family. ; ,

Please keep warning your readers of the consequences
(and symptoms) of VD, This letter is sincere, but please
forgive me for not signing my name.

A READER’

DEAR READER: VD is still a serious epidemic. Anyone
reading this (regardless of age} who suspects that he (or she)
has ft'shodld phone the VD hotline (toll-free) 800-523-1885.
All questions will be answered by trained persons, and
you'll be told where ta get an examination and treatment
free! ‘

CONFIDENTIAL TO “ALL CONFUSED IN
SATELLITE BEACH, FLA.”: Don't mistake that “ringing”
in yours eara with wedding bells, When a man tells you to
date other guys, it usually means that he wants to date
other girls.

Your Individual
Horoscope

Frances Drake
ARIES
(Mar, 21 to Apr. 1 VS

Partnerships are on your
mind, but you may not agree
upon how to share your time
together. Be flexible in the
name of togetherness. ~
TAURUS —

(Apr. 20 to May 20) 6

Romantic interest in you
from one at a distance. Don’t
take on too many tasks at
present. Be thorough in what
you do, ;
GEMINI n a
(May 21 to June 20)

Don't neglect domestic
obligations in the pursuit of
good times, The accent is on
tenderness _in close
relationships. Be responsive.
CANCER
(June 21 to July 22) BED

Don't be impulsive
making decisions re a
domestic matter. Weigh
alternatives. Don’t downplay
the opinions of others. Listen.
LEO

- (July 23 to Aug. 09) Ieee

Listen carefully,
misunderstandings re money.
If careless with details,

_ Mistakes possible. Accept an
invite from a co-worker.
VIRGO
(Aug. 23 to Sept. 22) WPS,

Impulsive spending a
temptation. Save cash for
essential items. A party at
home has romantic overtones.
Be considerate of others.
LIBRA
(Sept, 23 to Oct, 22) ALF

Trying to escape problems
won't work. Find out what's

bothering you. Include family
_ya@Dembers in plans. Show
 gonsideration for the elderly.
SCORPIO .
(Oct. 23 to Nov. 21) Mae

You may be aggravated
with a friend, Don’t wait for
another time. Speak of your
grievance, and the issue will
be settled favorably.
SAGITTARIUS v7, re
(Nov,, 22 to Dee, 21)

Don't overextend yourself.
Too many social engagements

onyouy.-falendar may, find you...
+ 3, gate for;gome appointments or

~ out of sorts,
CAPRICORN lav
(Dec. 22 to Jan. 19) W
A call fromm you will lift the
spirits of a shut-in, Career
Progress indicated, but avoid
disputes with associates or

advisers. .

AQUARIUS -

(Jan. 20 to Feb. 18) ae Gi
A planned trip may have to

be revised if arrangements

prove too costly, Under the

influence of a friend, you could

be led astray,
HEX

PISCES

(Feb. 19 to Mar. 20)
Disputes re joint assets will

work themselves out by day's

end. A social occasion finds

you the recipient of com-

pliments.

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Avoid .

HEDMAN

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"You must be erazy, driving 800 miles in one day."

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