Page 18, The ilerald, Wednesday, December 13, 1978

Dear Abby

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DEAR ABBY: Now I've heard everything. Our
lawyer son plans to marry a young woman lawyer. But
instead of her taking our son’s name, HE is going to
change HIS name to HERS! They plan to set up a law
office together as ‘Blank and Blank.” (The blank
being her maiden name.)

I asked them what name their children would have,
and they said they'd deal with that if and when it came
up!

My question is: What about perpetuating our family
name? He is our only son, and if he doesn’t pass our
name on tohis children that will be the end of the line.
Do you blameus for feeling hurt and upset?

; BURNING INSAN DIEGO

DEAR BURNING: Appeal his decision to let her
wear the shingle in the family. Plead your case again.
He has the right to change his name, but you have the
right to try to change his mind.

DEAR ABBY: I would appreciate a published reply .

to my problem so that others who share it will benefit.
I recently underwent surgery for the removal of a

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tumor which proved to be malignant. I have every
reason to believe that the surgeon removed every trace
of the tumor and that there will be no recurrence,
Because most people think every cancer victim is
“terminal,” I choose not to mention it in connection
with my surgery. I don’t want to worry my friends and
family, nor could 1 tolerate their constant inquiries
about my condition,

My problem is what to tell those well-intentioned
friends who ask, ‘‘Was it malignant?”

Idon't want tolie, But if E tell the truth, I know they'll
worry even though I try to reassure them.

I feel that I have the right to keep the details of my
personal life private. Bear in mind, these people mean
well, so I wouldn't want to hurt them with a snappish or
rude reply. But what should I say?

MRS. X.

DEAR MRS, X.: Say, ''Time will tell." That's the
truth,

DEAR ABBY: ] ama38-year-old legal secretary and

I don’t mind telling you I feel plenty foolish writing to .

Dear Abby, but here goes:

T still live with my mother. Mum is 54, divorced, in

good health and does part-time work when she feels
like it. She drives her own car and has no money
worries. Mum makes no effort to make friends of her
own, but expects me to Include her in everything I do,

lf I make plans without her she pouts and wan't
speak to me for days. She also Inds something wrong
with every man who shows an interest inme.

IT would like to move into a place of my own, but my
mother does a guilt number on me every time I bring it
up. She accuses me of being ungrateful and selfish.
(She raised me alone, having divorced Dad when I was
5.)

1 do Jove her and [ am grateful, but I've got to start
living my own life!

What do you suggest?

SMOTHERED IN CLEVELAND

DEAR SMOTHERED: For openers, find an apart-
ment and tell your mother you're moving. Then move,
You will be doing yourself and your mother a favor,
When she realizes she must cultivate a social ilfe of her
own, she'll make the effort—bat not until.

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Answer to yesterday's puzzle.

By Stan Lee and John Romita

from a counselor or extra
thankin ig on your part,
TAUR!

(Apr. 29 to May 20) Odea?

Though your financtal
prospects improve, it will be
difficult to receive
cooperation from others in
business dealings. Protect
assets. .
GEMINI I ey
(May 21 to June 20)

You'll have difficulty in
getting others to understand
your views. Do your part by
foregoing evasive or elusive
behavior.

CANCER ‘
(June 21 to July 22) ECP

The job front may be full of
aggravations now and there
seems to he no escape, Attend
to duty, but try tc minimize
stress.

LEO .
(July 23 to Aug. 2 EEK

Tt may be difficult to get a
straight answer from a close

LIBRA
(Sept, 23 to Oct. yf OS early today, as later;.
Be around happy people problems in other areas of life:
today, but keep your own could bog you down.
counsel, as confusion and YOU BORN TODAY are
tikely tp aeean are all too both practical and artistic but
SCORPIO : have some difficulty recon-
(Oct, 23 to Nov. 21) ML AN —ciling these two aspects of
It may be hard to get to the your nature. it the practical
root of the matter re financial wins out, you'd do well in real

complications, It may be that

no one knows what's really

going on.

SAGITTARIUS

(Nov. 22 to Dec. 21)
Though everyone agrees to

cooperate in the a.m., little in

fact may be actually ac-
complished. Ee realistic re
partnerships.
APRICORN
(Dec, 22 to Jan, 19) Wet
Your heart may not be in
today's work load, with the
result you may wish to get
away from it. Frustration
need not lead to escapism.

FOR WEDNESDAY, one. Read between the lines, AQUARIUS ~w
DECEMBER 18, 1978 but don't imagine things, Play (Jan. 20 to Feb. 16) +
wait and see. Partnership .accord is
VIRGO possible today, but be wary of
(Aug. 23 to Sept, 22) np friends who may get you in-
ARIES ym This is no time to bring volved in their problems, Club
(Mar. 21 to Apr. wo x office problems home with activities may disappoint.
e a iy W you, as le close to you , :
do more to help you solve that want you to pay attention to (Feb. 19 to Mar, 20) KEX
problem than either advice their needs, Keep cool, Plan toget household chores

or work-related duties done

estate, engineering, geology,
and the management of
estates. It is important that
you find pleasure in the work
you do, and for this reason,
you may succeed as writer,
poet, or musician. You may
also be drawn t9 a more
practical phase of art, like
dealing in antiques or
designing for the trade. Birth-
date of: Carlos Montoya,
musician; Drew Fearson,
columnist; Mary Todd Lin-
coln, wife of Abraham Lin-
coln.

©1978 King Features Syndicate, Inc.

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